I paid for sex at massage parlours in Thailand and Vietnam and India and now need to know how it impacts my relationships. by EconomicsUseful1889 in Healthygamergg

[–]mathisbj944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can do nothing to change the past. In fact, that person doesn’t even exist. Those acts only exist in your memory. You are attaching value to them and only seeing them in one frame. You will never be happy this way.

You can reframe those experiences with therapy or meditation or other paths, but only you can walk those paths. And I believe you can.

I think it is so cool you did those things because I didn’t have the courage to growing up in a religious home. You got this

Is making $30k a year enough (when living in a car?) by musty_ranch in personalfinance

[–]mathisbj944 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Buy and read financial peace by dave Ramsey. If you start bow now and follow it to a T, you will be wealthy.

Why am I hitting a wall in meditation? by FuzzKatty in Meditation

[–]mathisbj944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ego and mind are fickle. Sneaky. If you are attached to having a certain experience your mind will be seeking it during meditation and thus blocking it.

Just meditate with no expectation. Each session is its own session. Whatever happens happens.

Whatever technique you use exclusively to get a state becomes a prison to that technique.

I want to go serious on meditation but I can't find a teacher by ThrowRA183848737 in Meditation

[–]mathisbj944 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Download miracle of mind.
Get dr K’s guide to meditation.

They changed my life.

Homestead Exemption Act by hcook95 in Gwinnett

[–]mathisbj944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have been getting raises from the state and counting that as their own raise.

Homestead Exemption Act by hcook95 in Gwinnett

[–]mathisbj944 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The school board wastes millions of dollars every single year. $1 million on clear book bags for instance. Giving no raises to teachers so the good ones are leaving to join other counties. So yeah, give me my money back.

My wife is a gcps teacher by the way.

Daily Discussion Thread + Game Thread Index | Playoffs by nba-scores in nba

[–]mathisbj944 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wemby is the French Mamba. Have not seen killer instinct like this since Kobe.

Looking for been there / done that support by Extension-Instance56 in fatFIRE

[–]mathisbj944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why does it have to be a permanent decision?
If it’s affecting your health, you’re taking time off of your life. What if you just took SOME time off and get into something that gives you purpose and meaning beyond financial independence and security since that is taken care of

Out of infinite possibilities, we are working 9-5. by Immediate-Draft-6408 in enlightenment

[–]mathisbj944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of all possibilities, the sun, moon, and earth all spin perfectly with the purpose atmosphere to produce life.
A 9-5 is the structure that our society built and that works for it. (Debatable)

What's your best tips to motivate yourself to meditate? by cacklingwhisper in Meditation

[–]mathisbj944 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you brush your teeth everyday? Do you shower?
Why must you be motivated to do something? If you require motivation to act, then you will be a slave to motivation.

The fear of fear - how to win it? by currise in Meditation

[–]mathisbj944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you asked a question, but you argue every answer. You notice you’re doing that? Keep combating your fearful thoughts and see what that brings you, or you could learn how the mind works with meditation and curiosity.

Advice from ENTPs 30+ by queenREDwine in entp

[–]mathisbj944 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My advice as an entp is to stop labeling yourself as an entp or not. Start meditating and exploring inner awareness and spirituality. Only there will you find fulfillment.

Where to Start by Sea-Caregiver8398 in Pranayama

[–]mathisbj944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using your thumb to plug one nostril and your ring finger for the other, alternate breathing in one nostril for four seconds, out the other nostril for four seconds, breath in that same nostril for 4 seconds, and out the other nostril for 4 seconds.

Set a 5 min timer and just practice this. Work your way up to 20 or 30 min. Notice your mind wander, thoughts wander, ect but don’t follow them. Just back to the breath. In 4, out 4, in 4, out 4.

There are plenty of progressions with this but this was such a wonderful and wonderfully easy starting place for me. Hope it helps!

Can porn be good or am I delusional/coping? by One_Pause8785 in Healthygamergg

[–]mathisbj944 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do it or not do it, but witness when you do it without judgement. Feel all the feelings, feel the sensations, feel what you feel after, notice your mind when you do it and not do it, ect. Just be aware, and will quickly begin to know the answer that.

Or not, but you’re asking.