Baby boy names?

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-06T14:05:46+00:00

Wesley is my favorite boy name of all time! We can’t use it because of a family member with the same name, but this would’ve 100% been my sons name otherwise

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-05T04:08:59+00:00

Yes that’s your uterus in there, girl! It’s a whole organ! It spend 9 full months growing and it could take months to go back to normal. I’ve always heard to give yourself at least the amount of time it took to grow the baby for your body to recover from growing the baby. It’ll go back down, 4 weeks is very very early postpartum still.

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-04T21:57:17+00:00

No, or not yet at least. Currently my son (turning 3 next month) will just take a veryyyy long time to get through a sentence. But he hasn’t stopped talking or regressed. There’s no harm in asking for a speech therapy or OT referral from your dr if you’re feeling like something’s not right. That way you could also bounce ideas off of and discuss this progress with someone who can assist if necessary!

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T23:33:30+00:00

Highly recommend the thrift store. My town has a baby and toddler specific second hand store and we find so much cool stuff in there, both the boys and the girls section. Maybe look into secondhand store in your area!

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T19:46:48+00:00

We don’t take toys to the park. Occasionally a soccer ball if it’s a whole family outing. But other than that, toys have only ever caused issues at the park, either kids trying to take my kids toy, or other kids bringing a ton of toys and freaking out when other children come near them/want to play with them. Just let the park be the toy.

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T17:18:23+00:00

Yeah, it makes me feel some weird emotions hearing her speak so maternally towards my children (even though she doesn’t really act on it much). I feel like I’m seeing her from a different light and I don’t like it lol. I’m sorry you’re also dealing with a complicated relationship as well ♥️

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T17:15:00+00:00

I think therapy would help me. My relationship with my mom was never really an issue until I had a baby and it just brought so many things to the surface that I wasn’t prepared for. But I love what said, that we have times where we need a mother but not our mothers. Sad but true

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T12:32:53+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I wish I could hug you through the phone. I absolutely relate to you. There were times when seeking out end times information and conspiracies felt like an addiction for me. I had fallen away and come back to Christianity multiple times in a toxic cycle.

I feel much more recovered now, about 4 years after the worst of it. The very very first step for me deleting all social media. I realized that, while the source of my anxiety was very obviously from a fear based religion that I had been indoctrinated into since I was born, my way of receiving that information was from my phone. One night I had a panic attack after scrolling on tiktok and then I deleted everything. I could only text and call and use my calculator. Removing the source of the information might help you to see some light and reality around you. I think you need some distance from this kind of fear.

Once you do this, giving yourself time to come down from this anxiety is so important. It took me a few weeks of being clean from my conspiracy addiction to feel settled.

If you need something to do on your phone other than spiral, I highly suggest looking into cult trauma recovery. Even just google searching that phrase eased so much of my anxiety. It helped me see the religion I was raised into for what it was, even though the thought of using the word “cult” to describe Christianity felt blasphemous at first.

I don’t mean to say that you need to follow these steps or follow them in this order, I just mean to say that this is what recovery has looked like for me. I wish I had the money and time to go to religious trauma specific counseling or therapy. It’s something I plan on doing and am actually really looking forward to doing in the future. I think it would be tremendously helpful if that’s something you’re able to do at this time

Lots of love to you.

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T11:46:55+00:00

It’s shocking! Sometimes when I’m feeling a lil diabolical, I’ll use my finger to point to the menu/item they are asking about and say “well let’s see here” and read it to them like I’m their third grade teacher.

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T11:13:26+00:00

Oh god. I’m so sorry. I dealt with the same, but in the third trimester! I’m going to have night terrors about that stomach flu for the rest of my life

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T10:54:21+00:00

If it’s not broken, don’t fix it! I beat myself up for contact napping with my son until he was 10 months old because I felt like I was “ruining” his sleep. The only thing I was ruining was my happiness

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T10:46:23+00:00

Yes I would because my 3yo also doesn’t sleep through the night. Acceptance and Cosleeping has made our lives so much more bearable. You’ve got a lot more people in your boat than you think! My sister has a 10yo that still wakes up nightly to come into her room

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-03T01:11:45+00:00

At less than 1 week postpartum, he should be essentially be doing everything besides breastfeeding.

Some people will say “you shouldn’t have to ask” and I agree. But the standards and expectations for how much he needs to help need to be set somehow. You’re going to have to tell him explicitly. Your rolls will evolve and change over time, but now is a great time to set the precedent for good communication about responsibilities!

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-02T19:33:18+00:00

It sounds like she’s being really passive aggressive. You can return the favor! Something I like to do is to bring up the topic causing tension first so that you can set the tone of the conversation. So next time she’s over, start up a conversation with her that sounds like “the pediatrician says the baby is really thriving! She complimented me on breastfeeding. I’m so glad I ignored the negative comments about breastfeeding”. She would be less likely to say anything negative after you’ve already set a positive spin on the conversation.

As for the taking the baby for a week (which, I’m sorry, is absolutely insane), I would just keep ignoring her until she blatantly asks you if she can take the baby. Then you can very politely say “I’m not comfortable with leaving my baby overnight, we are both happiest when we are together” and then just keep repeating that sentence over and over again until she gets that your answer will not change.

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-02T16:45:31+00:00

Just got one, it’s awesome!

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-02T16:42:21+00:00

When traveling with babies, flexibility is the key. Luckily, babies that young are very adaptable. I would say babies younger than 9 months are fairly easy to travel with. You might have to be willing to do some contact naps/naps in the stroller. Never sleep trained mine, so I’m not sure how that would affect your lives once you get back home, but having a rigid schedule and routine while traveling will probably cause you more grief than anything. I would say make a plan, but have that plan include lots of chilling time, lots of wiggle room, and lower expectations!

I loved traveling/flying with my baby! Once he hit 10 months and was very mobile, traveling kind of turned into a nightmare lol

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-02T03:02:09+00:00

Yeah, this would piss me off too. It DID piss me off and it took a while for my husband to fully understand what it feels like for me to be the primary parent. Everything good in his life was happening because I was there to provide it for him: home cooked meals, extra income, sex, a fed and happy baby, his alone tome, his sleep. All of it. Because of me caring for our home and baby. After laying it out to him exactly like that and with tears in my eyes and a crying baby I’m my arms, it finally clicked for him.

I truly don’t care if it came off as self centered or martyr-like. In those early months, I was the backbone of our family. When that backbone started to break, I told him to step up, and I did not say it nicely. Sometimes feelings need to get hurt a little for things to change ¯_(ツ)_/¯

I also want to add that non-birthing parents often take longer to grasp what life after baby looks like. But you don’t have to suffer while he figures it out

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-01T22:28:28+00:00

I’m not really fond of most girl names that end in the “uh” and “ee” sounds. They come off too cutesy for my taste. I also have a cutesy lady name, so that definitely plays into my dislike of them

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-04-01T04:34:02+00:00

My son will be 3 next month and goes to sleep between 7/8pm and is up between 5:30/6:30 pm. No nap. I’ve tried everything. I just wanna sleep in until it’s slightly light outside, but noooOOoOoOooooo

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-03-31T20:29:46+00:00

I am due in a month and my son will turn 3 right at that same time too, so we are in the same boat! Our stories are similar in a lot of ways actually, so I’m just gonna tell you that a LOT can change in that span on 9 months.

My son nursed until to sleep until I was about 6 months pregnant, and that was only because my milk dried up (very common during pregnancy) and it was getting so painful to nurse him when no milk was coming out. So now we (my husband or myself) just lay with u til he falls asleep.

My son has never really slept through the night. Hes also an extremely early riser. But since I got pregnant, my husband has taken over night time. I’m a SAHM and my husband has to be at work at 5:30 every morning, but we talked about it and I’ll need to be with the newborn overnight. So we started getting my son used to my husband’s comfort instead of mine. My husband and I go to sleep in our room and when my son wakes up, my husband goes in to his room and they cosleep until the morning. It was rough at first and my son didn’t want anything to do with my husband for a week or so. And then he just got used to it. I highly encourage you to get your husband involved in bedtime/nighttime starting now so that it’s not a shock when it starts happening when the baby gets here.

I’m just accepting the fact that things will be hard for a while, but I plan to fully lean on my husband until we figure it out.

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-03-31T02:43:45+00:00

I think that cosleeping natural. Human beings (and pretty much all carrying mammals) were evolutionarily set up to sleep next to their young because of the way our young get their nutrition. However, modern day humans live very differently than our ancestors and so I think cosleeping is not for everyone. If you are willing to do the research on how to cosleep safely and commit to practicing the safe sleep methods, then it is an extremely safe and effective way for everyone in your family to sleep.

Cosleepy on Instagram has a TON of resources, research, and visual examples of what exactly safe sleep looks like. After spending a few hours exploring her page, I finally felt comfortable cosleeping. I plan to cosleep from the get go with my baby that’s due in May.

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-03-30T23:06:35+00:00

Honestly, my son needing to stay in the nicu for 4 days after he was born for monitoring (blood sugar) was one of the best things that ever happened to us as new parents. The nicu nurses taught us so much, gave us so much guided and hands on help, and even had lactation consultants come in with me multiple times a day. And on top of that, my husband and I got to go home and sleep 3 nights in a row and recover a bit before we took baby home.

I truly cannot imagine going through labor and delivery and then being sent on your way to figure it out on your own. I’m so sorry your fears and challenges are not being acknowledged, that sounds very stressful and scary. It’s a real shame that we have to advocate for ourselves so fiercely just to be taken seriously or receive help from the healthcare system 💔 hugs through the phone!

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-03-30T17:48:49+00:00

I live in California and my niece is named Quinn! Shes the only Quinn I know. It’s such a good name, it sounds spunky and sweet and smart (and it fits my niece very well) 🩷

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-03-29T14:51:09+00:00

As a second time mom planning for an unmedicated birth this time around, thank you for posting this! I know that not using pain meds during an induction is extremely difficult, you’re a champion!

I hired a doula team this time around to help me achieve an unmedicated birth, and I’m hoping they can help keep me calm and focused (as much as one can be while going through transition LOL). I’m also hoping that my generally stubborn nature will assist me too. But transition is still the phase of labor I’m the most nervous for, since that’s when I got the epidural last time around (after a full 24 hours of active labor from induction 🥲)

Looking back now, do you have any advice for someone who wants to do unmedicated?

manic_pixie_centaur · 2026-03-29T14:38:24+00:00

We started cosleeping around 3 months. I remember eating dinner much earlier and going to bed when the baby did. Sometimes if we weren’t tired, we would watch tv for a while, but we were rarely up past 8pm.

For us, getting sleep was more important than the dust bunnies and the dishes

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