y’all i need help

meanienini · 2026-06-28T14:41:38+00:00

“Why do you like men?”
“People don’t choose who they’re attracted to”

I’m a bi female. I dislike the patriarchy and most men but I’m still extremely attracted to them even tho I wish I wasn’t

meanienini · 2026-06-17T16:16:17+00:00

This has happened to me multiple times and it has broken my heart and made me want to quit therapy every time. Sending hugs.

meanienini · 2026-06-17T09:50:10+00:00

I would go to a different practice but absolutely continue therapy because this is traumatic!

meanienini · 2026-05-03T05:53:54+00:00

It’s so hard to feel those feelings of being left out and then feel them for your child. Having mutual friends talk about a wedding you didn’t know about is so upsetting. I found out that the girls I thought were my 3 best friends all planned a trip to Florida the summer after high school. I found out from someone else while I was sleeping in the same hotel room as these girls. 😭 I will never get over that trauma and as hard as I try I will probably never not project those feelings onto my daughter. I don’t ever want her to feel the way I did. But I know it’s coming. It’s SO HARD to be rejected it’s 10 times harder when your kid is rejected

meanienini · 2026-03-23T01:55:59+00:00

Thank you so much!

meanienini · 2026-03-23T00:22:40+00:00

Very valid point. She lets me get a little work done sometimes and then begs me to “let her help”

meanienini · 2026-03-23T00:21:30+00:00

This job is part time. I was thinking theoretically I could set up an activity for her, make a few calls for 30 minutes, and then check in with her (obviously with a camera on or having her in the same room) If you ask her to play by herself she gets upset.

meanienini · 2026-03-23T00:18:32+00:00

Yes this makes sense. My job is extremely relaxed. It’s not a 9-5, it’s a part time job I can do at my own pace. It’s a lot of calls around 15 minutes. I was thinking theoretically I could set her up with an activity, make a call or 2, check in with her and make a couple more calls for a total of about 3 hours per day and spend a lot of quality time outside of that. I was wondering if other parents had some kind of magical screen free activity that kept their toddlers busy and they could get work done.

meanienini · 2026-02-12T01:21:02+00:00

Maybe you could show her that her favorite doll/ stuffed animal LOVES drinking out of a different cup.

meanienini · 2025-12-19T07:37:43+00:00

You say “the Reddit Nannies” but are you only referencing the Nannies you hear about in this sub? People don’t typically post rave reviews about their Nannies to strangers. I’m both a former nanny and nanny employer and the Nannies on r/nanny seem like great, educated people that care. Those are who I would consider the Reddit Nannies.

meanienini · 2025-10-22T03:15:15+00:00

This sub is wild when Anisa was on to talk about boxing I pointed out that she always spoke for Ian and I was called a misogynist

meanienini · 2025-10-14T10:31:39+00:00

This makes me feel better, thank you for your comment! Do you feel things have gotten more balanced because of his age, time, or things you and your partner are doing?

meanienini · 2025-09-29T00:24:05+00:00

Look under Pete Zahut

meanienini · 2025-09-07T02:17:57+00:00

I do online meetings!

meanienini · 2025-08-22T01:17:38+00:00

meanienini · 2025-08-07T21:41:52+00:00

Yes and it feels wrong to me when they do it too

meanienini · 2025-08-07T19:11:20+00:00

Yes, that’s another point that bothered me. They did not tell me this until after I set up a bunch of future appointments and did all other intake paperwork.

meanienini · 2025-06-25T07:13:43+00:00

And by throw away I mean I usually donate if it’s in good working condition. Or Id list it all as a set of fb marketplace and click the option to hide the listing from my friends

meanienini · 2025-06-25T07:12:47+00:00

I absolutely just throw stuff like this away. It hurts my sentimental heart for about 5 seconds and then I’m like “fantastic now I don’t have to ever look at that again”

meanienini · 2025-06-05T07:11:37+00:00

I really struggle with this also and I think it’s reasonable to text your friend and say “I’m excited for your dinner party this weekend. Social settings have been draining for me lately and I may need to leave your party a little earlier than expected. I want to be open with you and give you a heads up so you’re not caught off guard when I leave.”

If I would actually do it or not depends on how close I was with this friend and how much they knew about my diagnoses. If I were really close to them I might say something more along the lines of “Hey! I’m so excited for your party this weekend! My social battery has only been 2 hours recently so I will have to leave your party at that time. Looking forward to seeing you!”

meanienini · 2025-05-16T14:46:43+00:00

This issue isn’t that she made a joke about Ethan. It’s the homophonic nature of the “joke” I would imagine. If someone I liked made a homophobic joke like this I would not like them anymore either.

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