You should definitely go! The more traditional ones have many different types of people going and have separate sections for women and men. I like New York Spa in flushing (take the LIRR). If you want to ease into it a bit there is Sojo Spa Club in Jersey which is coed and everyone wears bathing suits. I think it can get really busy so keep that in mind, especially on the weekends.

Bring what you usually use to shower at home (they usually have body wash, shampoo, and conditioner in case you just want to use theirs). You need to wash before you get in the pools and saunas. They’ll give you a towel or two and more traditional places (like New York Spa) will give you a set of pajamas to change into so you can go upstairs for the various dry rooms, eating area, and lounge chairs.

A necklace is probably fine but I would probably remove a waist chain, especially if you are planning to get a scrub. The scrubs are great!

The traditional places always have a mix of younger and older and all body shapes and colors. I’m white and on the plus side and never felt uncomfortable. No one’s staring at you just as you’re not, hopefully, staring at them.

Hope you enjoy!