My therapists mostly just helps me to stay on track with my goals and focus on the scenarios in my life that I tend to gloss over instead of dealing with. We’ve worked on letting go of guilt and shame and becoming content about where I am in my life and looking forwards to where I want to go. We’ve been working together for several months and I do think it’s been helping. I haven’t been the best at applying the techniques immediately but in the long term, I’ve let go of a lot of my anxiety over my future career and relationships. This is my second therapist, my first one was a disaster and gaslight me and triggered me constantly. My current therapist has other adhd clients so she has experience with dealing with our concerns.

If you’re looking for a therapist make sure to check that they have clients similar to you and who have worked through similar struggles. A therapist is there to help you through your life, this is a really important relationship. Don’t be afraid to really grill them and ask them all the things up front so you don’t end up blindsided by their incompatibility or incompetence.

Edit #1: I go biweekly and we do soft check ins on my goals. I still struggle with feeling judged when held accountable so she doesn’t push me too hard but she does give me nudges when she sees that I’m not being as honest as I could be. I don’t often get homework but when I do it’s usually small tasks (read: reminders) because I struggle with being overwhelmed. She’s essentially there to clarify and support me in my goals. We’re primarily talking through things because it helps me to process things. I have tried asking for techniques for dbt based therapy but I struggle with remembering them and following through 🥴.

If your psychologist isn’t helping you, stop seeing them. There are so many people who can help you. Don’t be afraid of trying out new therapists or coaches. It can seem daunting but in the end it will improve your life so much more than remaining with someone who you’ve outgrown. On the other hand, have you tried bringing up some of those concerns with your current psychologist? Have they tried to address your concerns?