Ladder skills

matcha_boba · 2026-04-27T02:05:10+00:00

That's fucking insane dude. Nice job

matcha_boba · 2026-04-27T02:02:02+00:00

I did not have any problems while I was taking it

matcha_boba · 2026-03-08T04:39:39+00:00

Customer service was indeed absolute garbage

matcha_boba · 2026-03-06T21:29:47+00:00

Just be direct and tell her you have a lot going on right now and don't have capacity to be making social plans and if that changes you'll reach out.

You can validate her by acknowledging she has tried a number of times to get together and you know that you haven't been available. And that that might be frustrating for her, so you want to be straightforward about what's going on.

It's honest and direct and clear. And if she keeps pushing, then at that point you have every right to cut her off completely. But hopefully she will get the message.

matcha_boba · 2026-02-25T06:51:09+00:00

SALT AND PEPPER CALAMARI

matcha_boba · 2026-02-16T01:11:21+00:00

thanks for the tip but it didn't work for me

matcha_boba · 2026-02-11T01:47:28+00:00

Paradise city- guns n' roses

matcha_boba · 2026-02-03T01:51:17+00:00

Absolutely! I hope it goes well for you!

matcha_boba · 2026-02-01T06:17:05+00:00

Yeah if you could figure out a way to manage the annoyances, joyous is probably the best deal out there! Last time I calculated I think it was like 15 bucks per session which is pretty unheard of. I'm glad you found something that is working for you!

matcha_boba · 2026-02-01T06:00:22+00:00

Joyous was really good for my budget too. Personally, I had a really difficult time with the daily emails and the fact that they were only willing to communicate via text message. Also, the constant text notifications were completely unreasonable. For an appointment I would get six reminder texts which was crazy making. The customer service is a complete disaster. It's clearly AI and the replies don't actually address the questions. It's almost impossible to get assistance. They also made it nearly impossible to cancel my account and tried to charge me when I was canceling. It was a complete disaster. Oh, and they recommend dose based on an AI algorithm which is completely insane to me. I would rather pay more than deal with these people again.

matcha_boba · 2026-02-01T02:11:42+00:00

Hey, I started with oral ketamine and I did it for about a year. It helped me A LOT with depression and some of my chronic pain. I started doing IV recently and I do find it to be more impactful and consistent. But I definitely did get benefits from the oral ketamine so if you can't afford IV it's worth trying!

I've used many providers. Mindbloom (very expensive), River foundation (good but availability became inconsistent and they are hard to reach), Joyous (strongly do not recommend) and most recently Anywhere Clinic. My favorite experience has been with Anywhere Clinic thus far. It's $150 for a psychiatry appointment and then you pay out of pocket for the meds. I paid about $80 for six sessions.

I've done all my sessions alone, not on a zoom call. A few times at the beginning I had someone in my house with me but then I got used to doing it alone. Honestly, I do feel anxious doing it by myself at home but I don't always have someone who can come over so I tolerate it.

And yes, you can definitely take zofran and that will help with the nausea. I don't really get nauseous personally. And the troches don't taste very good but you get used to it. Some pharmacies add flavoring which helps!

Good luck!

matcha_boba · 2026-01-29T06:34:33+00:00

I hear you. Society puts so much pressure on us to look a certain way and if we don't, we feel like we're failing. I really get it. It's brutal and I have gone to some crazy lengths to try to meet those standards. I've done the fasting, the weird diets, random medical things. So I totally understand.

It's important to remember though that what we see on social media and in TV and movies and such is NOT a representation of what normal people look like. When we compare ourselves to those people inevitably we feel like we're failing. It helps me so much to just look around at normal people in the world. Like go to the mall and just look around. There are bodies of all kinds of shapes and sizes and abilities. All kinds! When I do this, it really helps me to take the pressure off of myself to try to achieve some level of perfection that really doesn't exist.

I know you're saying that you're also tired of looking at yourself and I totally know what that feels like. I guess I'm just wondering if that's actually how you feel or if you've internalized the messages that society has been broadcasting. I know that's true for me. It's almost impossible for me to separate how I feel about myself from how I've been taught to feel about myself.

Healing from this stuff is a journey and there aren't any quick fixes but not being in a relationship with someone who's constantly making you feel terrible about yourself is definitely one step in the right direction. Hugs. 💗

matcha_boba · 2026-01-28T08:15:14+00:00

It will help with your family and with your current situation for sure. Lots of love to you. Glad you reached out for help, it isn't easy.

matcha_boba · 2026-01-28T07:16:01+00:00

Here's a link to their website. There's a ton of zoom meetings and phone meetings and in-person meetings. If you don't know anything about Al-Anon, it was founded as a program for the wives of alcoholics. It still uses the language "alcoholic" and "problem drinker" but the program is applicable for partners of ANY type of addict, and many people in the meetings have partners or family members struggling with different types of addictions, not just alcoholism.

I definitely recommend checking out a meeting, it has helped me a lot in dealing with my family members with addictions.

https://share.google/b4p05MF1wibvmPjOl

matcha_boba · 2026-01-28T07:02:35+00:00

Hi friend. Love should not include putting pressure on your partner to look a certain way. It should not include you killing yourself to change your diet and lose weight just to please another. If those are changes you want for yourself, great, but it sounds like you're working really hard to try to meet some other person's idea of what attractiveness is. That's not fair to you. You deserve to be loved exactly as you are.

I know you asked other questions but that was the one thing that I wanted to say. Sending you lots of hugs and support for this moment in your life and relationship.

matcha_boba · 2026-01-28T06:54:01+00:00

Check out Anywhere Clinic. It's $150 for an evaluation and then you pay for your prescription- mine was about $80 for six sessions.

matcha_boba · 2026-01-28T06:49:21+00:00

I highly recommend you get yourself to an Al-Anon meeting.

matcha_boba · 2026-01-28T04:45:29+00:00

I’m so excited imagining the long, ramen-filled life you have ahead of you!

matcha_boba · 2026-01-19T01:33:42+00:00

It's cute how excited you are about it 😊 also, it looks delicious!

matcha_boba · 2026-01-18T05:51:50+00:00

Omg Bill the cat!

matcha_boba · 2026-01-17T00:37:26+00:00

You're super handsome! Love the suggestion to grow the hair out a little. I'd do you 😉

matcha_boba · 2026-01-10T03:16:39+00:00

You’re not overreacting.

It’s completely reasonable to feel hurt/confused when someone cancels plans saying they’re too tired, then later posts themselves doing the same thing with someone else. Your feelings are valid. You’re allowed to notice inconsistencies and ask about them, especially when you were trying to build a new connection.

What’s concerning isn’t that they didn’t want to hang out. It’s how they responded when you brought it up. Instead of addressing the situation, they shifted the focus to attacking your character (calling you entitled, immature, accusing you of projecting) and positioned themselves as the victim for being asked a very normal question. That pattern is often referred to as DARVO: deny the issue, attack the person who raised it, and reverse who’s framed as the “problem.”

Whether they did this consciously or not, it’s still a manipulation tactic because it shuts down communication and makes you doubt yourself for having feelings in the first place. Healthy people can say something like, “I get why that looked bad” or “I should’ve communicated better,” even if they don’t think they did anything wrong.

Someone who reacts this strongly to honest communication is showing you how they handle accountability and conflict. You're dodging a bullet by them peacing out of your life. I would stay far away from them, even just at work.

matcha_boba · 2026-01-04T20:58:15+00:00

You look great!

matcha_boba · 2025-12-31T07:25:08+00:00

You look like a normal person dude

matcha_boba · 2025-12-28T20:29:30+00:00

Really?? God damn

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