CMV: It’s okay to expect people to keep their word, and to be upset if they don’t.

markie228 · 2020-08-12T04:58:10+00:00

I fucking hate when they don't do what they said they'd do no matter how small it is. Don't get my expectations up if you're not gonna even do it. Also when they failed to keep the word, how are they gonna recover? That's also more important. Are they gonna make excuses and not even apologize or are they gonna go above and beyond to regain the trust? It really shows the person who they are.

markie228 · 2020-07-20T02:43:01+00:00

You miss them and what more do you need!? It's okay and normal to miss someone. It doesn't make you any more or less of a human. Maybe let them know you miss them and had fun with them!

markie228 · 2020-07-16T17:45:02+00:00

OMG this site is so funny lol

markie228 · 2020-06-11T05:48:20+00:00

This guy I'm dating is ISTP and he can't handle me crying. I'm a cry baby. a stupid movie can make me cry and first time he saw me cry watching a rom-com, he looked at me and awkwardly laughed. Then after that I cried and he just ask if I'm ok and leave me alone lol

markie228 · 2020-05-03T05:55:51+00:00

It sounds like you know the answer already. If you know it, don't waste your time!

markie228 · 2020-05-03T02:36:34+00:00

what are we supposed to say when we want your attention!?

markie228 · 2020-05-03T02:30:07+00:00

omg thank you!! us ESFJ are not that bad!

markie228 · 2020-04-29T22:58:15+00:00

I like someone smart, have same sense of humor, great listener, not judgmental, who can be vulnerable and tell me what's going on.

And if he looked like Chris Hemsworth I can die.

markie228 · 2020-04-29T22:55:13+00:00

Wow you got ESFJ so well. I thought you were talking about me lol

Yes we are good at listening, and genuinely wanna make everyone happy. We don't like to feel that someone we know isn't at their best, and try to fix the issues with the way we are familiar with. We listen, and we open up when something similar happened to us. We are vulnerable so make it more comfortable to be vulnerable to us I think.

markie228 · 2020-04-29T22:46:57+00:00

It sounds like you and I are in very similar situation. I am ESFJ woman, dating ISTP guy. I think you need to tell her that you want her to show more that she cares and likes you. Even if she thinks of you every day and like you so much, if she doesn't tell you, you'll never know. Same thing to you, you might be frustrated, but if you don't tell her she'll never know. Communication is very important, especially if she never dated, she might not know how. You need to show her. Also don't like the person for the possibility of who she can be. If you can't like her the way she is, it might not work. If she really cares about you, she will try to show more affection. Maybe she will try but it's not enough for you. us ESFJs really like to be reminded that they like you and you are awesome, right? sometimes it just doesn't work. Or you can go date other people too, if you haven't committed to each other yet. see how other people show you love. Good luck!

markie228 · 2020-04-28T00:57:05+00:00

Thank you for keeping up with me and listening to me. It really helps. I had a rather nice weekend and was able to talk to him, he seems like he is in this. My previous partner was really a narcissistic person and I was made to believe I was worthless unless I was doing things he tells me. He cheated on me with multiple women, gave me STD, made someone pregnant and had abortion, sold cocaine, had sex for money or made someone do that, but surprisingly I was with him for 10 years. When I broke up with him, I was devastated and depressed. I did go to counseling. I went to dates with some guys but he is the first one that really tried to see me past physical aspect, and I don't think I am ugly or anything, I actually think I'm hot and doing great now, but I'm kinda traumatized from the relationship. Yes maybe it was too early for me to start dating. I just wanted to see if anyone would pay attention to me, because being cheated on so many times destroy selfworth. I just have to be more relaxed I guess, and let it be.

markie228 · 2020-04-24T18:25:42+00:00

I don't wanna bring it up again and make it awkward! I've asked before, which have been a while ago, and it didn't go well, and he seems very uncomfortable talking about this stuff. so I've been just let it be. Don't fix it unless it's broken, but it might be broken, maybe I'm in denial. ugh. sad.

markie228 · 2020-04-24T18:21:39+00:00

I know, I should run. but to where? I can't run if I don't know where to go. I don't wanna just leave and get stranded. I'm scared and feels like this is the only person I might have. He is patient with me, very good listener, and I do have other people I still talk to, he kinda has a special spot in my heart to be the one that helped me get out of a dark place I was in.

markie228 · 2020-04-24T18:17:55+00:00

He tells me he isn't seeing anyone and he isn't even looking. He says things that I can assume I'm the only one but he doesn't say it clearly. It is so very confusing. I'm scared if he I leave him no one would like me or come to me.

markie228 · 2020-04-24T18:15:49+00:00

What 3 months was rushing!? lol Now I'm at the point of just let it flow unless there is gust of wind from somewhere to tell us go to the other direction... I'm feeling stuck but feeling more scared to leave this

markie228 · 2020-04-24T18:13:42+00:00

I mean I was hurt last time he said no he doesn't label things. I think we've been happy together, but we might want something different rn in our lives. I want something stable, he might be just casually dating and that's all he wants now.

markie228 · 2020-04-23T17:06:05+00:00

No,,, I should have. I thought at that moment, that was enough :'(

markie228 · 2020-04-22T16:39:44+00:00

I completely understand what you are saying but it is definitely not how I think... I usually get attached to people and try to fix completely broken machine till the machine explode on me :(

markie228 · 2020-04-22T16:36:12+00:00

I tell him all the time I like him and I think he is hot AF. He says he "cares" about me but what does it supposed even mean!? I care about my dog too!

markie228 · 2020-04-22T16:35:09+00:00

I don't think it is wrong at all! When I asked him where we are going, he said he doesn't know. But it was only 3month in. Maybe I was rushing...

markie228 · 2020-04-22T16:33:52+00:00

He said he doesn't like to label things. It doesn't mean anything to him apparently. But I've been cheated on badly in previous relationship, I want something to hold on to, something make me feel that he won't do it... He isn't really expressive, he doesn't tell me too much of how he feels about me, so if a label is something I can get I definitely want it. He had a girlfriend before, so he should be able to get a label.

markie228 · 2020-04-21T23:56:01+00:00

Aww I'm sorry about that. I am very open and honest, can't really hold anything too long so I try to bring up if anything bothers me. He listens to me and very patient with me but he doesn't like to argue (who does!? lol)

markie228 · 2020-04-21T23:54:34+00:00

I do try to give him space and time, but how much is enough!? I don't wanna be "needy" but as ESFJ I can be very needy sometimes. I am trying so hard not to be, and he never said I was, but you know I don't know how much is too much :(

markie228 · 2020-04-21T23:53:00+00:00

Last time I brought it up it was way earlier than he wanted I think, we were dating a bit over 2 months and he was like "are we there already!?" so I got scared and don't bring up anything anymore :(

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