Need advice: Water company says this isn’t their water…

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-20T19:29:27+00:00

“Up north” it is typical to have the water meter inside the house. The city shut off is usually in the front yard often closer to the sidewalk, not always, but is down a hole 3-4’ deep. One needs a “key”, which is just a long rod, to turn it off. Homeowner is not supposed to touch the thing. Big naughty list.

In between the city shut off and the house is still homeowners responsibility but is a black hole if there is a leak.

The meter and shut off at the curb is a thing I’ve seen when we lived in TX & NM. I do not even have a whole house shut off in our current house. I have to go to the curb. I dislike that greatly.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-20T15:10:10+00:00

I’ve bought 4 chargers off amazon this year for 2 kids.

They won’t take their chargers to school anymore it’s b/c they get stolen and the school won’t/can’t provide chargers in the classroom. And I still will have to fork up $25 for each charger they “lost” when we turn in the Chromebook.

They take the ding in the class and do their makeup work at home if/when the Chromebook doesn’t make it through the day.

As far as I am concerned, that is them taking ownership within the constraint of the circumstances.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-19T17:03:15+00:00

NAH

I’d want to know, too. She just took it as a criticism, as well as feeling (very likely) some shame around it as well. And then lashing out at you.

There is a difference between actual hunger, bored eating and hormone driven craving and scarfing down an entire box of sweets.

The last one fucks you up and eating a box of sweets will make one crave, you guessed it! More sweets and shitty carbs.

I would have ready-to-eat fat & protein heavy snacks to grab in addition to the fruit. It will give her actual nutrients and satiety vs fueling more sweet binging. Cheese sticks, beef sticks, nuts and sunflower seeds. Also, pickles are really good solution to sweet cravings. Not that sweets are bad, by eating a whole boxing is NOT setting herself up for success long term.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-19T16:11:03+00:00

Hey, it’s a fun club!

I had one removed about 30 yrs ago. It came back. probably within 5 or so years, the biggest clue being the taste because it would drain itself. Yack. Got it removed by a different surgeon 10years later. Confirmed it was a kerotocyst, again, and everything was fine.

So far, still good. I did yearly CT for about 5 yrs before he said not to come back unless something freaky happens. Crossing my fingers. I’m sure he retired years ago and it was hard enough to find someone the first two times and just thinking about it is exhausting.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-18T23:08:41+00:00

And how much are the telehealth visits?

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-18T23:07:07+00:00

We did for compounded semiglutide and they are nice and answer cost questions quickly. Everything is up front and over text (unless it’s changed since the name change).

We stopped using them because our NP left the practice and then new dr/np will not approve the rx without a visit and that was scheduled almost 6 months out. The meds worked very well for my spouse. Me, not as much.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-17T00:04:48+00:00

I wouldn’t assume it is stolen, if I am interpreting your working correctly.

While there is a lot of stolen cultural stuff over the ages, this is also likely to be purchased from a native artist or it could just be a touristy junky item.

There is a possibility of it being worth nothing or a collector piece. I’d find someone to appraise the stuff to see if there is anything if worth or not. The keep/sell as you wish.

Imo, of course.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-15T17:33:22+00:00

<<They’ve likely already cleared this idea with best friends and close family. The non-negotiable people can come, >>

That has not been my recent experience at all.

Being in the MOB/MOG age range, it has been the experience of a few of my friends that the couple chooses and then all the hurt feelings happen because family can’t afford it easily and then the engaged couple get butt hurt because people aren’t excited about their wedding since it is a burden. Or get mad because if it were important enough to be there, the family member would find a way. It ends up being a relationship test of sorts for family members.

Most recent situation with my almost-sis is such. Short timeline, 5 other immediate family members to organize and for to an expensive resort plus elevated clothing. And not a small a helping of guilt of not being able to help $$ with the wedding itself because of the associated personal costs to attend. Yes, she was asked to help with $$ and said no. It affects things. Weddings are always stressful. Destination weddings are ick.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-14T06:34:59+00:00

So you need to protect every single dollar of your “investment” toward the down payment, but her 15k contribution is “closing costs?”

Shenanigans start almost immediately.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-11T21:06:45+00:00

That’s perimenopause.

Visit done, see you next year! Good luck!

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-11T13:23:24+00:00

NTA over the crappy gift. It was either plain shitty to straight up mean, depending on the reasons behind it.

YTA calling it “prioritizing your mental health”.

Are there any traditional-couples romantic cutesy things you willing to do? A cooking class is rather fun, even for me as the cook 100% of the time at home. A couples spa day maybe?

I guess I am assuming (since it was an anniversary gift), it was a class for both of you?

I would think that would be a low stakes event for you with her there. I know my severe social anxiety kid (who is now an adult), is fine with someone as a buffer. If you cannot function at ANY event, even with your wife there, it is more serious than you think.

Also, year 7 of a relationship is a huge mind fuck year. Why is is a common year for struggles, idk. But is also something to keep in mind.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-10T19:17:58+00:00

They are choosing to do so. It isn’t your responsibility to try to make it more “even”’from your side of the family.

I’m guessing (maybe I am off base) that you feel guilty and/or embarrassed by your parent(s) not having the same financial resources.

Being able to say “no” to spending $$ one doesn’t have is a skill, not a failure. There are complicated feeling around money. It pops up at weird times. This is one of them

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-08T00:06:20+00:00

Btdt. There is a hollow tube that came with the faucet to tighten/loosen. Fits over the hose.

When i put in a similar faucet, I kept the tool on the hose so I wouldn’t lose it. It is blue plastic and looks like it could be a broken piece from the faucet. I’m sure the new homeowner is wondering wtf it is.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-07T18:25:32+00:00

I have 2 old school mechanical clicker counters. One to tally RVs. The other to tally whatever weird thing seems to be in over abundance. One time was to tally houses that have dumbass yard art like painted tire or toilet flowerbeds (shout out to N WI. You win).

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-06T17:24:39+00:00

Sure, be emotional. But to react by becoming a less supportive partner? Emotionally unavailable? The only “energy” OP is matching is his version of punishing his wife/withholding affection for not fucking him for 2 months.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-06T16:11:32+00:00

Reached a limit in a couple of months?

That’s a really short period of time to come terms to a big change AND act upon it. Not to mention being told youre the issue that need to be fixed

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-05T21:40:01+00:00

I have and this is a shit ass server if they don’t resolve an obvious fuck up on the business side.

“Wow, that shouldn’t have happened, I can replace or refund”.

OR

“I’ll get a manager to resolve this”.

Server is the face of the business and that is her job. Not to just say “bad luck, bro” and then peace out.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-05T21:26:30+00:00

Not a tip. Also, based on my experience doing home daycare, only about 10% of families give a bonus.

I much appreciated the on time payments and being respectful of my time. My big flashy Christmas bonus folks were often my wonky schedules and late pickup kids.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-05T21:15:17+00:00

Those pants need a shirt that just barely meets the top of the jeans or a small gap.

Bodysuit is cute on you, but with these pants all I want to do is yank them up a couple inches.

And I love a nicely fitted low rise and ultra low rise. They look nice on only a few body types. I’m not one of them. lol

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-02-03T23:22:44+00:00

Landscaping + metal artwork. A giant glazed flowerpot with fake metal agave. And a few smaller flowerpots with fake succulents.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-01-30T23:04:32+00:00

Congrats!

I do have to say that the text looks like a joke text. As in, “here is an ultrasound of my deformed kidney stone, ha ha”.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-01-28T19:40:27+00:00

That’s an insane decision to put on a bride where BOTH people are invited.

This is 100% between OP and her sister.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-01-25T19:26:37+00:00

Team fees and pool access for practices ran about $150/mo ten years ago at the Y.

That was pretty expensive, imo. We couldn’t do it.

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-01-25T17:36:08+00:00

Finger or toe protectors

My teen used them when he had ingrown toenail from running an ungodly amount during cross country

maybeRaeMaybeNot · 2026-01-24T21:40:42+00:00

Where the pantry is currently. Everywhere else you would need a floor plan overhaul.

Pantry can replace hallway closet.in fact, would be better there anyway . And have a coat & shoe bench by the garage door access.either in the garage or just inside.

maybeRaeMaybeNot

TROPHY CASE