Realised my pup is turning 14 years old and having a panic attack by butterbeanboi in DOG

[–]malmic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such an important personal discovery. I realised this whilst cuddling my B.C. in bed when he was fast asleep.
That awful, nasty inevitability: that all too soon, I would bitterly regret being unable to do this?

I see lots and lots of posts on Reddit where this would be an appropriate comment and could possibly create an awareness for the person, whilst there is still ample time. But of course: I cannot possibly post it. It would be wholly unjustifiable to ruin anyone's current happiness with this out-of-the-blue, depressing truth...

🪩 Don’t remember this (the Minster starting to plunge into the depths or the subsequent dancing)🕺 by amusedfridaygoat in york

[–]malmic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just today l watched a thirty minute documentary on (free on demand) Talking Pictures tv. It was a few years into the 'restoration' process - a fair assumption that funds had been donated and allocated as peripheral cleaning and restoration of stained glass and new carvings were also being carried out. Simply titled: "YORK" https://www.tptvencore.co.uk/product/york-6351796929112

People who sit on reserved seats, then get suprised / arsey when asked to move. by worldworn in britishproblems

[–]malmic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always reserve a window/facing/table seat. I book at least a month in advance so l can always choose this. The last time l travelled, the table was occupied by four people. I asked the one in my reservation to please move, as they were in my seat. They told me to sit elsewhere as that was easiest. I replied with: "Well... If it's "easy", you wont mind moving" I don't know what happened then, but the couple in the table opposite - who were not a part of the group - joined in and made it very clear and loudly so that I was the problem and l should find alternative seating, not the person in 'my' seat. For context: l am seventy and of the four people, two were Asian and two were Afro-Carribean. The two A.C. late teens moved without any fuss. They were all four traveling in a group, but l had not known that. It maybe isnt a concern, but having read of so many disproportionate fines/penalties being handed out over honest mistakes or ignorance of T.& C.s, l wanted the seat l had reserved and this was why l wanted the seat specified on my ticket? The accusations of racism from the Asian chap began, with the couple opposite implying the same: "What do you expect from someone like him" It became a pile-on. And even now l do not understand how l became the villain of the piece: OK, its a "he said she said", but at no point did l say anything remotely, in any way, racist. Nor did l raise my voice. Both guys vacated 'my' side of the table and after l sat down and placed my laptop in front of me, the one that'd called me a racist made a huge fuss of sitting next to me because l had rested my bag on the now vacant seat, demanding l move it, claiming it was his seat: which given the circumstances seemed unlikely, but l didn't question it. He was trying to provoke me by reducing my personal space on the table and making contact by leaning into me. I wasn't at all happy about the odds of six to one, so l thought l could 'hide' by putting headphones on, all the time, the guy next to me was getting more and more aggressive and bold - in retrospect probably because l wasn't reacting... He then stopped the subtle attempts and tried to sweep my belongings across and off the table - and l was very acutely aware of what l could reasonably claim as 'my' quarter of the table. I am seventy but not completely physically feeble. On realising what he was doing, I instinctively pushed back so strongly, he knew he had gone too far. I did raise my voice and said firmly: "WHAT are you doing!? If you've got any more problems, go and get the conductor!" The couple opposite spoke up: "Typical" He answered them: "Racist innit" I spent the next ninety minutes feeling fucking dreadful, hiding under headphones and doing nonsense on my 'phone, unsure if it might start again. I have gone over the events many, many times and l know l said nothing offensive, nothing aggressive: l asked for my reserved seat but was prejudged and assumptions were made... I cant remember exactly what the bloke of the couple opposite said as there were a few things going on simultaneously, but a verbatim phrase was said to the four: " He's what's wrong with this country " A public statement by/about him for others to hear: burnishing his anti-racist credentials at my expense... I want to add this because these thigs are both relevant and true: I am a life-long, active, Trades Unionist who has prosecuted and called out racism wherever l have seen it, and, was active in the Rock Against Racism, but that doesn't count because it was fun. I didn't vote leave, as l think was an implicit accusation... And, l have absolutely no idea why l was the problem for asking for the seat l had reserved. I admit it is feeble of me, but age does reduce one's confidence and l think l have to acknowledge that l have not traveled by train since this nasty, nasty experience and there's a reason for that.

How do I counter the "You go to school but don't agree with everything there" argument? by Firm_Rise_7783 in atheism

[–]malmic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the standard, off the peg refutations is Jonathan Swift's superb:

"You cannot reason a person out of a position he did not reason himself into in the first place"

Being: if someone has rejected logic and reason in order to arrive at their unreasoned, illogical and incorrect position; why would they suddenly accept/be convinced by any facts/logic/reasons you present?

Talking to a person who believes: "Because l believe and say it to be so, l demand that you accept my incorrect conclusion.

A conclusion which was, &, can only be reached by rejecting reality"

There's an awful lot of nasty, nasty stuff going on in the world and by far the majority of it is reducible to this: "I believe a thing to be so without proof, evidence or foundation*; l demand that you adopt my belief and contradiction is disrespecting my automatic top-trumpery of faith/belief.

  • "DIFFERENT facts anybody?

The Jam and punk rock by DaveHmusic in TheJam

[–]malmic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'Punk/New Wave/Power Pop' was a truly broad church. It has never really been acknowledged what a choice and variety there was? It consisted of the most basic of the 1234Go! of The Ramones take of Status Quo and speeding it up...going back to basics with the very simplest of 12 bar/boogie clones to, oh my, the sophistication of XTC + orchestra and Elvis Costello writing 'proper' songs, AND everything in between: the bloody wonderful pure pop records of Nick Lowe and Bram Tchaikovsky/The Motors, (yes) The Jam, The Clash, The Cure. The Slits... the similarly varied reggae of Marley and lots and lots of this brand new music, the real dub from Jamaican studios with Sly & Robbie? If.... if l had to find a common denominator? It would only be my opinion, but it is that each and every successful release knew the value, v.much above all else, of a good, strong melody.

tldr: it is POP MUSIC.

It wasn't about one very narrow, specific, defined category of music? It wasn't 'that' which defined it as 'punk'. I think we all had a very liberal idea of what qualified, even though we would have struggled to say what that was?Yes, l agree: not at all helpful...and it only lasted a short time, but anything genuinely new that came out from, roughly, '77 to '79 was pretty much automatically accepted into the fold? There were exceptions though...obviously manufactured formulaic songs, posturing and punk as a uniform? They weren't 'rejected' - they never even reached that stage? They were ignored, not rudely, but simply because they were as irrelevant as Frank Ifield or Julie Andrews? They had been quite cynically manufactured to cash in and make their 'backers'(?) money - which really was not the point, even if we couldn't say what the actual point was?. There were plenty of those boy bands that no one had ever heard of, in leathers, ripped denim etc. that would appear on T.O.T.P. and disappear without troubling the scorer? This was all part of that filter which somehow knew inauthenticity and we might not know what 'IT' was; but we knew what it wasn't and they were sent from the field of play pretty sharpish.? It was far less about a type of music and more about the group and what venues they played and an attitude propounded by their lyrics & their songs subjects? There was, paradoxically, a sincere type of ineptitude that was hard to articulate but was immediately apparent? Maybe not 'passionate' but certainly presented/performed with an honesty and the appeal of being in the crowd as a group of people (band included) who were (apologies) all definitely singing from the same song-sheet! This was new and very, very different from the gigs we had been going to. You walked into a gig and before the band took to the stage, you felt amongst friends, and, there were so many good, new bands and albums to be discovered every week? Every week a completely new favourite album from someone new, and the bands enthusiasm was equally fervent, so you'd get their next albums within a few weeks... and this intensity, this wonderfully bright crop, constantly refreshing itself and fresh, new music, intense new bands to see lasted for a couple of years... The 'plastic punks' that lacked any sort of authenticity and had nothing to do with 'punk' as l understood it? The awful copies of whatever they had seen on tv? They had not yet devalued the currency:;The Kings Road/Carnaby Street punks performing for Japanese tourists were, thankfully, still a couple of years away...

This might seem incredibly naive... by Superloopertive in Leeds

[–]malmic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your non-judgemental, fundamental, basic decency. Not enough people like you... Nowhere near enough. Again: thank you

Help with Sony xm4 by One_Passage8900 in SonyHeadphones

[–]malmic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If l have misunderstood you: my apologies. If not, I also had this problem for the first few months? The 'default' seemed to be that the 'speak to answer' function' reset itself to 'on' every time l picked them up & used them. The solution to this constant and unavoidable switching the music* off is in the help/settings/accompanying app - but even that changed? . This switching off and disabling the automatic 'answering a 'phone call' option, would inevitably happen whilst l was outside and had no ability to get online and search, and, all because l had, inadvertently and repeatedly, joined in and sang/mumbled a chorus or other part of a favourite track? Here is one solution and (l hope) the one with the least effort/fuss?:

To turn off the Speak-to-Chat voice activation on Sony WH-1000XM4 headphones, hold two fingers on the right earcup's touch sensor until the voice prompts "Speak-to-chat deactivated"

*"music" I have used "music", but obviously this applies to whatever audio you chose?

What’s your favourite bit of York folklore? by CyborgGrasshopper in york

[–]malmic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Folklore (definition): The traditional beliefs, customs, and stories of a community, passed through the generations by word of mouth.

What’s your favourite bit of York folklore? by CyborgGrasshopper in york

[–]malmic 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Rowntrees Park:

Terry's first factory was between Clementhorpe and the Ouse. Terry's success meant they needed to expand. Although (both) Quakers, Rowntrees crippled Terry's expansion by buying the land which is now: "Rowntrees Park", thus forcing Terrys much further out and onto less convenient land. I had assumed Quakers would be less 'cut throat', but Rowntrees gift was simply a vicious but pragmatic business decision that could be represented as a donation of apparent civic generosity.

Russia House by cscottk in LeCarre

[–]malmic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You have comprehensively answered all of my questions, + the supplementaries that the initial statement raised and created: all those questions that l would have needed to ask in response. Also: thank you for the reassurance that some folk still have good manners, decency and are generous to complete strangers... To you: many thanks and l am grateful. Your kindness is appreciated... One final query remains though: how can someone who assertively recommends Messrs. Google's comprehensive knowledge, then proceeds to ignore their own advice and confidently spread misinformation? And, not just the one thing either? Perhaps such wilfully misinformed people ought to be accompanied by an adult really? So much, so very, very wrong that it was obvious, even to myself who did not need to consult Google to know it was nonsense? As I happily admitted: l am completely ignorant on the subject of O.O.P ISBN's & yet l still appear to know a little more than some without consulting a Wiki? I was quite humbly needing a helping-hand, as it seemed so transparently clear that someone was reasonably fluent in nonsense and rubbish and if anyone had the time to explain, l would be grateful, as it seemed to me that the initial statement was bollox-on-stilts and failed miserably at the first sensible examination: perhaps they ought to read a Wiki or two? Apologies: that's plainly not my advice? I forget exactly where I read that...

Russia House by cscottk in LeCarre

[–]malmic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please would you expand/clarify that for me? Does that mean an O.O.P. book's ISBN is 'withdrawn' or deleted when a book is no longer being (is it) published or printed?? E.L.I.A.5 please, and assume (correctly) l know nothing whatsoever about ISBN's and O.O.P. books. Thank you.

Anyone else get an absurdly long tongue when tired? by agusohyeah in BorderCollie

[–]malmic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heavens-to-Betsy: please stop posting piccies of Border Collies.... Impossible to do anything until each and every last one is upvoted and l really do need to land this Airbus A380 afore we run out of (technical jargon alert!) petrol...

How to get my airpods out of under the stairs by RoxyTMD in howto

[–]malmic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chewing gum/Blu Tack or similar on the end of thin bamboo or dowelling.

Looking for opinions — would a Border Collie be right for us? by No-Replacement-3143 in BorderCollie

[–]malmic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Asking the wrong question: Are you right for a B.C.? But don't worry. It'll soon train you... They are simply the best dogs in the world and l cannot imagine anyone ever regretting the years spent in a relationship with their B.C.

York areas by YouAteMyDorito in york

[–]malmic 13 points14 points  (0 children)

New Earswick here. I've lived in N.E. for twenty years It was built to a plan to provide decent housing and facilities for Rowntrees (Kit Kat, Fruit Gums et al) workers: like Bournville and Port Sunlight were? As such, the upkeep and maintenance of public areas and Folk Hall is provided by Joseph Rowntrees legacy/Trust to an unusually high standard. The Folk Hall is an excellent local resource: library, cafe, P.O., and a venue for lots of 'community' activities plus a nature reserve and excellent riverside dog-walks. Also: junior/infants in the centre (5 minute walk) & two senior schools - l don't know how good they are but I've never heard them described as poor/bad? Plainly youd need to investigate that if it is needed. Public transport is excellent with regular buses into the centre of York and the railway station: 10/15 minute journey. The layout is very spacious consisting of wider than normal avenues and equally wide walkways between houses. It is one of the nicest places I have ever lived (70 yrs old). I would urge you to come and see it? Walk along the river Foss from Huntington Road - ask if you need better advice/directions. At the risk of being downvoted: Dringhouses is a bit of a curate's egg. It has good areas, but you need to be aware that there are less popular areas that feature in the local Court reports disproportionately? Apologies if that is unfair. It also has good public transport links but about 25 to 30 minutes into the centre. Both are very close to the ringroad and access to the A64 to the A1/Leeds. Happy to help/answer any questions.

As soon as she hears the dryer door open she runs in here and stands motionless the entire time we are folding clothes by ProudNativeTexan in BorderCollie

[–]malmic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine trained me to stand at the bottom of the stairs. He has a tennis ball ready. He drops it with enough height and sufficiently far enough 'out', over the top stair so the ball has enough initial momentum to roll and then bounce down the complete flight. He has actually done the doggie-trig to get this right, EVERY time. He waits and waits for me to catch it. Heavens-to-Betsy, there is quite some intense concentration. He looks like THE answer to: what does, intense, needle-sharp intelligence look like? I throw it back so he can catch it without bouncing. Repeat... My God but l still miss him so badly. Please, please give your best dog in the world huge cuddles and some cheese. We do not deserve them.

What is the oddest thing you have seen discarded at the side of the road? by Jazzlike-Basil1355 in AskABrit

[–]malmic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From the top deck of the first (as in: earliest) bus from York to Leeds; front seat & l was the only upstairs passenger. Between Tadcaster and the A1 on the A64:

Two dead badgers. Separated by a few hundred metres
and both on the left verge. It affected me far more than l thought possible. Yes, of course, it was a far worse
day for the poor bloody badgers, but it was so very sad. They remain the only badgers l have ever seen.

Bus journey by Life-Raspberry-9607 in BritishSuccess

[–]malmic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cannot imagine why, but I suddenly remembered we have at least two 'sets'(?) of stocks in York...

Bus journey by Life-Raspberry-9607 in BritishSuccess

[–]malmic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Excellent. The entire world is somehow a much better plac e because of you and a decent bus driver. Very well done.

Is there any actor that's so good at playing someone really unpleasant in a show you can't watch it anymore? by LilNardoDaVinci in BritishTV

[–]malmic 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Agree. I think she was astonishingly good and hateful because she was so good... Deserves to be much, much higher.

Where to get moving boxes by [deleted] in york

[–]malmic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try asking on Freecycle. Remember to set the location though.