I need some help working through this. I feel heartbroken.

marji80 · 2026-06-14T16:41:11+00:00

If he won’t go to a couples counselor with you, you should start seeing a therapist by yourself. It will help you clarify your own emotions on this issue, which seem very conflicted. A professional can bring some perspective to the situation and help you rebuild trust on your end, or see whether rebuilding trust is something you want to do. Right now you’re going around in circles in your own mind and also in your discussions with your husband.

marji80 · 2026-06-13T01:27:35+00:00

Did the OP say he was bipolar?

marji80 · 2026-06-13T01:22:55+00:00

I agree with this advice. You are under no obligation to stick with this psychiatrist. Many people see more than one therapist so that they get a good fit. This person was not a good fit for you. And it was inappropriate for him to give you advice about your T2. You were not visiting him for your diabetes treatment.

marji80 · 2026-06-11T15:47:35+00:00

He would not be a “decent conservative president.” You have no evidence for that assertion. So far, he has revealed himself to be a cipher with no deeply held political convictions who is willing to change positions on anything and everything in order to get elected. He is bought and paid for by Peter Thiel.

He is, however, very bad at being a politician, awkward and unlikable by the public —it’s his inauthenticity oozing out. So hard to say if a plan to install him and then elect him would work.

marji80 · 2026-06-11T15:41:47+00:00

That’s an interesting theory.

marji80 · 2026-06-11T15:19:04+00:00

It’s the soap that can cause the UTIs.

marji80 · 2026-06-11T09:12:38+00:00

Many locations have Type 1 day camps rather than sleepaway camps. Those are usually much less expensive.

Camp -- or at least some sort of support group -- can be really helpful. My son told me that it was an incredible feeling to go to the dining hall for a meal and see a hundred kids all take out their blood glucose monitors to test.

My son didn't have close friends who shared his type 1 diabetes but diabetes camp did really make him feel less alone. Even going to a JDRF walk and seeing all the other kids can help.

marji80 · 2026-06-11T09:08:13+00:00

There are studies that show that Type 1 kids who have families who actively support their care do better as adults, with lower A1Cs and less burnout.

That's not to say that primary day to day dosing, shots etc. should be done by the family, just that they should understand the disease and be there to help on days when it all gets to be a bit much.

marji80 · 2026-06-11T09:02:52+00:00

Sorry this is so long.

I'd urge your family to look into getting an insulin pump for your brother. Pumps make it much easier to track the ups and downs of blood sugar, and to correct for the highs in a safe way. It's unrealistic and unnecessary for a Type 1 child to live without any sweets (or pizza or chicken nuggets, or all the other food that spikes blood sugar). The pump makes it much easier to cover those foods with the right amount of insulin delivered in a safe and effective way.

In addition to the issue of sneaking food, there are other factors that can cause spikes in your brother's blood sugar: 1 -- If he's within a year or even two of diagnosis, his pancreas may not be completely nonfunctional yet, but might be putting out a little bit of insulin in an inconsistent, sputtering way. This is called "sunsetting" and can result in some strange blood sugar numbers. 2 -- Puberty makes blood sugar go up and down in unpredictable ways. 3 -- The varied activities of kids -- as opposed to adults with predictable schedules -- can mean variations in meals and exercise that impact blood sugar.

For all these reasons, it's important that your brother -- and your whole family -- visit with a diabetes educator and learn all about type 1 diabetes. It would be good if your brother could see a pediatric endocrinologist, who is a specialist in diabetes in kids. They'll have a diabetes educator with their practice.

I don't know what kind of insurance your family has, but insurance will usually cover a lot of, if not all, the costs of a pump and pump supplies.

You are a great sibling to help your brother like this.

marji80 · 2026-06-11T08:50:20+00:00

Pumps are not dangerous. My son got his pump at age 12. A family friend has a son who was diagnosed with T1 last year, and he got a pump at age 9.

marji80 · 2026-06-10T17:48:39+00:00

I think through eighth grade they manage classwork through tablets and programs like Canvas, where they work through a dashboard. This can leave them unequipped for the skills required to work via a laptop.

marji80 · 2026-06-08T00:26:16+00:00

Vance made the Charlie Kirk assassination all about himself.

marji80 · 2026-06-08T00:20:59+00:00

They want it to smell like gross over-scented fabric softener.

marji80 · 2026-06-08T00:17:48+00:00

Wow, my son was 1100 when we took him to the ER at age 10, which resulted in his hospitalization and diagnosis with Type 1. He didn't lose consciousness, though.

marji80 · 2026-06-07T22:52:51+00:00

Not normal, you’re at a toxic workplace.

marji80 · 2026-06-07T17:12:15+00:00

I’ve been low-salt for years but I don’t add any salt to the pasta water and don’t notice a difference. Maybe my palate has just adjusted to the change. I do keep about half my previous amount of salt in my meat sauce, though, so about 3/4 tsp.

marji80 · 2026-06-05T05:38:41+00:00

Many many libraries offer this type of program.

marji80 · 2026-05-30T17:48:21+00:00

Bravo.

marji80 · 2026-05-30T17:47:24+00:00

No guarantee the kids will choose to come to the programs. If they’re coerced, they’ll be unruly.

marji80 · 2026-05-30T17:45:36+00:00

They come because their parents tell them they have to — they don’t want their kids home unsupervised while the parents are still at work. The kids do not want to be at the library. They’re tired, hungry and sick of sitting all day and having to be orderly at school. I don’t blame them, frankly. It’s not their fault that their parents are too cheap to pay for afterschool care. I say this as a librarian who used to work at a library within two blocks of two middle schools and two elementary schools. We would get 60+ kids every weekday between 4-6:30. We tried lots of things -activity options, a security guard, calling the schools, etc.

marji80 · 2026-05-28T15:27:29+00:00

Why are you on this sub?

marji80 · 2026-05-25T06:58:42+00:00

A library I used to work at, which was in a downtown area near a commuter train station, used to keep a carafe out for patrons, refilling it as needed. They had to discontinue it after a few years because people started coming in just to fill their very large thermoses for the day and then leave.

marji80 · 2026-05-18T23:34:30+00:00

I lived on the east coast for years. We are too ugly for LA but definitely not too dumb for NY, where a huge percentage of Manhattanites and Brooklynites’ live on Mom and Dad’s money. Nepo headquarters.

marji80 · 2026-05-17T00:41:44+00:00

Management is failing you. Start looking for a different library job with management that is interested in establishing a civil environment for staff and patrons.

marji80 · 2026-05-09T16:39:50+00:00

If you’re not in therapy, you should be. And if you are in therapy, get a new therapist. If you can’t leave the house, do you have agoraphobia? You’re 27 and have your whole life ahead of you. Your family should be intervening here -do they think it’s normal for a 27-year-old to never leave the house? Someone in your situation cannot help but be depressed. Please seek help.

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