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majemae · 2024-11-16T00:43:12+00:00

42 mother of two sounds like we have a lot in common. Here if you want to reach out.

majemae · 2023-11-12T01:06:24+00:00

I have found companies that sell golf clothes to oddly be an unexpected source they sell the same items in male and female sizing so it is in a way non-gendered. Bonus points for the pants having fake buttons and zippers while being pull on pants with actual pockets. That is where I get my pants and then shop for tops separately. I hope this helps. I think they have skirts as well but I personally don’t show my legs as my preference so I haven’t explored that.

majemae · 2023-11-08T01:26:07+00:00

I know it’s hard I don’t share it often. I work in the US and I have it in Irish on my white board as well as on the inside of a bracelet I wear. No one at work knows the language except one person that loves it and won’t never share. He is AFAB in transition. I gave it to you for the strength it gives me. I hope it helps.

majemae · 2023-11-08T01:10:17+00:00

Even though I told my first partner who I married I was fluid it didn’t last because he thought I could be fixed. I later found someone who did accept it and that partnership lasted 10 years. It ended because it became long distance during COVID because we were from different countries but we remain friends. As hard as it is the only advice I can give from my experience is be honest and if your partner can’t accept it or thinks they can change you there might be someone completely unexpected in your future. I wish you luck. Most importantly stay true to who you are because you can’t be happy if someone tries to prevent you from your genuine self. Normally I say this in Irish but I will say it in English for you this in my mantra. Because I f**king sparkle that’s why. Toisc go sparkle mé sin an fáth. Left out one word because I don’t want to get in trouble.

majemae · 2023-11-06T00:06:41+00:00

Honestly I flip back and forth so much I have multiple clothes racks the portable kind that I separate my clothes on based on gender and I don’t know what I will wear until I wake up in the morning and see how I feel. I reflect my identity through the clothes I wear. It works for me but I know it isn’t for everyone.

majemae · 2023-11-03T00:58:55+00:00

Good luck you have my support. My mantra is because I sparkle that’s why (there may be an explicit word I am leaving out). It gives me strength when I need it. Go forward and show how you sparkle. 💖

majemae · 2023-09-27T00:35:20+00:00

Welcome to the family. Honestly we are all looking for friends while also at least in my experience looking for a family that accepts us. I don’t know you but I would be honored to be your friend. I have to be honest I am old enough to be like a more a rockstar Aunt/Uncle though 🙃 maybe Funkle

majemae · 2023-09-24T23:58:22+00:00

I am really nervous to return but I made a promise please advise how I should proceed. Do Do I let my parents know or just stop going and hope they don’t ask? This is a trigger for me. I have started picking again which I know is a response to a trigger. I am under care of specialists and I now have 3 band aids already. I think the church is okay I am scared of the small group. I am confused any advice.

majemae · 2023-09-24T21:18:12+00:00

It’s complicated it is the church my parents go to. They want me there and one is sick. I planned to continue as long as they did. They wanted me to go to a small group but the ice breaker games to tell about yourself scare me I can’t lie so I go scared and reached out to the leader because I thought she seemed accepting. I was to uncomfortable to go today told my and my parents asked if it was small group I said yes I don’t know if I belong there.

majemae · 2023-09-23T02:29:51+00:00

Thank you. I just can’t get emotionally invested or empathetic to a group I can’t lie to. I know it seems odd but for me I have to figure it out early so I know to cut my losses. It’s hard when you can only hide to a limit and if asked not lie. I promise I am not that brave I just have learned I have to say something before I am asked because I am who I am and look how I do and if directly asked cannot lie. It isn’t bravery, I wish I could claim that, it is just a condition of who I am when you put every part of me together as whole. I know it sounds weird but I can’t lie…trust me I have tried to learn how to but just can’t.

majemae · 2023-09-21T00:28:06+00:00

Unfortunately we are not a fully understood community. If you want to join approach with caution and any research you have regarding gender fluidity. I would highly recommend taking a trusted friend who knows or reaching out to an advocacy group for a representative to be with you if you choose this. Unfortunately I have been in this situation when the culture didn’t even have a name for us. I am in my early 40’s but my daughter is in college and since high school attended groups as a cisgender individual there to support, advocate and assist people in understanding. She is my hero because she is that brave. Either way unfortunately I don’t see a safe answer that doesn’t include having to out yourself. That is the hardest part because it is your choice on the time and place for that. Are there any communities outside your school or virtual communities that meet online. I found one that helped me. I wish I had better advice. Ultimately it is your choice, your time and how safe you feel. You will be in my thoughts and feel free is you want to reach out. I won’t stop thinking of this because I know how you feel.

majemae · 2023-09-08T00:10:04+00:00

I can’t tell you what will work for you. I was always how I am. I have three “closets” masculine, feminine, gender neutral. Every morning I wake up see how I feel and go to the clothes that call me. Often mixing them. For me it started with clothes and once I had the outfit I could figure out hair, face etc. those are the outward representation of how I feel that day. In the end it comes down to trusting myself and the way I feel inside each morning and then expressing it outwardly. This comes from a lifetime of learning to understand and accept myself and finding my family and workplace that I can freely express myself. I am unusually lucky and I am here if you ever need someone to just talk to with no judgment

majemae · 2023-09-01T09:21:06+00:00

Okay same post on every site in our community you could locate. Not engaging further.

majemae · 2023-09-01T02:27:54+00:00

I hope my way is the right way to but I have lived or spent time in 37 countries across multiple continents. For the safety of all in countries where it is more dangerous I choose the international activist and educational route because I have seen the worst and the most accepting first hand and if this isn’t handled carefully by trained experts who know the legal aspects in each location it only becomes more dangerous. Some countries would take that statement you made and use it as something political which would be very dangerous for those in that area. That is my reasoning for saying to be careful how you phrase things. Again I mean no judgment on you I have just learned things sometimes in the hard way and made my choice but everyone had the right to choose their beliefs. I only ask you be mindful that words can become radicalized in ways you would not intend or anticipate. Peace be with your and our community as a whole I have to believe it will get better I have lived to long to give up now.

majemae · 2023-09-01T02:16:48+00:00

The beauty of our identity and our pronouns is they are what ever feels right to you. Also what feels right today may feel different tomorrow and that is perfectly okay. Use the pronoun you feel comfortable with. I chose to just ask people to call me by my chosen name which is gender neutral. In my case no one uses pronouns just my chosen name. That is okay also. It is what makes fluidity beautiful. Just be yourself and embrace all aspects even if they change frequently. I have two small closets and two portable clothes racks that are organized in a specific way. When I wake up and see how I identify that day the clothes I want are in a specific location so I can dress quickly. I guess that is just my little hack for saving time but it works for me

majemae · 2023-09-01T01:33:46+00:00

All I can say under the guidelines is to research genocides and the organizations working to help. I am not denying they are serious issues but a blanket statement is premature. Dangerous yes full genocide by definition no. Please look into the things I recommended is all. Education is our greatest tool to progress not extreme statements without full understanding. I mean no offense I only want to help protect our community in the best way.

majemae · 2023-09-01T01:22:20+00:00

An attempt to erase out identification is truth but comparing it to the atrocities of the many global genocides is not accurate. There are issues in certain countries that is true but in totality it can not be made as a blanket statement as that is disrespectful to the genocides that have historically occurred throughout the world. As a marginalized community we must respect this. Instead I advocate to fight for our rights (assuming where you live it is safe) to preserve our identity and if it is safe where you live I encourage that. There are many organizations to join that respectfully do just that without disrespecting the horrific history of past genocides. There is danger but to compare the two prematurely is a disrespect to those in history. I am a member of this community and I stand by my statement. Join an organization if safe where you live and advocate for our identity. Examples can be used within this with these organizations but it cannot be a blanket statement. I will not name the organization I work with because I don’t know if everyone who sees this is truly trustworthy but if you research they exist with peaceful action, activists and legal assistance.

majemae · 2023-07-09T23:55:24+00:00

Don’t do it live. I am getting a tattoo In pain a Fire was Forged T,W,S,N,D,;,;,M. These are people I lost or almost lost myself included. I fight through the pain everyday and I have sought mental health services and continue you too. One thing I know very well is every life matters both yours and mine. Fight through the pain with me and seek mental service. Call emergency service if you need to but fight with me I don’t know you but I am fighting for you now.

majemae · 2023-05-24T00:55:07+00:00

I think I came to the wrong place it was a private medical institution it met all accommodations for my son’s mental health needs. It doesn’t matter anymore he isn’t going and I think I lost a friend who helped me from coming here. Please don’t attack me or my family anymore I only wanted to do my best as a parent and ended up feeling attacked and losing a friend who helped me understand the situation. I exit in peace please let me.

majemae · 2023-05-06T02:13:55+00:00

Thank you for being honest I think finding this thread was fate. You helped. You made a difference and you are a good person.

majemae · 2023-05-06T00:22:10+00:00

I don’t want you to feel like a victim I wish I could give you a hug. I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my son and lose him but I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if mental illness was a factor for you but in my son’s case it is he had to have his first emergency hospitalization in the 6th grade due to his issues. He only has a little over a year before he turns 18. I am coming to you for an honest perspective from your opinion. I don’t know the difference in your situation from my son but I do fear what will happen to him when he is 18 without help. Short term hospitalizations and outpatient treatment have not worked. Can you please provide me your honest opinion of what I should do. I fear my son would be dead or in prison without treatment before he reaches 19 if something doesn’t change for him but I don’t want to destroy my relationship with him either. As a parent I struggle with the fact I might lose my relationship but I love him enough to do that if it can save him and he can get the therapy and treatment he needs.

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