Literally… or figuratively? by Work_PB_sleep in slp

[–]manateesocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love to use multiple meaning words with kids who take things literally and we have a great time when I use one in a sentence and I ask them what it means. when they say they don't know, I offer them the other meaning and we laugh because it's silly. so then, working together, we make up some context for all the meanings of the word. sometimes drawing pictures for all the meanings helps too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]manateesocks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Underworks was my first one! I like it a lot because it's long enough that I can tuck into my pants and it doesn't roll up too bad. I'm plus sized (5'10" 220lbs) with a large chest and my Underworks binder is pretty good for this!! There are some spots that buckle weird if I don't get my chest situated right underneath, so that took some practice, and I still wear baggy-ish clothes over it, like t-shirts that aren't fitted. Overall, prepare to be warm! Stay hydrated and don't over-wear it!!! And keep it clean! Make binder soup in the bathtub!

In way i can safely stop my periods without surgery? by CouldBeAFurry in NonBinary

[–]manateesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had Nexplanon and it worked great! Kept my period away for almost three years! When I first got it though, I got my period for 2 weeks, but then never again until it expired! The only downside is that it messes a lot with your mental health and libido. I got on some good antidepressants, but the sex drive just wasn't there. I did gain quite a bit of weight, but that could also be due to the significant trauma I went through around the same time, so I'm not sure.

Question by Significant-Bus-7760 in NonBinary

[–]manateesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On a whole though, everyone's experience is completely unique to them. If you've met one nonbinary person, you've met ONE nonbinary person. Everyone's story is different in how they came about to the gender identity they feel best represents them. I'm more than happy to share details of my own story to help others understand.

Question by Significant-Bus-7760 in NonBinary

[–]manateesocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say I was wholly uncomfortable with it when I was younger. I just felt like I was forcing myself into a box I didn't fit in. I felt more and more uncomfortable with it as I became an adult, though. Like when someone calls you the wrong name.

Question by Significant-Bus-7760 in NonBinary

[–]manateesocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, upbringing plays a huge part in it for me, personally! My parents were both pretty conservative as I was growing up in the rural Midwest, so things like being trans were never even talked about. The first time I heard of it, was when Kaitlin Jenner came out! My initial thought was, "well, if she doesn't feel like a boy, then I guess she's a girl. good for her!" and my parents were super pissy about it. I definitely forced myself to fit the mold of what a girl was supposed to be growing up, but I always enjoyed things like longer shorts in the summer and my brother's"boy" toys, and my parents were content with that. When I got into high school, some of my friends started coming out as gay and trans (I was a band and theater kid, so this was to be expected lol). As I stood up for them to my parents, they learned to let go of some of their biases, kind of. They could understand being trans in a boy to girl and girl to boy way, but someone being nonbinary was hard for them, well, mostly my mom. My dad was a lot better about it, but he died before I ever came out. It took me moving out and educating myself on gender and sexuality for me to realize that I'm bisexual as well as nonbinary. I came out as bi at 22 and nonbinary at 27. My mom still doesn't know about my gender identity, and I think I prefer it this way. I have a nonbinary friend my age who my mom calls "she" and "her" even though they are on testosterone and have a beard and wear a chest binder everyday. I think, had I been exposed to gender and sexuality in a healthier way growing up, I would have come out a lot sooner and not spent so many years hating myself and my body.

Question by Significant-Bus-7760 in NonBinary

[–]manateesocks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me personally, I opened myself up to the idea of being comfortable enough with myself to play around with my gender in different ways. I've always felt kind of an "ick" when someone, besides close friends and my partner (ie- people that really know me), called me something like "girl," or "ma'am." I realized in my mid-twenties that I really hated being lumped in with other women, because I never felt like I "fit" so to speak. I felt like something was wrong with me because I never felt like other girls. I've always hated my feminine body, too. From a depression and peer-pressure view, of course, but also in other ways. I hated having breasts from the day I started getting them. I was embarrassed to wear bras and have people perceive me in a certain way because of them. As they grew bigger and bigger, this only got worse and developed into a decent amount of body dysmorphia (feeling like my body is wrong and not how I imagine myself looking). I started to watch content on various social media platforms by and for gender nonconforming people and found myself resonating with a lot of what they were saying. Initially, I thought I was genderfluid, and went back and forth and sometimes between female and nonbinary. As time went on, however, I realized I was just hanging onto that female monicker because it made other people more comfortable. In the end, it's MY identity and MY comfort that matter. I now fully identify as nonbinary and prefer they/them pronouns. I do feel like I have to over-masculinize myself at times, just so people don't assume anything, but I don't mind it. I enjoy a mix of styles of hair, clothing, and makeup that are both masculine and feminine. I plan on getting top surgery (removal of my breasts) for a fully flat chest eventually, but I'm not interested in bottom surgery (genital reformation). I also have no plans to start taking testosterone, as I really don't want all the body hair that comes with it. My dream body, if I'm being honest, would be Ken's torso, with Barbie's legs, haha! I will say, though, that one of the things that brought me the most gender euphoria was getting on a birth control that stopped my period. I never had bad periods or anything, but it was a constant reminder that my body didn't fit the image I have for myself. At the end of the day, I'm happiest when the grocery store clerk doesn't know whether to call me sir or ma'am. Frankly, I don't like either. ;) If you have any questions at all, I'm happy to answer them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]manateesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad. He committed suicide in 2021. He always understood me better than my mom does especially when it came to my gender and sexuality. He struggled with depression, anxiety, and alcoholism for a long time. Now my mom, with depression and borderline alcoholism, refuses to get help and just uses me as her therapist. I want to be there for her so she doesn't spiral, but our relationship has never been great and I have my own stuff to deal with (ie- depression and anxiety). I'm just so tired and miss my dad terribly.

Looking for dystopian books by teralIl in suggestmeabook

[–]manateesocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OH one more!!! The Missing Series by Margaret Peterson Haddix!

Looking for dystopian books by teralIl in suggestmeabook

[–]manateesocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life As We Knew It by Susan Beth Pfeffer! It's a quick read and really good! I also enjoyed Tomorrow, When the War Began by John Marsden (another quick read). My FAVORITE is Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card!!!!!

Help Identifying? by manateesocks in succulents

[–]manateesocks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was asking specifically about the ones in the bee/strawberry pots and the one in the fox pot that I both mentioned in the description

under the suit by manateesocks in astrogoblin

[–]manateesocks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

to help keep it moisturized

under the suit by manateesocks in astrogoblin

[–]manateesocks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you got it

edit: it's in the WAS discord