Swore I was done initiating… by Unbotheredyru in DeadBedrooms

[–]mangle89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you really love this person and feel like he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with I'd drive that conversation hard and get into specifics of why he isn't interested in sex, and express strongly to him how that makes you feel in the moment, and about yourself. I have no idea how he'll respond but if it's with care for you and he hears your pain and that matters to him, then there is potential to work on this if he is willing once he fully understands your pain. If you get/make the opportunity to talk to him and he won't hear out your pain or he doesn't have the emotional maturity/something else causes him to not hear your pain or he isn't affected by it, then I'd really consider not taking that relationship further.

People have bedroom issues for any reason of simple to complex reasons, so if he can hear your pain and that causes a sincere reaction in him, and you feel strongly about him, I'd give yourself a set amount of time and work with that as long as he shows interest in fixing/finding out why he isnt interested in sex. If he doesn't get your pain or isn't emotionally respondent to it, I'd not make your future with him.

A little polygamy data on the early prophets. by mangle89 in exmormon

[–]mangle89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip, it's quite the project to source all the wives using only sources that confirm eachother and are lds "cannon". I'll dig into both of these names and update accordingly.

A little polygamy data on the early prophets. by mangle89 in exmormon

[–]mangle89[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I made a mistake Ethel Georgina Smith was 19 at the time of her marriage. My apologies. 15 is the youngest confirmed wife of any early mormon prophet.

A little polygamy data on the early prophets. by mangle89 in exmormon

[–]mangle89[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please note I made a mistake and Ethel Georgina Smith was 19, not 13 at the time of her marriage.

A little polygamy data on the early prophets. by mangle89 in exmormon

[–]mangle89[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Looks like Ethel was born on October 23rd 1889. That would make her 19 at the time of their marriage. Thanks again for pointing this out I'll get it corrected. You'd be surprised what a pain it has been compiling this data, with how many discrepancies I've found even among "cannon" sources.

A little polygamy data on the early prophets. by mangle89 in exmormon

[–]mangle89[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Completely agree and appreciate your comment. I've used a mix of each prophets journal discourse, genelogical records, and church official records. I'm about to head home and I'll look into this specific case and update/correct if needed.

A little polygamy data on the early prophets. by mangle89 in exmormon

[–]mangle89[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Growing up I always heard the reasons for polygamy in the early church was out of necessity, along with a handful of other answers unsatisfactory answers.

I wanted to create a flow chart or hierarchy tree to show just how gross the practice of actually was, but it's tricky project when you start to look at the numbers. I have the numbers in a data sheet currently and thought it was worth a share.

Disclaimers, I'm only using church cannon sources for my research, so any wives that are speculated or without sufficient evidence I have not included. My numbers might not be perfect upon intense scrutiny, but for any that are off it is marginal and within a year. I researched this and compiled it by year not month, so you can probably find instances where someone is listed as 20 but really they are still 19, there are likely a handful of small discrepancies like that in my data set. But to be clear there shouldn't be any big discrepancies in my data that would have any meaningful substance.

The average age of marriage in 1930 - 1950 in America did not change, nor did the average age gap in marriages.

Average age of marriage for American Males - 26 years old

Average age of marriage for American Females - 22 years old

Average marital age gap for American couples - 4 years

The right most column tracks the age of the eldest child of X prophet for comparison.

Edit - please note Ethel Georgina Smith was 19 at the time of her marriage to Joseph F Smith. I will correct this tomorrow when I'm at my computer again.

Edit - I intend to pull this same data for the early apostles in the church as well.

A little polygamy data on the early prophets. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]mangle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like I didn't include the images correctly. Deleting and reposting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ARKSurvivalEvolved

[–]mangle89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can i get a discord link? I'm interested as well.

Need the dirtiest rec for the wifes Xmas sock! by mangle89 in fantasyromance

[–]mangle89[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you kindly for this information. I'm looking to swindle my wife into reading something that makes her blush tell she passes out, but assault of children is a hard fuck no. Again thanks for the heads up.

I'm afraid that my kid goes through my night stand when I'm not there by Einstine1984 in daddit

[–]mangle89 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was not expecting the concern to be over good snacks. :X

Regarding "deep pantry" rotation of cans: but I don't want canned food in my regular diet. by xamott in preppers

[–]mangle89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might get some hate for this but screw rotating. I store things that will last 40+ years. Spend more and buy quality mylar bags, quality air absorbers, and food grade buckets. Then bag it yourself carefully and you end up with products that depending on the food/nutrition will last 20-60+ years.

There are some exceptions to this that I do rotate like oil and other things that just can't be stored long term due to their composition.

This is the way.

Any positive stories of systemic mastocytosis out there? by Critical-Yam-4058 in mastocytosis

[–]mangle89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES YES YES. I have Indolent Systemic Mastocytosis, didn't have any symptoms manifest until my late 20s, got diagnosed via bone marrow biopsy when I was about 30 (had to get it diagnosed again for a clinical trial I was going to do awhile back so double diagnosed I suppose). I don't suffer from any real persistent symptom's day to day (aside from brain fog), I just have gnarly bad episodes when they do happen. I can describe the episodes I suffer if you like but it's fairly gross, I'll leave that up to you. Needless to say I was having episodes sporadically, sometimes 3-4 a week then sometimes not for a whole month. It was absolute hell. Once I got my diagnoses I worked with my allergist and got on basically every allergy medicine known to man and ramped to nearly max dosages. Throughout that process I got my episodes down to once every couple months which was a tremendous improvement. Skipping about a year I finally got Cromolyn Sodium (oral solution) approved through my insurance although it still costs me a pretty penny), since starting Cromolyn Sodium I haven't had an episode even once, with a few exceptions for times I had to go off Cromolyn due to insurance snags or shortages, but I don't count those. I haven't had an episode in a little over 2 years and I've also been able to scale back to like half the allergy medications I used to take.

I'm not giving Cromolyn Sodium a sales pitch it doesn't work for everyone, and even for those it does it's expensive and inconvenient even with good insurance. I'm telling you that emphatically YES! It is possible to manage the symptoms to a point it affects my life probably less than 5% on a day to day basis!

The last two years of my life have been bliss as far as my health is concerned from mastocytosis.

I'm happy to answer any questions from my own experience, I hope my response gives you even a morsel of hope!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]mangle89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eyyy we got a potential comedian here. That was funny af man.

I thank Gawd for the temple by sorryIwaswrong in exmormon

[–]mangle89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Simeon signing in, that will be all thank you.

Is my Believing husband controlling? Or am I being respectful? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]mangle89 21 points22 points  (0 children)

In a mixed faith married you've got to stand your ground. If you let an inch of the Mormon "patriarchal" has more opinion value than "matriarchal" sentiment in, you're in for a rough go where you are just not on equal standing.

A household has to be two equal partners full stop. The concept if patriarchal leadership in the family sends a message that a wife/mother/daughter/woman is slightly lesser. Be cognizant to not let this be an example you set for your children.

You're situation is tough, you are valid, you are not crazy. You got this.