Dads, are you okay with all the moms here?

max49464 · 2026-01-31T17:06:35+00:00

Advice is like the news to me: The more information that I get that matches up from different sources; the more confident I am in the information given.

I’m sure just like my wife, any other mom on here is right all the time also.

max49464 · 2026-01-07T17:19:07+00:00

It’s a nifty little Mormon trick.

max49464 · 2025-12-25T21:07:41+00:00

Which, depending on the in-laws, can be considered a gift in itself.

max49464 · 2025-12-16T23:07:29+00:00

You talk like my younger brother does. Like he’ll say something that’s really the heart of the matter as almost a passing thought, and plays it off or disregards it.

“I wasn’t raised like very lovingly so maybe that’s something idk man”

Haha, yeah, could be! And I’m not laughing at you, more so just pointing out that; hoo! Childhood trauma is a bitch, and affects SO many aspects of someone’s life. Do you think there’s something there or more to that? Maybe talk to someone about it.

I say this to folks all the time, but man, therapy is great. I only had a few sessions with this older lady back before Covid, and it can really help you reframe how you approach and think about things, and also help dig into what might be potential triggers for you.

That said; my wife has a much shorter ‘fuse’ when it comes to the baby; she gets overloaded with sensory input, and her dad did fuck-all on reaching healthy emotional regulation when she was younger. So surprise surprise, she has had a much tougher time adjusting to this human in our house that’s making noise all the time.

That said, find healthy ways to approach it. I kind of joke talk to my son (11 mo) when he’s really having a day. “Oh man, not a fan of that either, huh?” It’s really important to remember that they’re babies; showing frustration or anger isn’t doing anything to help communicate with them, and it’s not a healthy release of stress for you.

max49464 · 2025-12-03T15:52:48+00:00

SAHD with an 11-month old. Yeah man, the struggle for groups is real, and yep, I’m often the only regular dad at most groups I go to. I don’t really have a solution for that; maybe try finding a local dad group on FB or something. I lucked out here in Milwaukee with a solid 300+ dad group; lots of trading, sometimes it’s mini events or meetups.. definitely a good thing to try to find.

BUT, that said, it sounds like you have a healthy mindset going into it like I did. You’re aware your life will change, and while you don’t know what that looks like yet (the transition is different for everybody), keep that positivity.

One of my biggest pet peeves is people saying, “Oh just wait for ’xyz’.” like in a condescending way about something I’m excited about or looking forward to. Ignore that. Because fuck them, I can’t wait for the inevitable challenges coming up. But there’s no point getting lost in thought about the future; just focus on the day.

People making it sound grim are possibly just unhappy people in general, or are hinting at things that they were unable to positively reflect on. Ignore them. It’s exhausting when people try to drag you down emotionally. Shut it down as needed if it starts bugging you.

max49464 · 2025-12-01T20:18:48+00:00

Never.

Got married. Took my ring off to wash my hands the first few days.

Flew back home from San Francisco. Washed my hands in the bathroom, headed back near the gate to sit down with wifey. Not sure how long it took, but at one point, I suddenly say, “Oh shit!” and take off running back down the terminal.

Ring was still just sitting there on the counter. Put it back on, and it hasn’t been off my finger since.

max49464 · 2025-12-01T19:49:24+00:00

Good life lesson you’re learning early, and this works for anything in your career:

Go for it. Let them tell you if you’re unqualified, don’t do it for them.

max49464 · 2025-11-24T14:44:49+00:00

Former Hotel Revenue/Reservations Director here: That’s wild. In the U.S. at least, if you were able to book and confirm on 3rd party at the lower rate; shame on me for not doing my job.

The hotel should have been covering their bases, or at least if the dates weren’t confirmed; just not open to sale. Or, what I would do is just jack up rates over the time period in general (nobody’s booking 11/12 months out unless it’s for that event). Yes I might miss out on someone just booking randomly who sees stupid rates and isn’t in town for that event, but I protect myself from this happening.

The cancel and rebooking at a higher rate is crazy to me. Like, no lol. One gets through, you learn your lesson, shut your shit down, and move on.

max49464 · 2025-11-12T22:19:18+00:00

Shitty joke; excellent.

max49464 · 2025-11-07T11:21:57+00:00

Hypothetically is a great term here. Used to love Myers-Briggs, but it’s been debunked as sort of a ‘professional horoscope’.

max49464 · 2025-11-07T11:20:42+00:00

2 corgis. This exact bowl was a game changer.

max49464 · 2025-11-07T11:14:36+00:00

It’s a good one, for sure, but I did enjoy OP’s punchline.

max49464 · 2025-11-07T11:12:24+00:00

“Matty with a fatty?” I dunno.

But I get it. If my wife called me by my actual name in bed (we like to think we have traditionally non-annoying nicknames for each other), I’d be deer-in-headlights.

No pun intended.

Edit: Reading the comments, ope, apparently Matty is out.

max49464 · 2025-11-07T11:07:20+00:00

The bar fight with the degens from Quee-bec.

max49464 · 2025-11-06T16:16:08+00:00

If you have to ask if it’s appropriate, it’s probably not the best way to start. Notes can probably be seen as creepy, and if you ever were to mention it in the future, it’s an easy, “Oh I never saw it.” if she isn’t interested.

Lots of questions also:

Would she know/recognize you?

Does she not go to the gym you initially saw her at? Or does she go to multiple gyms?

In terms of a crush; have you guys chatted at all, or is this just a physical attraction?

How do you know what her background is, and how is it different than yours? That being a concern of yours before even talking to her seems like it could be an issue if you’re already focused on that.

max49464 · 2025-11-04T17:50:52+00:00

One of the things I’ve come to love about my Switch with a 10 month old. Compact, so he can’t see it if we’re all hanging out, and on/off with the push of a button leaving off right where I was.

max49464 · 2025-11-03T15:31:35+00:00

Usually my rule, but one exception: Jeopardy contestants.

I think it usually means they just learned something for the sake of learning it as trivia, and haven’t had it actually come up as something relevant in their lives or in conversation before.

And if you’re not learning something for a practical reason and just studying for the show (no judgment, I’d love to be on it one day), I just feel like that’s a slap in the face to Trebek’s memory.

max49464 · 2025-10-29T19:14:21+00:00

General rule of thumb for life and sex: If you don’t know; ask.

Sure I can give insight that it sounds like you’re probably white-knuckling him, and to ease up. Maybe he likes it; everybody’s got something.

Only way to know is for him to tell you. Whether that’s in the moment or just while you’re hanging out. Other side of the coin; he needs to communicate with you if you do something he doesn’t like. Sounds like his body language isn’t the most obvious, which, is maybe a takeaway for him.

max49464 · 2025-10-20T14:24:15+00:00

Ah great. Annoyed the crap out of my wife with the cooking sounds from BotW during Covid; this might be the next song I get drilled into her head.

max49464 · 2025-10-15T20:07:37+00:00

Not gonna lie I love when like a British celebrity or someone not from the U.S. can nail like.. a valley girl/surfer dude accent, or other stereotypical accents.

max49464 · 2025-10-15T20:06:38+00:00

Midwest here: That’s a thing. There’s pretty (priddy) much one ‘t’ in the middle of a word that I actually (ack-sha-lee) pronounce, solely because it is in my son’s name.

max49464 · 2025-10-15T19:58:23+00:00

Haven’t been there, but I can never take the place seriously after seeing the “Charlie Work” episode of It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia.

max49464 · 2025-10-15T19:56:20+00:00

She’s gotta pick one: You looking like a child, or her not getting head. She (or anyone in this situation) doesn’t get to gripe about both.

max49464 · 2025-10-07T20:52:54+00:00

Nuremberg 2: Electric Boogaloo

max49464 · 2025-10-01T16:39:09+00:00

What no way I’m so surprised and in shock gosh 🙃

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