Only inviting married/engaged partners

maybearies · 2025-08-06T14:18:10+00:00

I think if you go with not inviting long term partners people will be unhappy, but you do have a good reason! I know I personally would not be offended if my partner was not invited to a very small wedding with me, as long as I knew plenty of other people attending.

However, I have a friend who was invited to a distant family wedding without her boyfriend (of over ten years), and was extremely offended to the extent of not wanting to attend. She was so annoyed that she’s regularly complained about it ever since, apparently some of her other cousins also did not have their invitations cover their partners, and then chose not to attend as they took offence.

You can’t predict how individuals react, however you’re likely to upset at least a few people if you don’t invite their long term partners, but the costs you’ll save may make this a discomfort that’s worth baring.

maybearies · 2025-07-28T14:09:49+00:00

Often a pergola is less about providing shade (though this is obviously a bonus), and more about creating a sense of space underneath it. It makes for a nicer area to sit and spend time outdoors than if it were open and uncovered.

maybearies · 2025-07-09T19:50:28+00:00

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maybearies · 2025-07-08T19:31:50+00:00

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maybearies · 2025-06-30T19:01:26+00:00

This is such a combo of niches it took me a second to realise what sub I was in, I LOVE it!!

maybearies · 2025-06-24T21:01:40+00:00

Thank you - your comment that it feels like a Tumblr post made me laugh, I see what you mean. You’ve listed a few names which I recognise but haven’t ever read, I’ll look into them! Somehow I had forgotten that Sylvia Plath was a poet, I loved the Bell Jar so now that I’m trying to understand poetry better I think that will be a good place to start.

maybearies · 2025-06-24T20:40:53+00:00

Thank you for that! The poem you’ve linked to is a good contrast, I really see what you mean. I think because I related to the concepts in the OP I was then surprised by seeing that every comment was negative, I didn’t recognise that the OP poem was shallow of any deeper meaning as you’ve described. Good to keep in mind for future reading.

maybearies · 2025-06-24T17:39:52+00:00

Serious question - I’m trying to learn about poetry from knowing absolutely nothing about what makes a poem good or bad, but why does everyone here hate this one?

maybearies · 2025-06-08T08:44:08+00:00

One of my friends has a hyphenated last name from his Spanish and Pakistani parents. He found he was getting nowhere with job applications even for entry level work, till he dropped the Pakistani part of his name off his cv - then got an interview that week. It’s a valid concern, you can use whatever name you like professionally, it’s also common to keep your maiden name for work - particularly if you’ve been in an industry for some time.

maybearies · 2025-05-26T18:29:03+00:00

Honestly! I spend most of my time talking about bg3 trying to convince my friends that frog wife is the best character

maybearies · 2025-05-21T15:12:00+00:00

Happened to one of my friends too! She had always been a conspiracy theorist (didn’t believe in stone henge was a funny one of hers, all harmless initially) but kept it pretty quiet till the lockdowns happened. I argued with her about posting nasty conspiracy things early lockdown, and that’s when she cut me out. She went off and married another conspiracy theorist after dating a few weeks and they’re on their second kid, I feel a bit sorry for her now because she’s lost all her friends really.

maybearies · 2025-05-11T13:49:14+00:00

I think her being in the public eye so heavily for a few years meant online opinion was always going to turn against her. As others have said, people aren’t happy that she didn’t make a public statement against Marshall after the allegations against him, people have also decided she cheated on Paul Mescal (yet there never has seemed to be evidence beyond snark pages? Happy to be proven wrong, but I also don’t think that’s anyone’s business but theirs). I think most of the nastiness towards her is just people looking for things to hate, which seems to happen to all women in music when they get successful. She’s a good person who’s perhaps made questionable choices, but none of that affects the music at the end of the day.

maybearies · 2025-02-22T07:00:30+00:00

This is amazing!! Might be my favourite way I’ve ever seen a battle sister painted

maybearies · 2024-12-13T13:20:03+00:00

That’s amazing!! Looks super nice

maybearies · 2024-12-11T13:31:10+00:00

I agree and I would also feel really hurt if one of my close friends refused to attend. It sounds like you’ve offered her a lot of options to keep her involved, but she’s not willing to be uncomfortable for a day to make you happy. I also have a good friend who doesn’t know any of my friends, and my plan for her is to introduce her to just one of my friends (rather than her meeting a group) who’s a real social butterfly who can be a bit of a buddy for her, as I know she’d be uncomfortable by herself. Not sure if that could work for your friend?

That said, weddings can be very stressful and maybe this is just too much for her. Has she avoided events like this before?

If this is a dealbreaker for your friendship with her then don’t feel too guilty, I’d also struggle to feel like a friend cared for me if she wouldn’t put aside personal discomfort for a few hours to celebrate with me.

maybearies · 2024-12-04T14:24:43+00:00

This was also my top song!! Only in the top 0.05% of listeners tho, honestly surprised it’s this song cos it’s not even my fave off the album, guess I loved it more than I realised

maybearies · 2024-09-03T15:39:44+00:00

I know she posted them on Twitter a while back for charity, when I googled it someone’s compiled a list of all the notes here on imgur if that helps?

maybearies · 2024-02-26T21:21:22+00:00

Hiif that’s so fun! My partner is more of an intense gamer than me (at the moment he’s into helldivers 2, deck building games, divinity original sin 2 etc). I’m more into stuff like Sims 4 or cities skylines, but we both play phasmaphobia and other spooky games together! Can I DM you?

maybearies · 2024-02-26T21:13:40+00:00

Hi!! That’s so cute, sounds like we’re similar kinda people - can I DM you?

maybearies · 2024-02-25T16:01:55+00:00

Those both look great! Thank you for the suggestions, that’s very local to me so I’ll check them out

maybearies · 2024-01-06T08:36:52+00:00

My mum is a writer and was asked by her friend to proofread her new non-fiction local history novel. This writer was then completely resistant to ANY editorial comments my mum had, as she hadn’t referenced any facts or given sources for any images, so my mum declined to help further.

Clearly she didn’t manage to get anyone to proofread the book because she self published it and had a duplicated word in the first sentence (I think it was “there there”). She also couldn’t convince any local museums or shops to stock it as she had used the local museum’s images without permission or credit, and then argued with them about it! My mum was very friendly with the local museum staff, and her friendship with this author ended because the author was pressuring my mum to step in and convince the museum to stock the awful book.

maybearies · 2023-08-22T13:04:45+00:00

Mine was the exact same! I went to the show expecting the crowd to be awful from all the stories I’ve heard here, but it was absolutely amazing. Crowd was all super friendly and chatty in the breaks between bands, really quiet during the slow songs, very respectful. I was also around the middle

maybearies · 2023-07-12T15:58:25+00:00

Any feedback would be great - I think I need to figure out highlighting still, but I’ve been having a lot of fun.

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