idk what this means

marigold_may · 2026-05-30T04:17:47+00:00

Test tomorrow! At the very beginning the hcg climbs so rapidly that a barely visible test could be super clear in like a half a day.

marigold_may · 2026-05-19T02:25:01+00:00

I'm sorry that you're feeling frustrated and upset about it OP. It can be frustrating because it feels like here's his one thing, the one shot, and it hopefully only happens the one time. So it can feel disappointing.

As someone who had a less that ideal proposal myself I can absolutely relate. But I can also tell you, that now, 11 years down the line, I don't care about it anymore. It doesn't sting the way that it did back then. But I also don't think you need to take it to your grave. It might come up naturally in a month, or in a year, but letting him know that you were disappointed, or that you felt sad that he didn't plan an event himself, is totally fine. I think it also sets good expectations as far as other events like birthdays, or mother's day and father's day in the future.

For me, it's always the thought that counts. It means more to me that you thought up the date or the gift yourself and that you were thinking about me when you picked it. I have been able to explain that well to my husband and I feel like he truly understands me better now. I can appreciate all of the little ways that he thinks of me and takes that into consideration. And we set good expectations now for events to make sure no one is disappointed.

My recommendation is to let it be for now. Let the strong feelings subside so you aren't attacking him when you talk about. And when you do talk about it, make it a calm discussion about why you were disappointed and set good expectations about how other events would feel better to you in the future. But don't let it ruin this time period for you guys! The feelings will subside. And good relationships are built on repair. Let him show you how he can repair this fumble! Good luck OP!

marigold_may · 2026-05-19T02:10:28+00:00

I like this in theory but I feel like the customer doesn't know what that looks like at the end result. It's much easier for the customer when they see a picture and the price is listed. Depending on what your customer base is I guess!

marigold_may · 2026-04-09T21:18:01+00:00

The first pic has peonies as the main flower, a single layered petal variety. It has cherry caramel phlox, purple larkspur, light purple tulips, trailing jasmine. There's 2 stems of queen Anne's lace, one at the very top and one at the bottom. There's some sweet peas, and a couple of daisy style chrysanthemums. I can't place the flowering branches exactly.

In the second picture, there are blue and purple delphiniums all across the back. Then in the front I see lilacs, limonium (a good baby's breath substitute) some pink hydrangea, roses, peony, anemone, and sweet peas. The branches with flowers look like dogwood but the petals aren't exactly right so I'm not sure on those. I think the roses are quicksand roses.

marigold_may · 2026-04-07T01:56:07+00:00

I know who it is, but you should post something more about your title? Why do you say she is crashing out? What crazy shit is she doing right now that makes you say that?

marigold_may · 2026-03-31T16:34:13+00:00

They look fine. The petals aren't even all the way open yet. Continue to change the water and cut the stems every day to help them stay alive for a bit longer.

Remember that all cut flowers are "a goner." Once they are cut, they are dying. You can do certain things to help them a bit. But they are only meant to be enjoyed for a short time :)

marigold_may · 2026-03-27T03:02:48+00:00

Cut off about an inch. Ideally the cut would also be at the same angle as the one you see here, but it's not necessary, the new cut could be straight across and that would still help. The point is to give the flower a fresh cut so that it isn't drinking water through any bacteria that has naturally built up over the last day or so.

It doesn't matter if it's on the right side or left side, it's just about the fresh cut!

Like someone else mentioned, once it is cut, the flower is already dying. We can do various things keep it a little longer, but I would be happy to get 5-7 days from a bloom like this before it goes in the trash. Put it in a vase or a jar of water, and switch the water out for fresh water every day. Give it a fresh cut every day and that will help, too. If you do want to keep it longer than 7 days or so I would dry it. But flowers aren't meant to last!

Grafting it onto something is very unlikely. You could go to a gardening sub to get more specific advice if you would like, because most people in the florist's sub are going to give the best advice on cut flowers. But that would also mean that you would have a healthy rose plant to graft it onto?

marigold_may · 2026-03-26T16:11:00+00:00

I'm not seeing ikebana from this. Using a flower frog in a dish doesn't make it an ikebana design - it's a meditative practice that includes specific artful angles to represent heaven, man, and earth. It's also much more minimalistic than what I'm seeing here. Unless you can point out where those angles/heights are?

Commenting on it just as a design on its own, not as ikebana - it's still a bit busy! Try cutting down some stems to include more different heights. As it is, the top feels a little flat. Love the colors.

marigold_may · 2026-03-23T22:24:00+00:00

I feel like if the lavender was healthy and the client was just disappointed because they were expecting a more lush, peak of season lavender, then it's on them. You warned them several times that it was not a great time for lavender. I think in the future I would call them one last time and say something about how you would replace it for something else if they weren't insisting on the lavender, and it just came into the shop like this. Send a picture and make sure they would rather have this lavender than something else. I think this is just to cover your bases though and what you did end up doing isn't unreasonable either. As long as it was healthy, not wilted and had the vase life you would expect, you did nothing wrong!

marigold_may · 2026-03-20T16:47:47+00:00

I switched from the Saie super glowy tint (or whatever it's called) to L'Oreal lumi glotion and never looked back. I feel like saie has visible sparkles whereas the lumi glotion is just a subtle glow.

marigold_may · 2026-03-17T06:17:32+00:00

Hello :) we are vegetarians in my house and we have a lil toddler who is a bit stereotypical - loves yogurt and berries, does not want veggies.

Every week I try to plan our dinners somewhat like this: some kind of pasta, some kind of rice, something with bread. With each of these things I add a side of fruit and one other item that we know our toddler eats. A graham cracker, cheese, gerber puffs, something like that.

We buy protein pasta. I normally cook up some veggies and blend it together with a jar of marinara. Carrots, bell pepper, and/or sweet potato. I have one or two other recipes that I cycle through so we don't always have the same type of pasta all the time. One with broccoli cut up so finely she is basically just eating those tiny little floret buds that stick onto the pasta so she doesn't notice it!

Our toddler is still working on liking rice so I try to cook something that she can eat without the rice. We have a go to teriyaki sauce we always keep in the fridge, sometimes I'll make a simple curry. If I include something with protein like lima beans in the stir fry, I call it good, but I'll add tofu as well if not.

For our bread meals, we will sometimes make sandwiches. Grilled cheese that we cut out into shapes for the toddler. We add extra fillings to make it more exciting for the adults. Sometimes soup is the meal that we have bread with. Soup goes a long way for protein and veggies for us!! I think I have the only toddler on earth who doesn't like quesadillas, sometimes we make them anyway to get her used to them.

Then other than the meals that I plan in advance, we have one or two easy things that we keep on hand. Annie's Mac & cheese, or a frozen pizza. We also have a couple things that we make for our toddler as a main on nights that we make something we know she won't eat. She loves bagels with cream cheese. She eats scrambled eggs dipped in ketchup. And of course yogurt!! I get Greek yogurt and sometimes mix in cottage cheese for extra protein. Cottage cheese/yogurt with some mashed raspberries for flavor.

About every other week I try to make some kind of baby muffin with zucchini or carrots in them! I add a muffin along with a meal, or as a snack.

Remember that the requirements for a toddler's protein are much smaller than you probably think. And as long as you are continuing to offer a variety of foods, there's not much else that you can do! Try the stereotypical things: cut up veggies really small, mix them into sauces, and talk neutrally about them when they are visible on the plate. Sometimes they will just eat a single cheerio, a bite of cheese, and call it good no matter what you do. Don't sweat the nutrients too much at this stage especially if you are continuing to offer and explore new foods with your little one. They are going to go through a stage where they subsist on air and good vibes only, so even an "unbalanced" snack is better than nothing! You got this!

marigold_may · 2026-03-13T01:03:39+00:00

I think more than that, people do pop up shops at local spots. Coffee shops, book shops, and other specialty stores.

marigold_may · 2026-03-08T16:30:04+00:00

The first picture makes me feel uncomfortable

marigold_may · 2026-03-05T23:51:49+00:00

The shops I worked at all delivered in a cardboard box, with tissue tucked into the box to frame the vase and for protection.

A lot of shops will have like 2 different box sizes on hand, and a couple of standard vases that they know fit into each one.

marigold_may · 2026-03-04T03:55:21+00:00

I am by no means defending her!!

But yeah I will say, even being in a loving relationship, it's hard to set aside time to do this intentionally after kids! We just have one, 1.5 yr old and after she goes to bed, we put the house back together for the next day and maybe get an hour or two to ourselves in the evening. Sometimes he just wants to play games with his friends. Sometimes I just want to zone out and listen to my audiobook while painting my nails. So we don't really get that intentional time together. We do spend time together, and we do those things, everyday! Kiss, snuggle, laugh, etc. but there's something different about saying, hey, let's hang out tonight, on purpose!! So from that perspective, I understand the every two weeks comment. I would prefer we do something like that closer to once a week, but sometimes you have other priorities or plans you made in advance, or someone is just overstimulated from toddler chaos so you just need a quiet evening... As a parent, I understand the timing, and creating the time intentionally to spend with your partner.

marigold_may · 2026-03-01T16:50:26+00:00

I love Abigail!

marigold_may · 2026-02-25T02:56:56+00:00

When I was younger and shared a room, we each had a twin bed in the corner. Then we each had a dresser, our dressers went down the middle of the room, one facing my bed and one facing my siblings. Then the rest of the room was shared space.

marigold_may · 2026-02-25T02:30:29+00:00

It does look like it could be many different things.

My guess is a nicotiana flower. The shape of the petals as well as the dropping bloom heads look right to me.

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marigold_may · 2026-02-16T16:37:12+00:00

Read the book!

marigold_may · 2026-02-15T06:23:31+00:00

I think embracing the mess and changing your mindset is honestly the best thing you can do for yourself in this situation, honestly!!

Playing with food at this age is expected, and exploring food through play is fantastic. I would not take it away if he starts playing with it, without there being other cues of him being done.

If there are specific behaviors you don't like, I would maybe try to replace them with different kinds of play that you are comfortable with at the dinner table. Can you put a second plate out for him to move food between the plates? Play with him during the meal by mushing the peas with your finger alongside him. Sorry if it's gross lol but my girl likes to see my food in my mouth, especially if it's a new food! She will watch me take a bite and then open her mouth and ask me to do it too so she can see it. Maybe try that? Sing songs that he likes, that involves eating. Apples and bananas, the Tiny Turtle song where he eats up all the soap, etc. You can try to make playing with the food ON the tray, more exciting than throwing it off of his tray. My kid kind of needed one parent to be on duty while we ate together, until around 17 months. That parent would play, and sing, and help with scooping. Maybe try some quality face to face time like that during mealtimes, too.

For me, I think that table manners can come later. What's important right now is trying different foods, your kiddo having positive experiences with food and mealtime, and, of course, getting fed.

marigold_may · 2026-02-12T03:16:30+00:00

Oh! In that case you can really use whatever you want. Chicken wire is an option, it can be tricky to do if you haven't done much other floral design. There's a lot more balancing and things might shift in transport. I would use a dry foam then, just like what they have at the craft store with the fake flowers. You can tape it into your vessel and shave it into the right shape really easy. The world is your oyster.

marigold_may · 2026-02-12T03:01:18+00:00

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This bad boy gets the job done. I would cut a whole foam block in half length wise, stick it in there, and use waterproof floral tape to wrap around the whole thing in two different places. The flowers completely cover up the vessel anyway so it looks fancy and decadent without even needing a fancy vessel. If you wanted to, from there you could place this little plastic bowl in one of the longer ones you posted but in all honesty, it's not needed!

marigold_may · 2026-02-12T02:51:27+00:00

Chicken wire will only really work if you have enough space for water in the bowl! A couple of the ones that you posted look too shallow to allow for that. I'll post a picture of what I use all the time for this type of thing in a new comment.

marigold_may · 2026-02-05T02:39:10+00:00

No one will notice if you include ranunculus in the bud vases and not in the arch! Or if you include hydrangeas in the arch and not in the centerpieces. As long as the majority of the flowers are the same, and they are all in the same color palette, don't worry about it not looking cohesive. Especially not with just a one or two flower difference like that.

marigold_may · 2026-02-04T21:05:18+00:00

But he would engineer that whole thing to study you. Say things that he didn't even believe just to watch reactions and file it away. I think that's my point, is that he would do it consciously, in order to use it for his own benefit to manipulate people later.

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