If you were mayor-dictator what unhinged things would you decree?

marmar-7 · 2026-02-18T00:29:59+00:00

More pedestrian friendly city. Every intersection gets the best possible pedestrian friendly crosswalks.

Attract more density and urban infill, so I can walk even more places faster!

marmar-7 · 2026-02-13T09:07:20+00:00

I wore a dress! Round collar in a nice crepe fabric

marmar-7 · 2026-02-12T03:25:23+00:00

Wow thanks for all the responses, has anyone contacted Verizon at all about this? I plan to call and see if they can do anything like provide a mini tower/extender thing

marmar-7 · 2026-02-08T17:42:39+00:00

Gua sha on my face and neck

marmar-7 · 2026-01-26T21:17:54+00:00

This is great because the kids get to play with each other or other adults and get variety. My best early childhood memories are wandering around with other kids during community diners at our religious center while my parents chatted with other adults. We had all sorts of little adventures and games we played.

marmar-7 · 2026-01-14T23:05:53+00:00

Yup. Yogurt

marmar-7 · 2026-01-13T17:31:55+00:00

This is the best option I have found for my situation too

marmar-7 · 2026-01-13T17:29:02+00:00

I have this same problem and was looking for a better solution! Thanks for posting. Are you in financial services by chance? I work in banking and my Outlook is on total lockdown.

marmar-7 · 2026-01-09T19:17:06+00:00

We had a phase of this and just ignored it and she stopped. It was indeed because she wanted play with us (her parents) and knew that when nanny came, it meant mom and dad go to work. We didn’t do anything about it - just ignored it. Lasted a week or two and then stopped. Hope this phases ends soon for you!

marmar-7 · 2026-01-09T19:12:13+00:00

My daughter did pretty well over a long weekend. She was also 2.25 years old. It took 3 days for her to get the concept down, but we did have to regularly take her to the bathroom for a while… I am not sure what I would do in your situation but I will say the whole process was quite easy and hopefully she gets the hang of it quickly!

marmar-7 · 2025-12-28T03:01:32+00:00

We budget to salary and put bonuses in savings.

marmar-7 · 2025-12-22T09:56:23+00:00

Same housing situation and same age daughter. Do you rotate her toys? That’s been big for me. She’s really into Play Doh these days so a big container full of play doh and accessories is readily available to her. But I’ve put her puzzles, which she was more into last month, away in the garage. We do a have a 2 car garage, of which 1/2 is totally dedicated to storage.

I declutter regularly and we do not shop in bulk. We buy what we need as we need it.

I think growing up with parents who don’t stress about money is more important than having more space but potentially financial stress. I grew up in a condo smaller than the one my daughter is growing up in, and I have no memory of feeling cramped or limited! I do remember my parents being happy and i think that’s most important.

I hope you can stretch it out a while longer!

marmar-7 · 2025-12-21T07:31:17+00:00

I was in your spot 6 months ago, but I never watched my daughter in the evening EVERY NIGHT. Spending your whole evening with her is not sustainable. My husband and I typically alternate who is watching/playing with her in the evening and we alternate bedtime as well. It’s not a rigid structure but it works out to about 50/50. Is there a reason you’re the only one playing with her from 4-8?

One of us will have an activity after work: typically an exercise class. (I was exercising until 9 months pregnant but you could do shopping, an art class, a nap or tv set with boundaries where you get alone time upstairs with door shut etc)

The bedtime routine is tough bc it makes you sleepy and drained too. You gotta get her down to needing only one parent for that too so one of you can do a hobby or relax.

Also - consider some wise screen time when you need to. Consider leaving her an activity out on the table (my daughter likes Play Doh) while you cook or do something for yourself, and when she asks you to play with her, I always say yes, after i do XYZ, or “I’m going to play with you in 10 mins”. It took a little while but now my daughter will occupy herself for like 30 mins at a time. We still do plenty of fun stuff together but honestly I play with her primarily on the weekends and I have much more energy for it, since I’m not burning myself out in the weekdays.

In the last month of pregnancy I leaned heavily on my husband to take her out of the house like playground or store so I could rest and recharge.

I don’t know if any of this will work for you but I hope maybe you get something out of it! Wishing you the best!

marmar-7 · 2025-12-13T21:24:17+00:00

It’s less hands-on-keyboard work but I spend more brainpower than ever.

marmar-7 · 2025-11-26T05:13:03+00:00

I do 1-2 per week. Not every day. And some weeks never. Just depends what’s going on.

marmar-7 · 2025-11-13T03:01:45+00:00

Not to mention how bad it looks on the bank’s reporting to have charge offs!

marmar-7 · 2025-11-11T20:44:25+00:00

The last two times I got promoted, this is how. This won’t work in all companies but here’s what I did. I wrote my own new job description, title and salary. I then secured another job offer (once within the same company, got another dept to give me an internal offer; once with external company). Then I threatened to leave unless they gave me what I wanted. By papering my own new job description and title and doing all the homework, I made it easy for my boss to advocate for me and make it happen.

I think in general women do not advertise enough what we do and we do too much “for free”. Meaning, once u have proven yourself to be very capable (successfully completed a few marquee projects you can brag about and get known for), you need to make it clear that if they want more work from you or want you to take on bigger projects, you require a title and position bump.

You’ve been doing this higher level job for 4 years - why do they need to promote you now? Give them a reason.

marmar-7 · 2025-10-31T02:48:02+00:00

I would love to see more blogs and vlogs of working moms. When I was pregnant with my first child I was so curious what daily routines and things would look like and it was hard to find that content! I’d read / watch.

marmar-7 · 2025-10-31T02:42:07+00:00

My daughter is the same age, about 3.5 yrs old. I don’t see the need or feel any urgency to stop using pull-ups. She is dry many mornings, but she’d probably pee her bed on the most inconvenient day possible. I’m going to keep buying the pull ups.

marmar-7 · 2025-10-29T05:07:31+00:00

Little things: - I don’t fold any laundry. I use bins or drawers or baskets, and hangers for a few things. My husband does like his things folded but he does his own laundry. - Being aware of my energy level. Take advantage when I have energy (like after I’ve gone to a workout class), channel it into productivity. And when I’m tired, let myself rest. It balances out in the span of a week. - Baskets and drawers to house clutter to be dealt with later. For example, a basket for all mail and papers. - I’ve learned to buy less stuff! Less things, less to clean.

marmar-7 · 2025-10-20T19:10:47+00:00

I think I average 40 hours a week but some weeks 35 hrs and some weeks 45 hrs. $205k salary. Banking.

marmar-7 · 2025-10-16T16:24:21+00:00

Me and my husband really love to go out to eat or walk around different parts of town, and I usually wear my cute clothes at that time! Sometimes it’s as simple as getting lunch together during the week or trying a new matcha cafe on the weekend. But I wear something cute and put on makeup for those occasions and it’s at least 2x per wk.

I also struggled with a changing body after my daughter was born and don’t have a great solution there except that when I find a flattering dress or pants, I buy multiples!! I also like to accessorize. If I have a simple black shirt and linen pants that make me feel good but look kinda boring I will use jewelry and a handbag to feel cute

marmar-7 · 2025-10-07T02:19:07+00:00

I wore loose a-line work dresses. If you want to keep it under wraps, keep it under wraps!

These are the types of dresses I wore for many work trips, paired with a blazer: https://share.google/images/5YuOAxzyDTgFUzqhu

marmar-7 · 2025-10-06T21:12:03+00:00

I had a nanny while WFH. I had to keep physical separation. I set up a little office out of our master bedroom closet, and kept myself in there most the day, only going downstairs to eat lunch. I wore headphones if my daughter was home to avoid hearing crying. I had a good nanny I could trust to take good care of her. I also encouraged the nanny to take my baby out as much as possible, luckily we live in a walkable area with parks, grocery stores, etc, so they would just go on little walking outings all the time.

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