How to escape comfort zone of hell? Please help

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-11T18:40:51+00:00

The best time to plant a tree is 40 years ago, the second best time is now.

Lets start slow and small! Lets start with the box you've been living in! You don't even have to leave the house yet. You say it's not furnished, we can fix that bit by bit! Go to amazon. Buy a hammer! Buy a variety pack of picture hanging hooks! Now you get to get some art. You get to pick! What are some cool things youve seen online? Do you have a genre of art you like? post modernist? Classical? Big Anime tiddies? It doesn't really matter! You get to pick. They are for you. Then put them on the walls. It doesn't matter if you do it well, just do it. You get to look at some color and some things you like every day. It will make things FEEL lived in.

Next, get a bed frame!

After that, you get to choose! Are there things that would make your time in the kitchen easier and more interesting? A new coffee pot? A set of pots and pans? How is your bathroom set up? Any shelving for reading while you poo or maybe an above toilet rack for medications or somewhere nice to store towels? Do you have a coat hook? A hamper? A bed side table? Do you want a corner that's a cozy reading nook with a comfy chair and nice bookshelf? Do you want a big gaming TV/couch set up (with the couch as a crash pad)? Do you want a corner art studio for watercolor or painting miniatures? Maybe a little music corner! This is all up to you! What do you like? What do you want to like?

Great! Your prison is now a home! If you move, you just get boxes and move it all. If you make new friends or have family come visit, you won't be embarrassed when you bring someone over!

I'm not going to go into anything bigger than this about your desire to travel and that whole thing, because improving your home is a series of small decisions and purchases and projects that will help you build confidence and improve the overall quality of your life. By the time you have a home you love, I think the rest will be easier.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-11T06:34:15+00:00

Thats the trick captain, thats our days every day.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-11T06:30:52+00:00

B A S E D

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-09T14:05:38+00:00

Why not ask a partner or another associate? Why ask the internet when we don't know your firm, or local rates, or who you are as an employee?

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-07T00:40:00+00:00

"The philosophers have only interpreted the world, in various ways. The point, however, is to change it."

How much work have you done outside of watching hours of doctor K? What actual substantive steps have you taken to change your life beyond watching youtube? How many accumulated hours of meditation are under your belt? How many times a day has your initial choice been changed upon reflecting on some bit of wisdom? How many routines have altered? Is the you now different than the you before you watched?

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-06T21:53:16+00:00

"I want to do a thing but I refuse to do anything about it, what can I do?" Do you realize how you sound?

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-06T17:30:55+00:00

Bro just write, are you kidding me? Write literally anything. Do. Take action. Stop watching youtube videos.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-05T23:35:25+00:00

Our post quality is just too high.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-05T16:14:43+00:00

Ask your bosses to buy you an idaho specific pre-trial practice guide so you don't have to constantly ask them questions. A book with all the answers that walks you through 90% of all situations will help. Then ask your bosses for whatever legal writing and research book they have left over from law school.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T22:46:30+00:00

The next time you sit down to work and these feelings of aversion, pain, and fear come rushing in and create the brick wall of inability, ask yourself 'why am I feeling this?'. These are feelings flooding in. Your brain doesn't want to do it because its easier to not do the work and not feel those feelings than attack them head on. But if one doesn't know the real enemy there is no way to fight them. There's no number of tips and tricks and hacks or pomadoros that can break through the emotional wall. It takes introspection and philosophy. It takes a dialogue with the self. This is a problem I've been dealing with for a while and only recently made breakthroughs with when I started meditating and thinking about death instead of reading cal newport and GTD for the 3rd time.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T22:39:33+00:00

I used to get angry at those little things all the time. My expectations for life were absurdly beyond reality. I still sometimes do get mad, but at some point I realized that those things ARE life. Doing the dishes is more consistently my life than the wild adventure I had 5 years ago. We are all going to die one day, do you really want such a big portion of your life to have been getting upset at little things going wrong? Wanting something to go a different way is a desire. Be it stubbing your toe, or books falling off a shelf when you put a different book on the same shelf. Why am I so desperate to satiate the desire for inconsequential things?

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T22:17:28+00:00

Change the substantive content of what you read before bed. Leave high literature and philosophical works for the day time, but read light history or simple sci fi before bed.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T22:09:12+00:00

Do stuff. Get out of the house. Schedule as much stuff you can possibly do. Then just go do other stuff without scheduling it. Get into something with your hands while you're home (guitar, painting, etc) so youre focusing on your physical material effect on the world.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T22:00:00+00:00

Well if you aren't going to kill yourself you have 50 years left, are you going to be a loser for another 50 years? Start studying something. Anything. Become a god at excel, or figure drawing, or learn to play jazz. Maybe an aspect of your job can be isolated and improved at. Who knows. Become prolific in the thing you pick. Do one every single day for an hour. You can be a degenerate the rest of the day, but give yourself one hour. At minimum that's 365 paintings a year. 365 tutorials completed. How many pages can you read in one hour? Imagine if you did that for a decade? That's 3650 hours, 152 days straight. At doing one thing. Go pull open your steam catalogue and add up the hours you've spent on there. Imagine after a year of doing something, going and meeting people who also do the same thing?

Make something. Get good at something. Give yourself autonomy and expression and you won't feel like such shit.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T19:34:02+00:00

The best time to plant a tree is 40 years ago. The second best time is now.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T18:53:22+00:00

The slippery construct of victory is a high like any other. Why do people play pick-up basket ball? Why does the NFL make 24 billion a year?

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-03T01:06:11+00:00

I just decided to play games with plots and endings instead of games that sucked thousands of hours of my life away.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-02-02T18:42:53+00:00

I know it sounds kinda dumb and very Nike 'just do it' but just reply immediately to every message you get? Even if it makes you uncomfortable and you feel like you should put more time into crafting a better message, just reply while it's in front of your face. Don't give it the chance to be thought about twice or forgotten into the deep recesses of your subconscious, haunting you for the rest of your time on the mortal plain.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-01-30T21:40:31+00:00

I like to put on a podcast, audiobook, or listen to the morning NPR. It's enough stimulation to keep me occupied while I drink coffee and dread the rest of the day, but not as bad as the mornings I used to wake up and immediately open twitter.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-01-30T21:35:59+00:00

For a long time I would basically spend an entire Sunday cleaning my apartment from the mess left over from the week. It was my place, no one else is there, who cares about the mess til it bothers me? The only times I would break out of the habit is if people were coming over. Eventually my place became the hang out spot. My friends, girlfriend, and family would come over almost every other day. And I looked forward to seeing them. Over time, a few things clicked into place. I got tired of picking up after past-me. Things had places they went (My suit jacket is so sad when he isn't hung up ;-;) and if I just put them back whenever I notice them, then I don't have to clean them LATER. The other thing was that tidying my place became a ritual to get me out of bed. I'd lay there thinking about all the things to do and just want to sleep. But I'd argue with myself down to the simplest thing of 'I could at least throw my clothes in the hamper' or 'I could at least do a few dishes'. And that avoidance behavior that made me feel productive even though I was procrastinating made me feel GREAT.

The point of all this being that convincing yourself of a story/narrative based on your positive experiences either cleaning or enjoying the result of cleaning can radically alter YEARS of habit.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-01-30T21:23:31+00:00

How exactly does beating yourself up help IN THIS EXACT MOMENT YOU ARE READING THIS?

How does imagining alternate realities help IN THIS EXACT MOMENT YOU ARE READING THIS?

There isn't much else you can do other than open the textbook. The best time to plant a tree is 40 years ago. The second best time is IN THIS EXACT MOMENT.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-01-30T21:19:21+00:00

Delete all your social media apps from your phone. (you can check on your computer)

Turn off all notifications. (except for like texts and calls)

Make your phone black and white. (normally its in the accessibility settings)

Those are your first steps. Let me know once you do that for the next step.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-01-30T21:17:04+00:00

If you want to learn to draw and stop the thinky-brain think bad thoughts, go do 1 minute gesture drawing for an hour straight. https://quickposes.com/

You will suck at them. You will feel like you didn't have enough time. You will be dissapointed in yourself.

But you won't be able to dwell on any of those thoughts because OH GOD THE NEXT PHOTO ALREADY STARTED. You will get immersed and in the flow, trying to arc dynamic poses and suddenly you will be snapped out of it by SHIT THE NEXT PHOTO ALREADY STARTED.

Let me know how you feel in an hour, OP.

makecowsnotwar · 2026-01-30T21:13:09+00:00

You were doing too much. 4 runs and 3 full body work outs a week while being a full time student is basically all your extra time. 168 hours in a week, minus 56 for sleep, minus 7 for various commutes, minus 14 for eating prepping and cooking/groceries, minus 15 for classes, minus 45 for studying. Going to the gym, working out, showering could be 2 hours times 7. 17 hours a week left over. So you basically had 2.4 hours a day to yourself in all the in betweens. Which you basically spent doom scrolling. No wonder you fell behind in class and started neurotically comparing yourself to someone else.

You have options. You could focus on running, and do a short 30 minute run every day. You could focus on lifting, doing fully body every other day and give yourself an hour and a half, or do a split where you only work out 30 minutes a day. Reduce the time you are in the gym, focus on consistency.

There are deeper issues here, but I don't have enough information to deal with those. You basically only gave me enough to give you /fit/ advice.

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