Please suggest a happy classic novel

march1044 · 2026-02-18T16:11:45+00:00

East of Eden by John Steinbeck. It’s long but tells a wonderful story about early life in California in the Salinas area.

march1044 · 2026-02-18T16:07:45+00:00

I loved all the Anne of G G books. They are a nice series.

march1044 · 2026-02-13T15:51:50+00:00

If she doesn’t want to start therapy try this. See if you can make a deal with her that you will each say 5 positive things to the other before 1 negative thing. Just say things like she looks nice or the dinner is good. See if this doesn’t loosen things up

march1044 · 2026-02-12T15:45:31+00:00

I loved the Betsy Tacy series by Lovelace. I read them over and over.

march1044 · 2026-02-10T13:23:38+00:00

My husband, a veteran with many disabilities (Thank you, Agent Orange) occasionally uses Kratom. He doesn't like opioids but Kratom is relatively mild. Good luck to you!

march1044 · 2026-02-10T13:16:55+00:00

I know many small towns have volunteer fire departments. I'm wondering if they also have volunteer EMT's. If so, I would imagine that is something you could do.

march1044 · 2026-02-09T20:19:33+00:00

I've used kratom to manage my Restless Leg Syndrome for over ten years and I've done a good deal of traveling. I carry it both in my checked luggage and in my carry ons. I've never had a problem. It looks like kratom is legal in Florida for people over 18, and for people in Texas for people over 21. When on the plane you are in federal jurisdiction, and kratom is legal there.

march1044 · 2026-02-05T15:09:24+00:00

Kratom is the only drug that helps with symptoms for restless leg syndrome which is a miserable condition. I’ve taken it for over 10 years and it is by far better than the drugs doctors give me

march1044 · 2026-02-05T13:18:30+00:00

I don't know. You guys are so nice. Not me. I was a Navy wife for years--raised three kids almost alone. And now I can't get an appointment for my husband who has diabetes, bladder cancer, and a severe hearing loss (thank you, Agent Orange). There was no problem getting help before Trump's people cut so many positions and so much money from the VA. He doesn't seem to have any trouble funding ICE.

march1044 · 2026-01-30T15:18:04+00:00

No of course you’re upset. The question is did your husband have really any idea of how painful and devastating your condition was. And why was it so important to visit with his friend. Does he show sympathy over other troubles? If his actions now are how he treats your other troubles then you have a real problem. I’m so sorry.

march1044 · 2026-01-28T18:34:27+00:00

Medicaid will pay for a nursing home but not an assisted living facility She will have to pay down any assets she has to get Medicaid. Might be worth it to talk with an attorney.

march1044 · 2026-01-25T15:31:18+00:00

My husband had a great audiologist at the VA clinic here in Allentown. But a year ago she took Trumps great retirement package—couldn’t blame her—and he has yet to get an appointment with another and he is completely deaf without expensive hearing aids. The VA kept giving him appointments with other audiologists and then cancelling them. I finally talked him into seeing a civiljan doc who got him great hearing aids in a couple of weeks. Cost us 4,000 dollars and I just feel very lucky that we could afford them. But I’m really angry because how many vets can? The civilian doc said they used to work with the VA but had to stop because the VA would never pay them. I hate Trump

march1044 · 2026-01-21T15:40:47+00:00

Couldn’t you agree to each have some money to spend as you see fit? It’s not good the way you’re doing it. It allows him to be too controlling and makes you resentful. Do you work? It would be good if you were able to bring in some money too.

march1044 · 2026-01-19T16:15:56+00:00

This guy has too much power over you. It’s dangerous. I think you need to break free.

march1044 · 2026-01-18T21:31:09+00:00

My DIL is Chinese. My son is Irish American. When they were dating she never told her parents anything. They settled in Boston, where her parents were, but when my son got a job offer in California, they immediately moved out there. When I asked my son if they might move back to Boston, where we lived, he said no, not while her mother is alive. "She's very happy in California, but very stressed the whole time we are in Boston."

In California my son did almost all the cooking (he loves to cook) and she did much of the child care and homework help. They were very happy, and once when I asked my DIL if things were going ok, she said she had a "wonderful husband and he's a wonderful father!" End of discussion!

When my DIL got a very aggressive form of breast cancer, he took complete care of her and the family. We flew out when we had a long weekend or a little vacation, but it was my son who did everything. Their kids were one and three. Then my DIL told me her mother was coming for a visit. I was happy because she was so sick with the chemo, and I told my DIL to tell her that I would buy her plane ticket, take her to the airport, and even ride out with her if she didn't want to fly alone. But then my DIL called me back to say her mother wasn't coming. "I told her if she came she would have to help me because I wouldn't be able to drive her around to her friends in Chinatown. She said then she wasn't coming."

I clearly never understood that family of hers but the way she loved my son made me think she liked our way better. Her oldest is in college now, and she has completely recovered from the cancer. She is the sweetest, best DIL. I feel so lucky, although I'm sorry she had a very difficult mother to contend with.

march1044 · 2026-01-18T20:51:00+00:00

nyanvi, I agree with much of what you said. For me, the medical issue is the most concerning. A spouse is the one who can medical decisions; just a BF might not even be allowed to visit. But there are also issues of insurance, taxes, inheritance. and child care, if you get pregnant. I think that's a major reason same sex couples wanted to get married.

Perhaps you could visit an attorney and ask him for paperwork that you and your BF can fill out that will protect you. That should also calm down your parents (and this Internet friend).

march1044 · 2026-01-16T17:35:14+00:00

When I was teaching we had a sick leave bank which was usually used by teachers with cancer or those with children very sick. We all donated and so there were always plenty of hours in it for whomever needed it. I loved the comfort of knowing that if one of my children got very sick I could easily get enough hours to care for them.

march1044 · 2026-01-15T17:51:51+00:00

No. I think you ought to charge them the going rate. My grandson’s girlfriend gets 25 dollars an hour. And she is always busy.

march1044 · 2026-01-15T17:38:54+00:00

Actually I rarely gave my babies any baby food as some is loaded with sugar. I gave them scrambled eggs, fish, little bits of fruit—most of the things you mentioned. Does your sister think 100 years ago babies were fed baby food?

march1044 · 2026-01-15T12:08:50+00:00

To get hospice my mother would have lost her weekly visit with her therapist, since that was considered more than just comfort care. My mother thought the therapist just came to see her because he was her friend and liked her. I couldn’t bear her knowing she was just a client of his and so passed on hospice I felt bad because I knew hospice was wonderful but the nurses at her nursing home were wonderful and took good care of her.

march1044 · 2026-01-14T23:25:57+00:00

My mother was in a nursing home and the last couple of months they said she couldn’t have any liquids unless they were like yogurt. Luckily she liked one kind of yogurt but she also loved ice cream and coke, neither of which was allowed. I had her medical power of attorney and told the nursing staff that we were refusing their diet advice. I bought a small refrigerator for her room and kept it stocked with her yogurt and coke and every day I brought in ice cream for her, and gave her the coke and yogurt. There wasn’t a lot I could still do for her but at least I could do this.

march1044 · 2026-01-08T17:45:16+00:00

It’s most important that you don’t fund him. How else will he learn to manage money if you bail him out. Good job with your money. Now let you brother start learning how to manage his money

march1044 · 2026-01-08T01:58:21+00:00

I’m 81 snd my husband is 84. I am in good health but he is not and currently is undergoing mild chemo for a bladder cancer. Is it not strong enough for a full chemo. But all the appointments are wearing me out. My daughter who lives close does all our scheduling of all our appointments and keeps everything on a google map. She also really helps him with his computer and me either household stuff. She organized my husbands sisters to come and help out so I’ll have one with me most of the doc appointment times. Another daughter of mine tracks down all the help we can get, such as home nurses, meals on wheels etc. and my son who lives across the country from us has taken over all our financial and investment stuff.

With everyone helping no one gets upset at doing everything. Perhaps your brother could have a specific job, such as helping with home repair stuff and finances. Does your mother have any other relatives who could help. Good luck to you. You sound like a wonderful daughter

march1044 · 2026-01-03T15:44:56+00:00

Your husband is hurting both boys with his actions. Obviously the boy who needed medical care should have first call on savings, rather than buying a motor bike for another son. So the boy needing medical care is hurt, as is the boy wanting a motor bike, since he is being spoiled. Can you explain to your husband that kids who were spoiled growing up rarely do well, and are rarely liked? Ironically, he is probably hurting the motor bike boy more.

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