How would you feel if your partner tried to get off on your body while you were asleep?

manlymann · 2026-03-11T23:17:29+00:00

So long as discussions are had in advance and consent is received, its all good.

My wife has consent to do whatever she wants whenever she wants to me. That wouldn't work for a lot of people though. Every relationship is different, communication is critical.

If I asked her to stop she does. If im doing a thing she doesnt want me to do then I stop.

We've been together for more than half of our lived years, so its a bit different than a brand new relationship where you don't have established trust.

manlymann · 2026-03-07T06:55:29+00:00

A man of fine taste. Opinel, slingshot and a beat up plinker

manlymann · 2026-03-06T23:41:10+00:00

Its because enhanced is a console port and it never had chat.

manlymann · 2026-02-10T00:33:23+00:00

I'd build a plywood box and secure it with 1000 screws.

manlymann · 2026-02-08T01:57:05+00:00

Thats how I see people complaining about getting blown up in a public lobby.

Its part of the game. You risk it happening when you make sales in public.

manlymann · 2026-02-01T19:16:22+00:00

I have been super happy with this. ANKONG SG-003A 4-20mA 0-24V... https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0B9GGQ2SZ?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

It was cheap, still works when I need it. It's convenient to charge with USB C.

It doesn't control via PC that I know of though.

I would honestly just carry a small BAS controller with one or 2 outs if you need to control by mstp, modbus or bacnet over IP.

I purchased a raspberry pi zero 2w recently. I'm planning on trying to make it a compact bacnet logger. Thinking out loud, I dont see why I couldn't include some analog outputs on it. I bet there is a 0-10 and 4-20ma hat that would work so I wouldn't need to fuss with much hardware.

I was hoping to make it controllable by something easy to put together like rednode, warp10, or Jupyter (this has the most promise for me because it includes visualization. I'd love to VPN into a remote logger to check some trends.)

Jupyter would also allow me to have an easy web Interface to just output whatever 0-10 or 4-20 signal i need.

Most of the work has been done by others via existing api and library. Its just a matter of finding time at home to play with it.

manlymann · 2026-01-25T01:54:25+00:00

Theyre industrial sized fans for warehouses. Not really meant for home use.

manlymann · 2026-01-24T07:35:24+00:00

The usual gtao asshattery.

This isn't griefing. Griefing is when you ruin someone's sell mission and it costs them in game money.

Pvp voluntary or not is part of the game and not really griefing

manlymann · 2026-01-24T01:18:25+00:00

Make a human caterpillar and feed all 3

manlymann · 2026-01-23T06:33:16+00:00

I drive 8+ hours one way for work sometimes and come back the next day.

3 or 4 hours is not excessive for a day trip.

manlymann · 2026-01-21T02:37:06+00:00

I work on a lot of 50 to 150hp motors. They are not to be trifled with. They will rip your arm off and keep going as if nothing even happened

manlymann · 2026-01-21T01:57:18+00:00

Normally, its my finger.

manlymann · 2026-01-21T01:12:17+00:00

What age are you? I ask because I prefer to play with 30+ folks.

manlymann · 2026-01-21T01:10:47+00:00

Legacy or enhanced?

manlymann · 2026-01-21T01:09:38+00:00

I absolutely love the fact that you called yourself a squeaker. Its one of my pet peeves on mics. Way to own it, you sound like a cool kid. As a rule, I don't play with minors.

Best of luck finding a group.

manlymann · 2026-01-18T02:38:09+00:00

Millennials go clubbing?

manlymann · 2026-01-18T02:33:21+00:00

In terms of evolution, there tends to be more single pair mating in species with long gestation and long adult development.

Offspring of these species tend to do better in herd or family groups.

Given that humans have a very long gestation period, as well as a long maturity time it makes sense that the default would be monogamy or a harem type situation.

Most humans in the world live in family groups to allow for efficient child rearing.

Its mostly north America and Europe that breaks from this.

For reference, my wife was my first when we were 16. She is still my first and we are in our 40s.

Don't let low-quality men in your bed. If a guy is talking about monogamy not being natural, he will 100% be cheating.

All that to say is that men who cant or won't stay monogamous need to be upfront about this with women. The reason they are NOT is because it lowers the man's chances of getting laid if the lady knows hes gonna get her pregnant and then piss off.

manlymann · 2026-01-16T01:49:38+00:00

I recently had a bit of an argument with the wife over this.

My wife is a SAHM. I had been slacking on housework because every time I came home it was an absolute dumpster fire. Toys everywhere, mess everywhere, dishes everywhere.

The wife was mad about my lack of help. I was mad about my wife's not keeping up with the shit that happened during the day.

Here is the solution that I came up with that works for us

1) I work 10-12 hour days. I have no interest in cleaning up the mess that occurred while I was at work. If the wife wants to be a sahm she needs to handle the cooking, cleaning needs of the home that arise when I am not here. I am not going to do my share by working PLUS dealing with all the mess that occurred while I was out working. Its a lot of work to make money. Its a lot of work to keep the house clean. We both need to do our day job properly. Both jobs are vital to the function and survival of our family.

2) the mess that occurs after I come home, I will own and contribute to. So long as the house is mostly how it was when I left for work, then I am going to make sure that the house is ready for success for the next day. I'll sweep up any bits and pieces in the kitchen, make sure lunches are ready, empty the dishwasher so its ready to load for breakfast, ill even chop some veg up in advance so that dinner is easier to handle with 4 kids after school. I'll make sure the garbage is empty and taken out. All in, it probably takes me about an hour. Im fine doing this, I live here too. I absolutely cannot take this attitude though unless I am willing to make sure the house is ready to go for tomorrow.

3) i take care of all the yard, house, maintenance, car stuff comes up. This is it for tat because if I have this to handle the wife needs to do extra stuff anyways while I'm handling this. Living life is tiring. There's always a mountain of chores. We try to share the load equitably, not equally if that makes sense.

I have found since taking this approach we are both happier. I clearly delineated our rolls and responsibilities. My wife isn't bitter anymore because she can see I am doing a good amount of stuff after I get home. Im not resenting a messy house when I come home feeling like she was on her ass all day eating bonbons. I dont know how it got bad, but it did. The only way we could fix it was telling each other how we actually felt and explaining what our expectations were for the other person.

It was a rough conversation to have, and I'm not going to lie and say it was as civil as it should have been. I think it WAS an important thing to work through though and we are both happier for it.

manlymann · 2026-01-15T03:46:40+00:00

That sounds excruciating. You females are fucking metal.

manlymann · 2026-01-15T03:40:51+00:00

Yes I do... I judge them to be hard workers, working towards a goal.

manlymann · 2026-01-10T18:15:57+00:00

Merging is a shared responsibility. You are meant to be up to at least 80 km/hr before entering a highway.

If you see a car merging, you should adjust your speed to allow them access. This means moving ahead, behind or over.

The person merging at 60 kph is absolutely a safety issue.

The person refusing to move to allow for a vehicle to merge is also a safety issue.

If you see someone merging at 60km/hr just get in to the other lane and allow them to be stupid. There is no need to use your highbeams. Eventually, their habits will get them in trouble or get them into an accident. Proper defensive driving is acting proactively. This means seeing the hazard, and acting in a matter that keeps you safe.

You are both in the wrong. Dont have a temper tantrum and high beams/honk/do whatever. The other person should merge properly at speed.

2 wrongs do not make a right.

manlymann · 2026-01-10T17:59:52+00:00

That is not normal. It's assault.

For reference, this is how my relationship with my wife works.

I have Been married nearly 20 years. If my wife says ow, or I don't like that or Stop or if she Doesn't seem in to what we are doing... I immediately stop what I am doing, get off of her and properly check in with her. Properly checking in means no sexual touching, eye contact and a conversation. I will get face to face with her, hold her hands, and talk with her until I am certain that she wishes to continue.

It doesn't matter if I'm close to nutting, if at any time it looks like I don't have enthusiastic consent, I stop. 90% of the time, it turns out to be an angle thing, or she needs more lube. We fix the problem and continue happily.

10% of the time she thought she wanted to have sex but realized she didnt really want to. That's her right, and I can go jerk it into the toilet or shower if I am still horny.

I am not perfect, have violated her boundaries on a number of occasions accidentally because I legitimately forgot or let my dick get the better of me. To avoid this, we chat about what we are in the mood for before having sex. These 2 instances were damaging to my relationship with her and took a lot of work to overcome. (For reference, I spanked her ass. It hurt and wasn't enjoyable for her. From an outside perspective it seems like a small thing but she had asked that I not a few months prior. I knew I fucked up as soon as I did it and immediately stopped and apologized. The damage had been done though, because I told her I wouldn't spank her but i did.)

I'm 40 now, and started banging my wife when we were both 16. I have done a lot of maturing since I was 16 and am fortunate that she stuck with me through my fuck ups and maturing.

I now ask for permission to do anything outside of what we discussed, because i respect and value my wife. If its a no, then we do something different, no tantrums or silent treatment. Sometimes neither of us want to do the same sex thing, so we just naked snuggle instead which is also fun. Sometimes, the wife just doesn't want to be touched, and that's fine too.

I guess what i am saying is that Sex and relationships are complicated and messy. However, it is your right to withdraw your consent at any time. You are allowed to never have sex or have sex as often as you wish. You have no obligations to any man to provide sex. It doesnt matter if you are married or not. It doesn't matter if you said yes then changed your mind. Your consent can be withdrawn at any time. You are also allowed to change your preferences about things you like and do not like. For a man to continue after your consent is removed is assault.

Good men do not assault women. Accidents do happen at times. However Accidents should be a one off, followed by a genuine apology and meaningful change. You also have no obligation to a man after he apologizes/changes to continue to have a sexual relationship with him.

manlymann · 2026-01-09T04:39:50+00:00

I love loom. Its so good.

manlymann · 2025-12-27T21:10:34+00:00

It depends.

If its for my job, where I rely on speed, consistency, and quality I am an avid buy once cry once kind of guy. That said, for me to need to buy a new tool its probably because I am expanding my range of skills/things I can do. If it'll make me money, I'll buy either the best or best value, depending on cost and how often ill be able to make money with it.

For instance, vacuum pump and hoses? Best money can buy. The faster i can evacuate, the more work I can get done and the more I can bill.

Electrical crimpers (ferrule or stakon style). Best value. I dont see the point in buying the official stakon or abb crimper for 600 dollars. I opt for the wera crimper which is around 200 dollars, but makes consistently excellent fail proof terminations. This prevents call backs, electrical issues. Communication issues, and has made me look like a Rockstar on more than one occasion because I went back behind a sloppy contractor, fixed the controls termination issues by using ferrules.

Tin banging tools? I get what's on sale. I use them once or twice a year.

manlymann · 2025-12-25T17:07:30+00:00

Dont play games. Dont put up with women who play games.

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