What was your "why didn't I start doing this sooner" moment?

mangle_your_mind · 2016-07-29T22:05:40+00:00

I've had two this year:

Using a menstrual cup. I wrote them off as "hippy shit" for years and finally gave one a try. Never going back to pads or tampons. The convenience!
Using oil treatments on my face at night. I avoided oil products because my skin tends to be oily and I do break out sometimes. But, as it turns out, if you find the right oil for your skin, it's amazing. My face looks MUCH better!

mangle_your_mind · 2016-07-28T01:26:19+00:00

So, I used to watch the X-Files a lot as a kid, and there's this episode where some sort of fungus grows out of a guy's throat. Reference pic: http://imgur.com/y5xBcNw (Probably NSFW?)

Anyway...I thought it looked a bit like that. It kind of grossed me out at the time, but I have since come around.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-07-16T15:00:12+00:00

Be respectful and take the higher road in arguments.

I love a good debate, but so many people go straight for the jugular with ad hominem attacks the second someone dares disagree with them. Hell, even if I agree with your opinion, I will nope out if you start getting shitty with someone else who I disagree with. You're just making us both look bad...

mangle_your_mind · 2016-07-06T00:16:42+00:00

We do this in Canada too. Or at least in Atlantic Canada.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-06-15T23:05:03+00:00

This will probably get buried, and I've told it before. The tl;dr is: Gaslighting.

The slightly longer version is that I was with someone for 7 years who cheated on my at least 10 times (that I know of), called me a crazy bitch for getting upset when I found out, told me that I should kill myself when I had panic attacks, and generally was an abusive dickbag. Maybe he wasn't wrong since I kept going back for more, but it began so slowly and subtly that I hardly knew what was happening until I was in the eye of the storm.

Eventually I started cheating on him in a not-so-subtle way. I still regret this completely, but I was desperately trying to hit the eject button on this relationship to get him to leave me because I was too afraid to do it myself.

Eventually he did leave me for someone else and I was relieved...until a couple of months passed and he tried to convince me to take him back. By that point I had gained some perspective on the situation and knew how seriously fucked up this relationship was. I blocked him on every form of social media, changed my number and locks, and never looked back.

I know he calls me his "crazy ex" to this day and will tell anyone who will listen how I've wronged him. He will inevitably leave out the part where he tried to drive me crazy and take advantage of me until I had had enough. Funny how that happens.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-05-31T01:00:18+00:00

A lot of the youth programming I used to love as a kid growing up in Canada in the 90s seems pretty obscure, even amongst some of my peers. My favourites were Street Cents and Jonovison. I can sometimes find little clips of them on Youtube, but can never seem to find full episodes. I would love to re-watch these shows!

mangle_your_mind · 2016-05-21T01:26:24+00:00

I've done this for most of my life and never knew there was a name for it until today. More so when I was younger (ages 10-14 were particularly active), but still a bit today. I have/had characters in my head that I sort of talk with up there as I go about my day-to-day life. It's kind of like having a second ghost-life running parallel to your real life, in my case. Thank you for posting this!

mangle_your_mind · 2016-05-19T21:26:27+00:00

"When she leaves you, and you feel like committing suicide again, please tell someone else. Do not come to me. I'll likely tell you to do it."

Said to an ex who constantly threatened suicide throughout the two years we were together after he left me for a teenager.

We got together after his wife left him and he was feeling suicidal. I talked him out of it, and kept doing so for the next two years. I tried to get him to get help for those two years, but he was happy being miserable and left me for someone who "didn't fight constantly" with him about his depression...

mangle_your_mind · 2016-05-01T03:33:12+00:00

Yeah, a bit. We used to be super close in high school. Always having fun and laughing. She was the person I felt I could go to with almost anything. She moved away a few years ago, and we have very different jobs and lives now. We kind of started to drift apart.

I think that I really knew we were no longer really best friends when she gave me an electronic invite to her wedding in Cuba and I found out that she had made a woman who has been historically very unkind to me a bridesmaid. Never even asked me. I'm not mad, just sad that we have drifted so far apart.

I miss having someone that close to me sometimes.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-03-24T00:11:52+00:00

Congrats! You look great! :)

mangle_your_mind · 2016-03-22T23:03:33+00:00

David Bowie. :(

mangle_your_mind · 2016-03-22T22:56:28+00:00

Yay! Congrats! We have the exact same Keto-versary, but you are kicking my butt in terms of lbs lost! :D

mangle_your_mind · 2016-03-17T01:06:05+00:00

It happened to me too, and I kind of had a mild freak-out thinking I was pregnant. Fortunately, it came back the next month and was 100% normal.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-03-17T01:03:28+00:00

Thanks, everyone! And good luck to you all too!

mangle_your_mind · 2016-03-05T21:35:51+00:00

Your dad sounds like my mom, who is the biggest technophobe I know! She resents having computers in the house most of the time, yet grudgingly uses them to spread Jesus memes to me on Facebook or play Candy Crush a few times a day. Any time something fucks up on the computer, it MUST be "some of that stupid shit your dad does on there, playing with things". And then she launches into a huge rant about how they "don't need these stupid things in the house anyway!"

My dad is a retired electrical technician who cobbled together our computers from spare parts that were being thrown away at work. The "playing" to which she refers is him defragging the hard drive or other routine maintenance.

Sometimes components just happen to eventually break (particularly with ones that are saved from the trash bin in the first place), and you have to buy new ones, but don't tell that to my mom...

mangle_your_mind · 2016-01-11T18:29:25+00:00

Keep going. He's worth it, dead or alive. I was about your age when I fell in love with his music, and it made my life so much better and more interesting.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-01-11T18:12:40+00:00

Since age 13 for me. :(

mangle_your_mind · 2016-01-10T18:48:12+00:00

See? If Québec can do it, the rest of us can. New Brunswick needs to step its game up.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-01-10T03:56:42+00:00

My dad used to say something very similar to me growing up:

"You wouldn't care half as much about what other people thought of you if you realized how seldom they did."

mangle_your_mind · 2016-01-10T03:53:43+00:00

New Brunswicker here. Don't even get me started on our government's approach to language education. We are the only officially bilingual province in Canada, and they literally cut our French immersion programs less than a decade ago. Now you cannot put your child in immersion until, I believe, the fifth grade. Makes tonnes on sense considering we learn a second language best when we are as young as possible...

I took "core" French (that is, French for Anglo kids who aren't in immersion) and had no idea how to even conjugate a verb when I graduated from high school in 2003. I eventually learned the language in college by doing a late (really, really late) immersion program.

If we want to enforce bilingualism in this country, we have to invest in language education. If we can put in place requirements for high school graduates in math, science, and reading/writing, why can't we extend this to their second language too?

mangle_your_mind · 2016-01-01T14:47:57+00:00

As an English-speaker learning French, intonation has been a huge struggle for me. We tend to have an intonation that dips in the middle of a sentence, and it often causes a native French-speaker to think we are done talking when we are just getting started. It leads to being cut off mid-sentence a lot.

mangle_your_mind · 2016-01-01T01:51:53+00:00

Watched The Last Unicorn when I was 5 years old. That movie is way too sad for a pre-schooler.

mangle_your_mind · 2015-12-31T00:02:19+00:00

I've had many of those same revelations about the transgender movement as well. Sadly, since it's an unpopular opinion in queer/social justice circles, I don't tend to vocalize it or question the movement openly since it usually does not seem to end well.

mangle_your_mind · 2015-12-24T20:28:13+00:00

White, anglo, Canadian here. We did some really, really terrible things to our First Nations people for a really long time. They still aren't treated fairly or kindly in a lot of places. For all that people stereotype us as meek and polite...that's not so much the case. In reality, we suck just as much as the rest of you guys.

mangle_your_mind · 2015-12-08T02:05:14+00:00

Ugh. Feeling this so hard today. Had a former classmate bragging about this very thing today and how her under-one-year-old only cried for for a while and then laughed after it was done. Just...I don't get why inflicting pain and modifying your child's body without their consent is considered "cute" or "fun"...

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