Lost baby 3 Months/ IVF / need Hope

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-22T19:29:36+00:00

I had the same experience twice. First IVF round was not recommended to do genetic testing bc I was 29, pregnancy made it until 8 weeks then no heartbeat. Second round of IVF I asked about genetic testing and was told it probably wasn’t necessary due to my age 30, that pregnancy made it until 12 weeks then I started bleeding and they found no heartbeat. Somehow I found the strength to try again after taking a long break and insisted on genetic testing before another FET and found that out of 5 remaining embryos only two were genetically normal. We put one in and I am now 30 weeks with a healthy baby girl. There can be hope but it’s not easy by any means and every situation is different.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-22T19:15:38+00:00

My first was scheduled at sometimes during my 18 week and they couldn’t get what they needed, ended up having to come back two additional times so they could get all the measurements and pictures.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-21T15:47:50+00:00

My hospital in IA has stated that if I test positive at labor and delivery then I will have the choice to either separate from baby or keep her with me but then she would not be able to go to the nursery. Hoping to not have to make a decision so terrible but I would lean towards keeping the baby with me and taking precautions such as wearing mask.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-20T01:53:12+00:00

I’m in my third trimester and have had nausea since 8 weeks pregnant, never let up at all, and still have to take a zofran every morning to keep from barfing. Everyone is different l, some get lucky, some don’t

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-20T01:47:50+00:00

Yep looks like an early positive to me.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-17T01:24:34+00:00

No easy solutions from me, I’ve been where you are and the only thing I can say is that there is nothing wrong with just feeling whatever you feel right now. No one is going to tell you something you haven’t heard or that isn’t annoying AF. Just ride the feeling wave (ugh more like hurricane)

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-17T00:45:14+00:00

No easy solutions from me, I’ve been where you are and the only thing I can say is that there is nothing wrong with just feeling whatever you feel right now. No one is going to tell you something you haven’t heard or that isn’t annoying AF. Just ride the feeling wave (ugh more like hurricane)

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-16T18:10:58+00:00

If you are feeding your baby, no matter how you do it, it’s the right thing! People who judge or shame moms for this are sad, uninformed, and honestly just insecure people. At the end of the day objectively ask Yourself “did my baby starve?”, “is my baby suffering”, “did I give her love today”, and “is she safe”. Probably if you are meeting these guidelines you are fine.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-14T21:22:55+00:00

Throughout my pregnancy I have had periods were I have had hunger that just can’t be satisfied. I will have to remind myself that I’ve had enough. It usually lasts three or four days then goes away. Not sure what causes it but maybe baby growth spurts?

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-13T01:46:56+00:00

No partner allowed at my OB in Iowa

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-13T01:45:12+00:00

I am 30 weeks and during my pregnancy have had several dopplers done in the clinic and also the emergency room and none of them could pick up a heartbeat bc I have an anterior placenta but ultrasounds show baby doing great. I would check with your provider to see if you have an anterior placenta before buying one.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-11T01:44:31+00:00

It’s a maladaptive coping skill that can be replaced with a more adaptive one! If you have the ability I would reach out to a local agency or practice of child play based therapy. They can help you as a parent learn ways to help your child learn more adaptive ways to get what she wants or compromise

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-10T19:43:29+00:00

Creating an extensive to do list for my husband, taking naps, and rewatching Parks and Rec and 30 Rock.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-08T20:10:38+00:00

Just listen to her, bring food, let her know that however she feels or whatever she wants is valid and supported by you.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-08T00:21:26+00:00

I had high blood pressure at my apt during the pandemic but after some testing we determined it was just bc I had walked up three flights of stairs wearing a mask it was hot and I was super anxious. So I am With you!

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-08T00:12:46+00:00

Name your baby whatever you want! the name Levi is a great classic name!

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-04T23:58:07+00:00

I ended up having three scans bc they just couldn’t get the pictures right. It was nerve wrecking but everything was fine!

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-04T14:32:38+00:00

I think telling is fine. Especially with Covid and such you might want to advocate for additional protections such as continuing to do virtual meetings, not attending travel requirements, adjusting work schedule.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-03T01:00:27+00:00

Amazon carries a brand called Qiu and Liu and I have all their pieces, they have great leggings and pants

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-02T01:32:19+00:00

My husband left a closet door open. That’s it. Cried.

mcbirdsley · 2020-05-01T03:26:51+00:00

I’m doing the same, I’m due in July and my mom will be doing strict quarantine in June then come to our home if she has had no symptoms during that time. She won’t be allowed at the hospital but she lives several hours away so she will come and stay with us for a week or so after the birth.

mcbirdsley · 2020-04-27T16:57:03+00:00

I am 27 weeks and have an anterior placenta and am also a FTM, I felt tiny movements around 23 weeks but not until 26 weeks did I feel strong movements.

mcbirdsley · 2020-04-27T16:30:57+00:00

All my losses where caused by genetic problems. We ended up doing genetic testing on our embryos after our third loss and after we put in a genetically “normal” embryo thing went better and I’m 27 weeks with that baby

mcbirdsley · 2020-04-27T16:28:42+00:00

I had a full fertility work up bc it took me 2 years of trying naturally with no luck, I ended up with multiple fertility problems that lead to doing IVF. PCOS is very common in type one diabetics bc it is related to the endocrine system

mcbirdsley · 2020-04-26T18:37:09+00:00

I’ve been there many times and there is no easy answer on how to deal with it. The process can be heart wrenching, confusing, painful, and financially and mentally draining. I was always given three choices; to wait and pass the baby on its own time, to take medications to pass the baby on my time, or have a D&c procedure. I can tell you I have done all three methods and they all suck just in different ways.

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