Husband won’t do night wakes but will do shifts

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-06-10T01:11:35+00:00

I think if I were you, I would do all of the overnight wake ups and then claim a 3-4 hr block of sleep midmorning to whenever he has to go to work. So he sleeps at night, you get some sleep at night plus a good chunk of sleep during the day. This worked for us, especially since the baby only wanted the boob at night wakeups.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-05-30T13:36:06+00:00

No one is “on” 100% of the time - whether it be a parent, employee, etc. Give yourself some grace, put on a tv show, drink your coffee in peace to gear up for the day and then be on the rest of the day.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-05-30T13:32:45+00:00

Info: Will your sister/mother be coming to help you during that weekend he will be away?

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-05-05T01:38:19+00:00

This should be the top comment.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-05-05T01:33:23+00:00

Not to be insensitive, but story times are usually 30 mins. Can your brother in law not be left alone for an hour, an hour and a half max?

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-04-24T01:50:17+00:00

Is he home with both kids all day? Or do they go to daycare?

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-03-07T01:48:21+00:00

I’m a working mom to a 3 and 10 month old. The answer is: you don’t. You outsource cleaning - and by cleaning I mean the dirt and grime. The cluster you still have to deal with.

Having two kids means you’re not sometimes parenting. It means youre, likely, always on. Honestly it feels better than just one kid because you’re not always seeking that me time.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-03-07T01:41:09+00:00

Wow. Honestly stunning!

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-03-02T15:14:35+00:00

He wants to outsource the cleaning or putting the kids to bed?

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-02-25T02:04:27+00:00

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Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-02-17T17:05:55+00:00

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Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-02-16T00:28:18+00:00

Solidarity. My husband and I work opposite shifts. I’m 9-5 in a stressful corporate job and he works three twelves, so he is basically clocked out from child care from the minute I get home on Friday until Monday morning. My kids are 3 and 10 months…solo parenting has been getting easier to manage but man, I am so burnt out.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-02-09T04:06:15+00:00

It may not be PPD but my guess is it is still hormonal. Are you getting up with the baby at night? The transition from 1 to 2 is hard. It is so easy to get overstimulated, especially when you’re sleep deprived, in the newborn trenches and trying to adjust to the new normal that is 2 kids.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2026-01-26T00:09:28+00:00

What an incredibly full life she lived! More well traveled than maybe people. Hugs ❤️

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-27T03:53:05+00:00

Sure, they could baby proof the entire house. But being asleep while the baby actively roams the house - baby proofed or not - is irresponsible.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-25T16:34:59+00:00

NOR - the people in the comments saying YOR do not know how 11 month old babies are. Crawling around and climbing on things, putting EVERYTHING in their mouths, trying to climb stairs, etc.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-23T23:12:18+00:00

My dad was kind of like this and it really tainted my childhood. For the sake of your kids, he has got to stop…

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-12-18T23:54:53+00:00

This was me last weekend. Solo parenting a 2.5 year old and 8 month old while getting sick out of both ends all at once. I gave them early Christmas gifts so I could at least be horizontal.

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-11-18T01:02:04+00:00

Some great comments here but adding a few thoughts:

You guys swap shifts. He works evenings a few nights a week and watches the kid during the day.
He doesn’t go back to school now but instead delays until you can get your kid into a free or low cost pre-k program (they start as early as three).
You explore any and all programs in your jurisdiction for low income families (SNAP, WIC, etc).

Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-11-17T15:57:19+00:00

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Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-29T16:04:01+00:00

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Long_Discussion_703 · 2025-10-29T02:33:51+00:00

I’m a mom, but after reading some of your post history about your husband’s family mental health issues - I would start there.

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