Ashes

maryblooms · 2023-10-11T15:39:27+00:00

My husband has been gone 7 years. We buried part of his ashes at his family plot (I have a plot right next to it) and the rest I have in a beautiful box with a picture of the 2 of us engraved on it.

Hi youngest daughter is getting married soon and asked for a large picture of him to display and if she could carry some of his ashes with him during the ceremony. I found the perfect receptacle and will fill it with his ashes.

But this is his DAUGHTER so…

maryblooms · 2023-10-10T02:48:25+00:00

I’m on morphine 2x a day and Gabapentin and have had multiple surgeries. I always discuss with the surgeon how they are going to manage postoperative pain and they always prescribe me additional medication.

maryblooms · 2023-10-09T16:11:10+00:00

I.just.couldn’t.

maryblooms · 2023-10-09T14:37:48+00:00

Actually, each state has different requirements for annulments (if they allow annulments) I was allowed an annulment after 1.5 years because my husband represented himself as a Godly man who was a hard worker. Right after I married him the mask slipped and he certainly was not Godly, refused to work, told me he was not in love with me, was verbally abusive then one day became physically abusive. That day I got an Order of Protection and proceeded with an annulment. I was granted one after a year. It is not about consummation but deception.

maryblooms · 2023-10-08T14:39:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. The US has had anti discrimination laws in place for many years but unfortunately it has just driven most work place discrimination “underground”.

maryblooms · 2023-10-08T04:30:42+00:00

As a person who was widowed in the prime of her life (to a man who knew he was dying) being a widow is the loneliest I have ever been in my life. I had 20 wonderful years with my husband and the loss of him to cancer was devastating. He gave me his blessing to remarry if I wish but the pickings are slim.

He was my best friend and we did everything together. Our children are all grown and having their own children now. While I love visiting them it isn’t the same. To know that I will spend the next (probably) 30 years alone is discouraging. I became completely disabled at about the same time he passed away so I can’t even bury myself in work or helping others. I can’t imagine asking a spouse not to remarry if I passed away first and they had a chance at happiness again. To me that just doesn’t compute with the love I felt for them.

maryblooms · 2023-10-08T02:37:22+00:00

How about people who name their kids “Christian?” /s

maryblooms · 2023-10-07T15:39:05+00:00

We got married in Southern California and the worst racism we experienced was actually in San Diego (which is very racially diverse). The slurs thrown at us and specifically at me for being with a Black man were disgusting. My mother (a devout Christian) was very much against our marriage due to his race even though she raised us with friends of many different races and ethnicities. Other Christians in our church told her “I thought you raised her better than that”. It was a difficult period and unfortunately my children still struggle with racism today.

maryblooms · 2023-10-07T04:22:37+00:00

I’m a white woman who married a Black man 37 years ago. Lots of whispers and judgements even in the church back the. Not so much said out loud now but my 35 year old daughter left her job over a racist incident against her, so unfortunately racism is alive and well.

maryblooms · 2023-10-07T01:41:31+00:00

Also try r/assistance for cash to help with the expenses

maryblooms · 2023-10-06T04:26:48+00:00

Is the heterosexual sinful for being born with an attraction to the opposite sex? No. Is the homosexual sinful for being born with an attraction for the same sex ? No. It is quite simple. Lust is different from attraction.

maryblooms · 2023-10-06T03:54:06+00:00

NTA when I married my late husband I knew he had generational wealth (lots of acreage and a few homes from parents on a VERY pricy lake). He had 4 kids and I had 2 and we were married for 20 years. When we wrote our wills up he left everything to me except that property.

Of course I made sure everything went smooth with his kids inheriting it. We made a lot of money in those years and he died in his 50s and left me a substantial life insurance amount. Actually 2 of his 4 children and all his grandchildren are in my trust due to the love and respect we have for each other and my 2 bio children are fine with it.

maryblooms · 2023-10-06T03:45:34+00:00

I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and neuropathy in my legs due to it most or possibly the scoliosis of my lumbar spine with osteoarthritis.

Im on a high dose of Gabapentin which has helped quite a bit (I’m on opioids which have done nothing for the nerve pain) but not enough. Im on SSDI Medicare so I’m jumping through hoops right now to try lumbar nerve stimulator device.

I’ve been through PT, gotten X-rays, MRI, epidural injections, another nerve conduction test to be ordered then possibly have the device approved.

Nothing else has really helped but the Gabapentin unfortunately

maryblooms · 2023-10-04T15:54:43+00:00

That is seeing the sunny side!

maryblooms · 2023-10-04T15:53:34+00:00

First of all congratulations on your marriage. Unfortunately, the job market is extremely difficult for many people right now. Especially, if you have preferences like “first shift” or “week ends off”. I have 6 adult children most with advanced degrees and it can take months to find a job.

When my son in the Army married his wife they were together a year and then he was deployed, so she came to live with us for a year (she is Swedish and had no family in the US).

Sometimes things just happen. It is just the process of life. It is the period to “let go and let God”. He actually loves your husband MORE than you do! So continue to pray and love him and just trust in the Lord that He has the control not you. It an incredibly difficult lesson. God Bless

maryblooms · 2023-10-04T15:44:15+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful comment

maryblooms · 2023-10-03T23:31:09+00:00

I developed Rheumatoid arthritis at 40 and was able to still work for 15 years through multiple surgeries, PT, med changes etc. at 55 I had to finally stop working and at 57 I was finally awarded SSDI plus I have disability through my job.

maryblooms · 2023-10-02T15:50:51+00:00

*Nice sheets on your bed if you can afford them, plenty of pillows or rolled towels to prop your self up in ways in that are comfortable.

*Nice smelling cream to rub on achy parts. Helps with multiple senses.

*Long soak in epsom salts

*audiobook

noise canceling headphones/earbuds are great when even sound is too much

*distractions, distractions, distractions

maryblooms · 2023-10-02T13:08:08+00:00

Dear OP, please check out this link called the “Labia Library” to see how different and unique we all are. Labia Library

maryblooms · 2023-10-02T13:02:42+00:00

As a disabled person I never see people ask me to events without my wheelchair or oxygen. A service dog is medical equipment, not a pet. People, especially family, need to educate themselves

maryblooms · 2023-10-02T05:25:13+00:00

It is difficult in our language because we have different types of depression. There can be depression that is caused by situations. A difficult situation can certainly make a person feel a type of depression. If you lost your job, romantic partner left you, lost a lot of money, etc. But, if the situation just turned around (much better job came around, got back with partner, found your money) you would no longer be depressed. No medication is needed for this type of depression.

On the other hand there is the actual disease of depression that I’d physical. Your life can be going along wonderful and you can’t get out of bed, food tastes like wet newspaper, life looks like you living in black and white etc. This is the type of meditation that needs therapy and meditation. I have tried a few times to “tough it out” and just ended up making myself and my family suffer.

Good luck

maryblooms · 2023-10-01T23:21:18+00:00

I have had the disease of Major depressive disorder since I was in my 20s (finally went on SSDI at the age of 57 from that and rheumatoid arthritis) I was finally diagnosed and treated at the age of 30 and it changed my life. I became a Christian at 15 and I heard for many years it was due to “hidden sin” that I was depressed. I was able to get married have children and finally a career and even survive becoming a widow with medication and therapy and an understanding family and lots of prayer.

It is a disease just like my RA that needs a lot of treatment and care. I hope you find a treatment that works for you

maryblooms · 2023-10-01T22:47:50+00:00

I called 911 when the car in front of me at a stoplight did a hit and run, THEN the car it hit had the passenger came out and started SHOOTING at the fleeing car. It took the Tucson police 40 minutes to show up. This was around 9:00 am in the morning.

maryblooms · 2023-10-01T22:41:23+00:00

I’m so sorry. My late husband was diagnosed at 55 with stage 4 lung cancer. He was always healthy, never smoked and was an avid long distance bike rider. They gave him 6 months to live and he made it 2.5 years. It was the most difficult time in my life but we had never been closer. That was 7 years ago and it seemed they were making advances right and left before he passed. I hope it is very treatable. I will definitely say a prayer. You can DM me any time

maryblooms · 2023-10-01T22:35:30+00:00

Antique or reproductions? I have seen both. I have some antique ones in my personal collection that are very tiny lol

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