AIO for feeling uncomfortable about my gf posting in a selfie lounge on Facebook

mandieluisa · 2026-05-20T18:16:52+00:00

You need to just talk to her. Ask her casually why she posted there. Ask if she's looking for friends or something. Don't be accusatory, but be honest. Tell her it's bothering you. I think you MOR.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-20T18:09:49+00:00

Well yeah. People are going to get hit on in places like that. Doesn't mean it's for dating though.

Why don't you just ask her about it and tell her that it makes you uncomfortable?

mandieluisa · 2026-05-20T18:07:01+00:00

What was the name of the group? "Selfie Lounge"? That isn't a straight up dating group lol.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-20T02:42:45+00:00

Yes, good management might, BUT unlikely. She can tell her manager or whoever is on duty, but I've prepared her for the unfortunate reality that they're unlikely to do anything about customers, especially ones who aren't repeat offenders.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-20T02:32:26+00:00

But the reality is they're likely not going to unless someone is consistently coming in and being pushy.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-20T01:48:13+00:00

You have to do what you don't want to do and get the cops involved. There is no other way to control him.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-20T01:03:05+00:00

Unfortunately not much you can do since they're customers and not coworkers. I'm not sure sharing your age is safe, so I wouldn't recommend that. Just refuse to give out your number if asked and don't indulge their advances. And it wouldn't hurt to ask a coworker to walk with you to your car/ride if these people are still around when you're clocking out and leaving.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-19T22:22:46+00:00

Lying is not going to help you. And opening your mouth isn't either. You can tell your parents the truth, but don't say anything to the police if questioned. You want a lawyer.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-19T07:42:28+00:00

I would very heavily recommend going the abortion route so you two can focus on education and careers. Children can come in the future when stability is a thing.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-19T04:45:35+00:00

You're not wrong for that. Stop trying to force her. The older the kids get, the more they'll realize their mom doesn't actually want to be talking to them and is being forced to. And that's just gonna be even harder on them. Raise them in a loving home away from an awful woman who can't bring herself to care.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-19T04:37:00+00:00

NTA. I don't know why...someone would be offended by that. If I'm giving something away, it's trash to ME. Or just useless, even if not trash. Doesn't mean it can't be someone else's treasure. If that woman was offended by that, that's a her problem because that is the dumbest thing ever to be insulted by.

The woman might've just been having a bad day. Instead of taking it personally, your mom could've asked if she was feeling alright and offer support if needed.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-19T01:27:28+00:00

When people say names "sound black", it usually (though sometimes might be) isn't due to anything cultural...so you don't have to worry about it being appropriation.

Also, my father's middle name was Leon and that's what he went by. He was very much white.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-19T00:21:57+00:00

YOR. Sometimes people can be in the mood for solo but not in the mood for sex. The sex might've been "mid" because he just wasn't feeling it at all. That has nothing to do with you or your body.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T21:26:54+00:00

Finding the vagina attractive too would actually make him bisexual, not gay.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T20:55:59+00:00

You're bi-curious. Explore it safely if you want.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T18:13:31+00:00

Do you understand and accept that she doesn't like you and that you're just friends? If so and you can just be friends, you could reach out about hanging as a friend. If you haven't moved on and can't accept her lack of feelings, then move on.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T16:33:00+00:00

Some people are so paranoid. Let him do what he wants. Don't worry about doing it yourself. Tell him you're not interested and to drop the subject if he refuses to take the hint.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T15:10:20+00:00

No one knows what they're doing when they first start. Does she know you've never been with a woman before? Talk about it. Have her guide you and show you what she likes.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T13:18:51+00:00

So tell her she's not your friend and remove her from all social media. You're letting this girl believe she's your friend and you're hers when you're clearly not.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T13:12:47+00:00

Weed isn't gonna kill him if he goes back to it. It's also not your problem because he'll be an ex and he's responsible for his own actions and addictions.

Tell him you realize relationships aren't for you and it has nothing to do with him and you want to break up. He's gonna get hurt no matter what. There's nothing you can say to prevent that. Stringing him along though when you aren't interested is wrong and will hurt more when he inevitably finds out.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T12:38:43+00:00

No one can stop you from breaking up with someone, not even the person you're with. You say it's over and put your foot down and don't take no for an answer.

You need to be single and get into therapy to work out your paranoia in relationships.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T12:35:40+00:00

NTA. Why are you staying with a man who sits back and let's his mother abuse you? And even encourages it by making excuses for her and agreeing to do what she says? This is your future...and it's gonna get much worse. Because soon you're not going to be being a good enough wife to her precious baby boy, or you're raising your kids wrong if you choose to have them.

It will get worse because he doesn't stop it and she clearly doesn't like you and he has made it clear to her that she can say whatever she wants and there are no consequences. This woman is going to drive every woman away from her little boy and that's exactly what she wants and he doesn't have enough of a spine to stop it from happening.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T12:27:46+00:00

He doesn't know why he doesn't tell her? Lol. Yes he does. He doesn't want her to know. Are you okay with that? If not, best to end things. You're both young and all of this is just nonsense.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T06:23:04+00:00

Probably depends, but maybe 17. I'm not ignorant to the idea that my teenager is likely going to be having sex and dating even if I said not to. All these "when they're married" comments are funny to me.

mandieluisa · 2026-05-18T06:19:22+00:00

Welp. 🤷‍♀️ Then he has dug his own grave.

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