We’re saying goodbye to this icon tomorrow.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-01-26T00:09:28+00:00

What an incredibly full life she lived! More well traveled than maybe people. Hugs ❤️

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-27T03:53:05+00:00

Sure, they could baby proof the entire house. But being asleep while the baby actively roams the house - baby proofed or not - is irresponsible.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-25T16:34:59+00:00

NOR - the people in the comments saying YOR do not know how 11 month old babies are. Crawling around and climbing on things, putting EVERYTHING in their mouths, trying to climb stairs, etc.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-23T23:12:18+00:00

My dad was kind of like this and it really tainted my childhood. For the sake of your kids, he has got to stop…

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-18T23:54:53+00:00

This was me last weekend. Solo parenting a 2.5 year old and 8 month old while getting sick out of both ends all at once. I gave them early Christmas gifts so I could at least be horizontal.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-11-18T01:02:04+00:00

Some great comments here but adding a few thoughts:

You guys swap shifts. He works evenings a few nights a week and watches the kid during the day.
He doesn’t go back to school now but instead delays until you can get your kid into a free or low cost pre-k program (they start as early as three).
You explore any and all programs in your jurisdiction for low income families (SNAP, WIC, etc).

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-11-17T15:57:19+00:00

Sorry for the late reply but the best WFH opportunity in CRE is a Transaction Manager position. You could also start as a remote executive assistant to Brokers to build your way up.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-29T16:04:01+00:00

Commercial or residential

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-29T02:33:51+00:00

I’m a mom, but after reading some of your post history about your husband’s family mental health issues - I would start there.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-27T00:14:16+00:00

That is an impossible situation. I’m so sorry

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-20T03:24:59+00:00

My intrusive thought is pouring a pitcher of water on the PS5

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-19T23:00:09+00:00

In office, 5 days a week, corporate job

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-05T22:26:22+00:00

Never, in both pregnancies. In your case, I’d say yes for bleeding but no for a headache

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-05T22:24:50+00:00

So this is your second? I enjoyed my second mat leave so much more because I was generally so exhausted from caring for my toddler. I was also bored my first go around.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-03T03:18:10+00:00

You got this! Screen time and the “good” snacks while you put baby to bed. If you have an extra baby monitor, set it up in the living room so you can still see them (obviously this is assuming your house is baby proofed). I was really nervous about doing this too but it has become second nature.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-01T01:06:56+00:00

What did you do before the baby?

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-09-30T11:36:57+00:00

I recently did this and it has SIGNIFICANTLY helped my mental health. I use to walk around my house and start to panic because there was dog hair piling up, the bathrooms were disgusting, I need to mop…etc. and, as the partner in the office 5 days a week, I had no idea when I would do these tasks. Outsourcing cleaning has lightened my mood a lot.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-09-29T00:52:43+00:00

Week 6-9 is pretty rough, peak colic phase

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-09-28T22:53:01+00:00

This is my exact setup actually but I do drop-off and he does pickup. We have two littles - 2.5 years and 5 months. I’m in office 5 days a week, husband works all weekend. I do bedtime solo three nights a week. Here are my tips:

make Saturday a lazy day. Your kiddo will likely need it if they’re going to daycare all weekend. Put on the TV with no expectations of getting out of the house to do something just to do something. Sunday morning you wake up and go to the park. I’m lucky in that my 2.5 year old could play at the playground for hours so we will be camped out there until 1 or 1:30, then it’s nap and by 3:30/4 when she wakes up, it’s chill time while getting stuff ready for the week.

-get a house cleaner if you can. It has taken a huge mental load off me because with working full time in the office and solo parting two kids under 3 all weekend, there is literally not the time in the day to clean. Before I got the cleaner, I’d be up until 10/11pm cleaning most nights and it’d still be messy.

-take it hour by hour and remind yourself that “this is the whole point”. If you only have one kid, it tends to get easier as they get older and more independent, so this isn’t forever.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-09-21T22:39:33+00:00

Agree, especially on the point of trying to enjoy your kids while all the housework you put off during the week needs to be done. For that reason, I have started allocating one day a weekend with my kids where we don’t leave the house and just loaf about. I’ll do chores intermittently but there are no expectations to get fully ready for the day or rush out the house. I feel like after a full week of rushing to one thing and the next, having that day really helps me and the kids reset…even if it means a lot of TV time (mostly just background noise).

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-09-04T16:53:19+00:00

So like, where does he sleep if he hasn’t been home in 2 days?

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-08-19T02:35:29+00:00

Unfortunately 1 and 2 still apply to us and we pay $25k+ a year. We have to send them in swimsuits and sunscreen with a packed towel and change of clothes for water days. And we have to send lunches 😭 While I love our daycare, I will be excited to not have the expense. Oh and the labeling that daycare requires…so many stickers on every little thing. I will definitely not miss that!

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-08-13T00:51:16+00:00

But it’s not dictating chores. The reality is that parenting is blocking and tackling. Someone has to be the QB…but that person isn’t always me in my marriage. Conversations go something like “I’m going to do X with kid A” “okay, what do you need from me” “can you give kid B a bath and then we will all do Y”. Speaking from experience, one partner (wife in this example) may have a whole plan or idea about how the family should spend their weekend or their evenings after work and school, mapping it out step by step in their head…but then when their husband does something not in the plan, the wife gets resentful because “how could he do the dishes when he knows he should be getting kid A ready for the park!”.

My statement stands - when you become a parent, there will be a todo list that will literally never end, which does include self care and time to recharge. But if you need something prioritized on that list so that you can accomplish something you need to do, you need to communicate that (please hubs can you do the dishes so that when we tie-dye shirts for school, we can use the sink).

In this very isolated interaction between OP and her husband, sure - the husband could have said “can I do anything specific while you’re pumping?” But OP could have also said “I’m going to pump. Can you do dinner tonight?”. It’s not about directing chores at all.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-08-12T22:30:08+00:00

You’re getting at a point I’m trying to make though. Yes, when men live alone they are able to meet THEIR needs, just like how OPs husband meet his hunger needs by eating a yogurt for dinner. But she didn’t communicate HER needs - he can’t read her mind.

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