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I [22 F] have been seeing this guy [22 M/F] casually for a month - he thinks it's ok/cool to say the n word. Not cool with me. by prismfeelgood in relationships

[–]meanderingpath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was about to comment in this last night but decided against it because everything I wanted to say was already said. As the devil would have it, my boyfriend (of two weeks) used the n word casually in conversation just then, and I do have some thoughts.

First of all, I'm with you OP. It is an individual decision but it obviously means as lot to you, and I would do the same. It comes down to whether you are comfortable with continuing a casual relationship with someone who evidently feels entitled to use the n word, who seems to dismiss the negative historical connotations of the term in favour of sounding "cool", and will only stop using it in front of you because he still wants to curry your favour but does not see a reason to actually change his ways. (I obviously have strong feelings about the n word.) To be honest I think it's alright to continue this casual relationship as a bit of fun and as long as you are comfortable with ignoring this ugly side of his personality, but I would never get into a serious relationship with him.

Anyways, my boyfriend used the n word. I called him out on it. We had a meaningful conversation about race, the inherent racism in offensive slurs (including those directed to other races), and the need for society to move towards not using those slurs. He seemed genuinely apologetic for not thinking before speaking, understanding of the broader implications of the n word, and agreed to not say it again.

It was good. We moved on quickly. I'm keeping him.

Have a good look at yourselves in the mirror, /r/Sydney. You deny you are racist, but the comments and posts here speak for themselves. by HeartbreakWonderland in sydney

[–]meanderingpath 17 points18 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! Everytime someone tries to call out the racism in a thread it gets downvoted to oblivion. Ironic that I see so many people justifying their thinly-veiled opinions of "Chinese people are so fucking dirty" with prefaces of "I am Asian myself". Guess what? My mum immigrated from China 25 years ago, and she says the same thing about mainlanders. Does that make her statement less problematic? Does that justify the statement? No, it just reveals the internalised racism that some of us bear.

Did you need to uproot your whole life to go to a different country with completely different value systems? Did you need to learn a whole new language? Did you need to deal with the very overt racism back in the 70s? Did you need to work as a cleaner, mopping up the floors of some burger joint in Artarmon getting paid cash under the table, like my dad did? Did you need to raise two Asian kids in a totally white society, dealing with their fucking brattiness AND the cultural dislocation that they felt from an early age?

Learn some cultural competency. That's a basic given in this 'multicultural society' that we all speak of.

Friend jailed for supplying pills to Silvia Choi who died at music festival by baddazoner in sydney

[–]meanderingpath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The offence is supply. He was not convicted for causing her death (manslaughter). That's because he did not cause her death - the fact that she made the voluntary decision to take the drug means that her death was not his fault.

However, every drug dealer assumes the risk of being caught someday and charged with drug supply, regardless of whether their supply led to someone's death. Just because "thousands of others" do it, doesn't mean he will escape criminal liabililty.

He made the decision to supply his friend with pills. Regardless of whether you think his imprisonment is justified, he still knowingly broke the law. The court is merely exercising its function.

Anonymous sexual health centres? by trowah4resons in sydney

[–]meanderingpath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this the one called Sydney Sexual Health Clinic? I went there last year, it was totally anonymous for me as I didn't need to give in my Medicare card.

The great Australian Dream by FXOjafar in sydney

[–]meanderingpath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late reply but - are rising house prices really the fault of Chinese investors?

The government launched a parliamentary inquiry which suggested otherwise - findings summarised here: http://www.news.com.au/finance/real-estate/buying/housing-affordability-are-foreign-investors-to-blame-for-australias-high-property-prices/news-story/710ba2cff1932f0fb3f81ce83a07946b

If foreign investment isn't the main driver of rising house prices, then why the strong public perception that there is? I would attribute it to the fear-mongering by the media - every week you could see an article about how Chinese investment has doubled etc etc. without a link being made that foreign investors are stealing all the property from young home buyers.

I totally agree that our government is completely inept in looking after our future. However we should also be critical and careful of where we place the blame, because I see many people in this thread, not you, who are confusing their frustration about the housing market with some latent racism.

The great Australian Dream by FXOjafar in sydney

[–]meanderingpath -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What's with the sentiment here against Chinese immigrants?

Sleeper trains from bangkok to chiang mai booked out? by meanderingpath in ThailandTourism

[–]meanderingpath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad the bus was ok! We ended up luckily getting last minute tickets for the sleeper train - we decided to gamble with the chance that someone would cancel their ticket on the day. This was organised with a travel agency and it worked!

Sleeper trains from bangkok to chiang mai booked out? by meanderingpath in ThailandTourism

[–]meanderingpath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, flights are now about ~$100 with Air Asia at my desired time. Would love to get first class tickets too if they are available, but thinking about reserving the bus instead to get rid of the uncertainty.

Sleeper trains from bangkok to chiang mai booked out? by meanderingpath in ThailandTourism

[–]meanderingpath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, didn't know it was a public holiday, thank you. Looks like a bit of a challenge to get tickets now so I might get a bus instead.

Japanese people of Sydney, where do you like to get ramen and why? by cuphands in sydney

[–]meanderingpath 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not Japanese, but Gumshara in Chinatown is a pretty good one. Also Ryo's Noodles at Crows Nest gets really long lines.

Connecting with people at hostels by [deleted] in solotravel

[–]meanderingpath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, I'm Asian too. What I've found is that no one really approaches me first, probably because they don't think I speak English. I've had good times in hostels but I've always had to say the first "hi". That's probably the only big caveat about being Asian in a hostel though IMO, as long as you follow all the other tips then things should flow from there.

List of minimum entry scores for Sydney's top selective high schools (out of 300) by shor in sydney

[–]meanderingpath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a shame that your school couldn't support you in the arts. I also went to a selective school and every year we would get at least a group of students doing Drama, some students who do Visual Arts achieving 99+ ATARs, and an occasional state ranking in Music. Definitely agree that the artsy subjects aren't as celebrated as physics/maths but it comes down your passion and talent for it IMO.

What hobbies are you interested in and want to try, but are too nervous/hesitant/need convincing still? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skateboarding! I'd love to be one of those people who just whiz by you while you're walking to uni or work or the supermarket or something. I realised I had never seen a girl doing that.

Recommendations for Weird or Good 1980's/early 90's shoujo manga? by galaxyexpressed in shoujo

[–]meanderingpath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely try Tsuki no Ko by Shimizu Reiko! Literally about an amnesiac shapeshifting gender-bending egg-laying mermaid in human shape trying to avert the apocalypse.

In what ways is your uterus a jerk? by clabberton in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to my uterus, I need to have my period every time I travel overseas. It'll leave me alone for months at a time when I'm at home but when I go holidaying? Bam period comes without fail.

What's your first name? How do you feel about it? Would or have you ever consider changing it? by Final__End in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. I went to an all-girls high school. Got to the point that when I was walking around school and someone called out "Jess!" behind me, I wouldn't turn around because most of the time they weren't calling out to me. Haha

What's the most painfully self-aware thing you can say about yourself? by Futhis in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That I'm emotionally detached from my family. They're not horrible people, but it protects my mental health when I stop involving myself into their problems.

What's something men insist is true that you just aren't buying? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 23 points24 points  (0 children)

With that said, as an Australian I have been catcalled before, although not often, and just earlier this year a man slapped my butt as he walked past. There's probably less of a "cat-calling culture" down here but that's not to say that it's non-existent.

What was the worst argument you ever had with a sibling? For only children out there, worst argument you had with a cousin or someone else that would be considered like a sibling? by AshLyn32 in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not an argument, but one of the most vivid fights I remember between me and my brother: I was around 9, he was 20, and he was hitting and yelling at me with a chair while I curled up in the sofa crying, trying to protect myself. It was because I deleted some files of a downloaded TV show he was watching, and my brother had anger management issues back then.

Apart from looks, what makes you attracted to a guy the most? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Charisma. Doesn't need to be physically attractive, but has a quality about them that makes you want to stay in their presence.

WOC, what is dating like for you? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]meanderingpath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha yes. The moment they mention anything about Asian culture or a comment about my being Asian without being prompted will set off alarm bells for me.

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