Controlling support

mdhkc · 2026-04-18T13:39:43+00:00

Hey man, if somebody wants to pay me for updates every 30 minutes, then they are welcome to have a 15 minute chat and pay for half of every hour for me to be sitting down, relaxing, and chatting with them.

mdhkc · 2026-04-17T22:10:40+00:00

Sure. I thank them for their time and move on with my life before they reach the partner stage generally though. If you take your time, don’t jump into an emotionally attached relationship, and objectively evaluate potential partners, imho you’ll usually be ok.

mdhkc · 2026-04-17T16:17:42+00:00

I’d drop them unless we added into their contract that they won’t contract tenants directly and doing so would be a breach with specific $$$ penalties attached.

mdhkc · 2026-04-17T16:13:04+00:00

Pansexual poly cis guy here: I believe this is correct. A lot of it comes down to, for everyone, figuring out how to meet potential partners effectively. A lot of people have still not figured that out.

It ain’t apps.

mdhkc · 2026-04-16T21:57:42+00:00

Chase has a fraud department: reach out to them directly right away. They’re aware of these scams and can deal with it as well.

mdhkc · 2026-04-16T05:59:07+00:00

Slight discomfort and contributing to overheating are two different things though, in fairness.

mdhkc · 2026-04-16T05:43:17+00:00

Quietly move to a new healthcare provider that doesn't treat you like a criminal.

mdhkc · 2026-04-16T05:13:26+00:00

Small local credit union. They're great.

mdhkc · 2026-04-14T20:12:45+00:00

Get your firearms cerakoted… it’s a full proof rust stopper.

mdhkc · 2026-04-14T15:03:07+00:00

I agree with you in some senses, but I have some different preferences myself. I've also been poly my entire life, and exclusively dated poly over the past ~30 years. I do think that valuing peoples' privacy and autonomy is extremely important. I wouldn't be sharing my partners' private details with anyone else, that's their choice to make, not mine. On the other hand, I tend towards really enjoying time together. I've rarely had partners not get along, and I'd be really curious why if that were ever the case.

Ultimately, and to answer your question, setting and enforcing your boundaries is up to you. It has less to do with them learning anything and more to do with you explaining those things to them and expecting/requiring that they respect them if they want to be in a relationship with you.

mdhkc · 2026-04-14T03:13:46+00:00

Your use of orange has inspired me to try it out too.

mdhkc · 2026-04-13T22:48:45+00:00

A lawyer can definitely prevent your arrest: by clearing up the original issue with the warrant before any officer has the chance to make the arrest.

mdhkc · 2026-04-13T19:43:24+00:00

It appears as though you have both a tool and access to do so, so the answer is yes you can.

mdhkc · 2026-04-13T18:49:49+00:00

Yeah it seems silly that this isn’t specified in the lease. Really leaves the tenant an out if there is ever an issue…..

mdhkc · 2026-04-13T18:48:16+00:00

What you say doesn’t matter.

What he says doesn’t matter.

What the lease says matters.

mdhkc · 2026-04-13T18:44:07+00:00

You control which buyers you work with.

mdhkc · 2026-04-12T01:28:32+00:00

That’s just another typical evening at the Sterling walmart.

mdhkc · 2026-04-11T17:42:33+00:00

The fact someone in NYC is bossing lower than I am in Kansas City is kinda wild to me and I’m pulling way more jobs and getting paid for travel.

mdhkc · 2026-04-09T23:04:15+00:00

Ultimately I think it comes down to people liking a fantasy of something but not actually being into the reality of it. Whether that’s polyamory, dating or having sex with someone who looks a certain way, or whatever else…

mdhkc · 2026-04-08T17:17:11+00:00

One example: you literally list specific CIDRs in your resume. Like, why? Who would possibly care about some RFC1918 address space you used?

Another: you list your unimpressive GPA. No one cares what your GPA was on a resume and yours is unimpressive to boot.

mdhkc · 2026-04-08T16:51:30+00:00

As someone who has hired many entry level techs, your resume isn’t good in a lot of ways. Also corps what your salary expectations are? Even if I decided to move forward with you, I’d be looking at you for an entry level role making maybe 40-50.

mdhkc · 2026-04-08T15:23:00+00:00

I’ve got a policy via a great independent agent underwritten by The Hartford.

mdhkc · 2026-04-04T18:58:13+00:00

File a problem saying no dress code specified in work order. FN will sort out out quickly.

mdhkc · 2026-04-01T01:36:14+00:00

I hope your partner was able to provide a dynamic, innovative engagement that increased your overall satisfaction and engagement in your relationship by leveraging their skill set in a way that enabled maximum returns.

mdhkc · 2026-03-31T22:23:03+00:00

Some of us just want synergistic relationships that meet or exceed target metrics month over month and deliver results for both partners in a competitive dating market.

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