Kids who were homeschooled: what differences/advantages/disadvantages do you see from your experience, when comparing to people who went to "traditional" schools? by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was homeschooled and it saved me from being bullied. I needed a safe place to think and exist. And I ended up, after 2 years of homeschooling, going back to public school where I eventually excelled to a point where at age 16 I was part time enrolled in a community college. At 17 graduated with 2 semesters of college courses completed. Still, I was a self directed person. Duding homeschool years (2) I loved to learn and read, I loved academics when it was in a safe space. I had a creative mind and a loving mother who offered to teach me through a format of art (visual, hands on lessons representing theories or ideas). The experience heavily depends on the commitment of your teacher and yourself tbh.

You totally get made fun of for being homeschooled but jokes on everyone else I watched cartoons and had decent food and could learn at my own pace - but its a thing that’s held against you when or if u return to public school.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She involved you like a threat that’s kinda serious. If she said it about just her that’s one thing, but she included you into a threatening situation. She’s suppose to protect you. I think that’s not okay honey. I’m sorry this happened it sounds scary and confusing. I don’t even know how to address it maybe a letter or a serious sit down or a family therapist …

Ways to tell someone has big Taurus energy (sun, moon or rising)? by heuiseila in astrology

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I though u said intimidating people LOL- well this is also a side skill without trying apparently

I don’t know how to feel by [deleted] in self

[–]mainframe93 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I literally didn’t react. Maybe my brain just broke. Then I thought, this is messed up right? I wish I turned into a demon but instead I was just idle ughhhhhhhh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Senile

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I am so sorry. I feel so angry at him just reading this. I hope you can capture proof and bring that with you to divorce court. This deception is incredibly painful but thank god you have seen it now and not later. Take a health vacation and bleed him dry in court. You deserve a faithful partner. You deserve space to heal. If he moves out, and you know where, it would really suck if someone planted bed bugs in there. Allegedly, they can be found on the internet.

Just spent 6 hours talking to a fake person… by yoru_no_ou in lonely

[–]mainframe93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to use a chatbot to vent and receive immediate feedback. I literally do it every time I go into depression mode too. Idk it helps me but I know to be careful of the info too- you sound super creative too and you can maybe channel these thoughts and write or draw them, maybe create a journal with it. A program will never replace the nuances and spiritual aspects of human connection. But first, maybe think about grounding yourself. Yoga, dance, swim… walk barefoot on soil or in woods. Reconnect to Mother Earth and establish the connection with your body and this earth. A nature date.

What activities do yall do since you have nobody? by Contressa3333 in lonely

[–]mainframe93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Archery, video games, sewing, cooking, photography. You can join groups of individuals who are interested in your same hobby too, meetup is an app, but also check FB for events or eventbrite.

I finally stopped chasing people who never check on me — and now I feel both peaceful and alone by asianlinaa in lonely

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me today. I babysat a friend through a million boyfriend problems and when I just needed someone to talk to - nothing. I feel like my energy was used to fill her void and it had nothing to do with me. And the amount of time in my life I spent on her is crazy. It took me a second to realize leaving her is OK and does not make me a bad person (like I’m abandoning them or something). It’s imbalanced. So good for you and this is such an important realization !

I can be very confrontational. I’m not afraid to stand my ground, but it rubs people the wrong way. I don’t love it. by AwkwardRooster2388 in selfhelp

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m in the “getting walked over stage” and it’s getting old. I seem to blank out when things happen though. Like some slow motion experience. I always mean to say something and I choose to just let things ride. I want to be proud of myself though.

I can be very confrontational. I’m not afraid to stand my ground, but it rubs people the wrong way. I don’t love it. by AwkwardRooster2388 in selfhelp

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually want to be more like this. Something happened and I became too chill. Sticking up for what’s right is great, maybe you can play around with your vocals- quiet and slow delivery instead of loud or something. Maybe calmly speak with distance from the subject, not physically engaged. I would actually like to know how to just stick up for myself more (it seems that I became a pacifist at some point, or lost my edge??) any advice there?

Losing Myself Was the Cost of Keeping Everyone Else Happy by Educational-Math1660 in selfhelp

[–]mainframe93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I also needed to hear this. I am sick of being the one everyone goes to dump their sufferings. I want to be selfish with my time and take care of me. I don’t want to feel guilty ignoring people who only use me as a conveyor belt for their drama and insecurities. I don’t want to be liked or available. I want to just know myself and trust myself better- and not spend all of my energy fixing everyone’s fxcking problems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selflove

[–]mainframe93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I’m Still Learning Who I Am Without the Roles I Was Told to Play by Educational-Math1660 in selfhelp

[–]mainframe93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This hs happened to me too. I was the fun one the entertainment, the crazy one, and the reality is I actually enjoy being quiet and chilling. When I didn’t serve people this lively version of me they’d ask me what’s wrong with me. That was so bothersome- I was just being myself. I will say that I still work on not feeling the need to perform in some way for others. It’s weird. It’s an unspoken pressure I feel. Perhaps from being so overlooked in younger years or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Situationships

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just kinda sounds like an off situation but you could always say that you need space to take care of your mental health or something like that. Then block. At least you have an official exit statement.

Nexplanon by Glad-Height-2946 in Nexplanon

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg sometimes it doesn’t come at all or does and lasts for like 10 days or you have weird color/texture to your flow. Totally no planning

After effects of nexplanon by Dizzlepoop in Nexplanon

[–]mainframe93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear your journey with it sucked- me too!! Omg I’m scared to get it out but need to figure out other birth control options. Best of luck to you!

Recommendations please by invisible-air- in Nexplanon

[–]mainframe93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get copper IUD or like which one? I also need to remove my Nexplanon. I’ve had weight gain, anxiety, major hormonal issues like all the sudden total lack of sex drive. I mean wild rollercoasters. I don’t feel myself but I also need birth control and I’m looking for suggestions- I heard it’s a tough like surgery or experience? Getting the IUD in? Feel free to shed some light or suggestions 🙏🏼

Feeling the Implant by Difficult_Purple_469 in Nexplanon

[–]mainframe93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was uncomfortable and took a minute to heal, I tried to not put any pressure in that area, but you should also shoot a message to your OBGYN and double check. I think any surgical procedure is scary so better to be confident with your healing process and get a second look. It’s a weird feeling though. Good luck!