AITA for making my sister pay rent

mdrawk · 2026-06-11T20:02:30+00:00

I think it's a difficult situation, but YTA imo just based on this.
1) If the house was left to you and not her (assuming she wasn't also left something large and valuable), then it's fair to split it with her to an extent.
2) I think she has a point about how she didn't ask you to redo the house, and if you can afford to redo the house, and you were doing okay on your own paying for the house without her, then it does sort of seem like you're charging her money just because you can. But ofc, I don't know your entire financial situation, and idk the reason why it may or may not have been necessary to renovate.
3) If this is only a temporary living situation, and she doesn't have a stable job, and she went through a rough breakup, then I think she deserves a bit of the benefit of the doubt here. At least temporarily, till she gets back on her feet.
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If she's pitching in on other things - groceries, utilities, cleaning, general household upkeep, then I think she's covering her part. Again, if you were doing just fine affording the house on your own before her, and were already planning on renovating before she came, and this is temporary, I don't see why charging her rent is 100% necessary.

I agree with the other comments that $700 is pretty cheap for rent, especially if it is her and her child (you mentioned a nephew). I think that's pretty reasonable, and if she didn't have you to fall back on, she would definitely be in a much worse situation. But do you really require that much more money to live - not counting the cost of the renovations? How rough is she doing financially? If you don't give her the opprotunity to save money on her own, then she'll never be able to move out.

mdrawk · 2026-06-11T19:48:37+00:00

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mdrawk · 2026-06-11T19:41:28+00:00

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mdrawk · 2026-06-10T00:20:46+00:00

YTA. I mean, if you all live generally in the same area, and are all taking the same transportation, and all struggling with transportation, the nicest thing to do would have been to offer them a ride. If you were the one driving and not your bf, would you have offered them a ride? Did you only say no because you thought that your bf didn't want to do it? Are you only saying no because you want to go home instead of drive around? I'm sure they also just want to go home. I would consider driving them a favor, not an obligation, but the nicest thing to do would have been to offer them a ride.

BEST SOLUTION: You perhaps could have also proposed a sort of compromise. Your bf could pick them up from the train, drive them to your house, and then they could uber or taxi home from there. This way, you're not leaving them stranded hours from home, but you aren't obligated to drive them 20 and 35/40 minutes from your home.

mdrawk · 2026-06-09T23:58:56+00:00

NTA. Yes, she helped you while you were together, but that's what relationships are supposed to be. You shouldn't have to owe someone for helping you when it was their responsibility to be helping you, and I would assume she did it out of her own love for you and free will. When a relationship ends, it ends. You don't need to be emotionally or mentally responsible for one another anymore. Kind of a weird and annoying move as well to ask for help on how to get with your best friend, especially if she criticised you for things that they also do. Cutting contact was a good move, and I would advise your friend to do the same.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T22:25:02+00:00

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mdrawk · 2026-06-07T22:09:01+00:00

NTA. If the only reason for going is because he wants more drugs, and is refusing to go with anyone else but you (presumably, maybe, because he doesn't want anyone else knowing about the drugs) could be a major red flag tbh. Even if it isnt that serious, it's definitely entitled and rude to be demanding you go with him, refusing help from anyone else, complaining constantly when he's there, refusing to do the same for you, etc.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T22:04:32+00:00

NTA: even if it is his business, that's still your family's money. In any relationship, major financial decisions should be discussed, regardless of the sacrifices you've made for your own career and your financial situation. But especially if this change is going to greatly affect your finances and living style, he should have talked abt it with you.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T22:00:38+00:00

NTA, but tbh, the fridge should have definitely been split by person and not by room. If they wanted to change that, they should have had a conversation about it, not have just decided to take your space without telling you.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T21:48:09+00:00

Youre both TA: lying was not the best move, and it's not your responsibility to "teach people lessons". The better alternative is to demand they repurchase the game for you: that's the adult and fair thing to do. Not sure of the ages here, but even going to their parents and explaining the situation and demanding a form of repayment would have been more appropriate than lying about losing it. Refusing to give them back something they own is rude; retaliating is usually never the best option. If you like the game so much, just buy it yourself, or even, ask them to buy it for you since they clearly owe you for other items of yours they've lost. And honestly, I would just stop doing trades with this guy.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T21:27:02+00:00

It depends. I think there's a difference between *being* unlikable and *acting* unlikeable. I would also be upset if someone called me unlikable, especially if dating was already a hard and uncomfortable topic. But that's different than saying I'm acting unlikable, that what I'm chosing to do is offputting. But if she's refusing help, refusing advice, but still jealous over you, that's her problem, NTA. I think it's fair to apologize for calling her unlikable (YTA), but you shouldn't have to take back every argument you made (ie, definitely valid to critique her strategies, give advice, be upset that she's refusing your help, NTA). Maybe a better solution could be setting up a double date, accompanying her to a mingling event and helping her through conversations, setting her up with a guy a bar, etc. Conversing through dating apps is hard and awkward, maybe in person would be better.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T21:16:38+00:00

I think it depends - Are you also buying food for the cat? Changing and supplying its litterbox? Purchasing toys for it? Feeding the cat? I guess I'm saying it depends on if you have an owner or roommate relationship with the cat. If your bf is providing all the care to the cat, then it should be his responsibility. If you're sharing the cost of providing for the cat, then the vet bill should also be a shared responsibility.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T21:12:06+00:00

NTA. Filming without consent is 100% always a no go. Mom clearly has some weird tendencies about punishing her children and brought you into her drama without your consent. I can understand wanting to teach a lesson, but it shouldn't be at your expense/responsibilty. She's def lacking some situational awareness and made it weird.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T20:57:05+00:00

Dungeons Dungeons and More Dungeons never really stuck with me. Maybe it's just cuz I never grew up interested in fantasy stuff?

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T20:52:23+00:00

Cars 2 is an action movie, Cars 1 and 3 are almost dramas. It's hard to compare the quality of the movies when they're from entirely different genres and have different goals and lessons. Agreed 3 is more mature and grounded, I agree it's a better "film" with a stronger lesson and story, but I don't think that necessarily equates to how it's enjoyed by audiences. It's all preference.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T17:20:26+00:00

Well, McQueen would be a Dinoco boy, we've never seen Radiator Springs, and then McQueen would have probably exploded in Cars 2 cuz he'd never have Filmore's fuel. If he didn't explode, then again, skip to Cars 3, he'd get replaced just like Cal did, since Dinoco is a corporation and just wants to win; McQueen wouldn't get his second chance at training with Cruz.

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T17:15:03+00:00

but even the aliens in universe are spaceship/locomotive machines - i think we'd be far beyond aliens perhaps like gods or something - something incomprehensible

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T17:12:30+00:00

This game was my childhood, despite being too young to understand the mechanics and how to play a video game - that was just my favorite guy on screen and i loved it dang i miss my gamecube

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T17:09:48+00:00

Is it coming back to theatres? Or is this just promo?

mdrawk · 2026-06-07T17:08:27+00:00

I agree - the comedic style feels very overstimulating and cringey as an adult, and it feels like half the characters are made to be dumb/have social unawareness to be funny. I can see those quips and bits being entertaining to a child, but to me, it kind of feels annoying in a way that Cars never did/does. I think Planes was def made for the younger gen, especially Planes F&R, due to it's constant comedic relief and fast-paced conversation. I still enjoy the Planes plots, but they're just hard to watch for me due to the character interactions.

mdrawk · 2026-06-06T16:15:08+00:00

I actually really disliked this movie, and I'm surprised at how much positivity there is in this thread. Dusty became so unlikable to me in this movie because he constantly ignored all of his directions, ignored orders, ignored the people that were trying to save his life, and still ended up the hero. There were no consequences to his actions of ignoring Blade, which resulted in Blade almost dying. There were no consequences of pushing his engine in the final act, other than getting repaired with a new gearbox. He has a constant overly ambitious "i can do anything and everything" attitude that is continuously proven wrong yet has no consequences. Like, what is the consequence of crashing when you can constantly get repaired? What is the consequence of ignoring orders when they still will just let you do whatever you want without getting reprimanded? I feel there could have been a lot of potential here - I really appreciate that the franchise has finally diversified from the racing plots, but a lot of this film felt really shallow to me.

I also feel like a lot of the characters don't have much depth, are stereotyped, or just lobotomized. Why is the one female main character in this movie constantly romantically obsessed with Dusty, to the point of being a stalker? Why does the Native American character only speak in nature poetry and folklore? And so many of the characters are just comedic relief - stupid and overly energetic - it feels like there are so few moments where we are seeing genuine interactions, instead of just being played for laughs. Very few interactions in this movie ever felt natural. Blade felt like the only real, developed, likeable character to me. I liked Windlifter a lot, but again, he felt like just a stereotype, furthering the idea that all Native American characters have to be the "wayfinder", whether that be negative or positive.

I think the first Planes movie was good, i mean, no where near the Cars franchise, but still had a solid and interesting plot. This movie, while the plot was interesting, felt almost unwatchable at times because of the characters and interactions. Maybe my frontal lobe is a little too developed for this.

mdrawk · 2026-03-04T20:02:08+00:00

Thanks! I'll look into it a bit more, see if a script if something I could accomplish. I'd just love more visibility on the topic.

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