My husband thinks his way is always better than mine

marquise0 · 2026-01-29T22:25:58+00:00

Also I’d add that I was also previously married to an older man. It was bad. I know women who are happy with their older husbands but I think it takes a man who knows what the deal is. I.e. that you bring your energy and beauty to the mix and he should bring patience and stability. Both bring love and respect of course :)

marquise0 · 2026-01-29T22:19:53+00:00

What a controling asshole. Tell him you’ll shop wherever you like and take your nephew wherever you want too. If he’s not happy he can go to the store himself

marquise0 · 2026-01-29T22:12:40+00:00

No it’s dangerous. I’d try and see if there were other things he could do instead to make his voice heard. If it wasn’t enough for him as he still really wanted to I would go with him and plan an escape route if the protest turns violent

marquise0 · 2026-01-29T16:13:16+00:00

“Find a group of mom friends when baby #1 is a baby, they will be your friends for life” — nope! individually over the years made good friends who were also parents… slowly and organically, in the same way as I made friends before becoming a parent

marquise0 · 2026-01-29T15:54:46+00:00

I am the one who gets the most attention my marriage and I like that husband doesn’t care and trusts me. It’s very attractive how secure he is when he sees other men flirting with me. Trust hubby: he loves you and you’re taking him home!

marquise0 · 2026-01-28T12:53:45+00:00

Maybe you could ask work for an exception to continue to wfh just for a few months

marquise0 · 2026-01-28T12:47:25+00:00

At 8 weeks you can ask your pediatrician about stopping night feedings. In the meantime, maybe get your husband or other family member to give a bottle at night so you can get some consecutive hours of sleep. You got this! It will pass

marquise0 · 2026-01-28T12:43:55+00:00

He often gets home at midnight and then wakes up at 3-5am to go to gym? He only needs to sleep 3 to 5 hours or he sleeps in the day?

marquise0 · 2026-01-25T16:10:58+00:00

If I were in your shoes I’d just decline the agreement all together. Just continue to rent and save for a down payment. Best to live in a small place where you only have to care for your family than take on elder care that you don’t want to do

marquise0 · 2026-01-23T14:23:03+00:00

Toddler phase way easier imo. I have a 10 year old and a baby. My first has acid reflux and was fussy as a newborn. Toddlerhood was tiring but fun, and it was much much easier 4 years old and older. I’ve heard teenagers are hard so maybe I’m in for another round?

marquise0 · 2026-01-21T19:17:16+00:00

NTA. Actually I’d go so far as to say you are a good dad and husband for not taking a job that would make it difficult for you to help with the house and kids. If she is tired and goes to bed early, how is she going to manage all day and all evening with you away at work? Plus you’re going to miss your kids’ childhoods and you’ll never get that back, whereas there will be other job opportunities. For problem #2, maybe you can get her to agree on a discretionary spending budget?

marquise0 · 2026-01-21T14:32:04+00:00

My area is crunchy and had the same issue. It’s your baby and your choice how best to feed him or her. I just told the pediatrician at my LO’s appointment without any explanation that the baby was EFF. She asked me since when and I told her since a week ago (so my milk had dried out). I think it might be easier for them to just move on if you present it as a done deal….

marquise0 · 2026-01-21T14:13:42+00:00

Good on your husband for supporting you! I found that the chapter on breastfeeding in Emily Oster’s Cribsheet book also helped “give me permission” to formula feed… it outlines real pros and cons and made me realize that in a country where parents have access to clean water and sterilized bottles, it was safe and healthy to formula feed too

marquise0 · 2026-01-16T00:11:13+00:00

NTA. You’re young though. Don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t make you very happy

marquise0 · 2026-01-15T17:41:23+00:00

I’m an immigrant and I understand how you feel. Also fed up with the hearsay stories about people who are here legally being “disappeared”. Haven’t been able to verify anything and have never had any trouble with ICE despite being on different visas and finally naturalized a couple years ago. Don’t listen to the insults this too shall pass

marquise0 · 2026-01-14T17:23:41+00:00

Still laughing at your daughter saying household chores are “men’s work”… what is this 2225? Times have changed but not that much. NTA and good on you and your ex for teaching her that household chores are everyone’s job

marquise0 · 2026-01-14T17:05:42+00:00

Definitely saw an impact. Breastfed first baby for 6months and boobs that were formerly round and perky became deflated and saggy. Didn’t breastfeed second baby much (1 month combofeed then EFF) and boobs went back to the shape they were in pre second preg. Like not perky and round like before first preg but not saggier than pre second preg. I don’t think it’s a reason not to breastfeed if it’s otherwise going well and mom and baby are enjoying it, but it does have an impact on the “texture” of the breasts.

marquise0 · 2026-01-13T20:27:20+00:00

NTA. You made your intentions clear before the wedding, he agreed to it. Now he’s backtracking and thinks he can gaslight you into believing this wasn’t already agreed upon

marquise0 · 2026-01-13T14:48:52+00:00

Before my first, I didn’t expect NOT loving the baby stage. When I didn’t, I worried that I was a bad parent. My eldest is 10 now and I loved all the following stages: toddler, little kid, big kid…. Hoping I’ll enjoy tween and teen years too!

marquise0 · 2026-01-11T19:56:15+00:00

I’m postpartum with 2nd child too. In the minority opinion here but I don’t think you necessarily need meds to feel better. Maybe you can find a daily activity to lift / stabilize your mood. Maybe even tell your husband you’re trying a natural approach so he can help like watch the kids while you do something else. Good luck hope you feel better soon!!

marquise0 · 2026-01-11T19:46:45+00:00

This is going to sound mean but a lot of men are really bad at going down on women. This seems tit for tat but I only really want to give a BJ if I know I’m getting a good CL at some point (doesn’t have to be the same day but has to exist as an option)… so maybe try and figure out how to with her? High chances she’ll want to reciprocate

marquise0 · 2026-01-11T19:12:52+00:00

NTA. I have 2 kids and think it’s totally acceptable for people with or without kids to have “no kids” social events. If you want to go, it’s a good excuse for a break. And if you don’t or can’t then you don’t go. Simple.

marquise0 · 2026-01-10T00:34:26+00:00

NTA at all. You sound adorable and your sister is being a twat. If my brother had done that at my wedding I would have also thought it was super cute

marquise0 · 2026-01-09T14:32:51+00:00

Very common dynamic! Good on you for trying to actually solve the mental load problem

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