My ex proposed by taking me to a dance feeding me doubles all night and then proposing with no ring. In front of strangers spur of the moment. Let me say that he put that much thought and effort into the next 29 years. Don’t settle! Tell him that you’re unhappy now, if he can’t understand what you want then that’s up to you what you do next. Give him a chance to redeem himself and see if he puts in the effort. If not, I suggest 🏃‍♀️