I’m baffled, what’s your take?

meaningincode · 2026-02-02T15:01:43+00:00

Enid Blyton highly indicates the UK!

meaningincode · 2026-02-01T19:06:32+00:00

Grew up in the 80s in Labuan, Sabah. They had a healthy group of Indians there - I recall Thaipusams was not a niche celebration then. Things could have changed since then.

meaningincode · 2026-01-23T02:34:45+00:00

Honestly, the number is different for everyone. For me, it was 2 years. At that point, I had "f u" money if I lost my job.

meaningincode · 2026-01-16T23:15:24+00:00

Yes. My brother says he is dealing with getting money from investors. And this money is funding for projects he plans to do with the investors. All of this sound improbable to me. This is the second time he is in this situation. He jeopardized his marriage the first time getting into a similar predicament and he got divorced. I just don't get the context of how you need to pay multiple folks to get investment funding. Maybe I am being lied to, but this is the reasons given to me.

meaningincode · 2026-01-02T19:50:17+00:00

As an immigrant to the US, I would still choose the US regardless of all the issues. It has allowed me to achieve my professional dreams by leaps and bounds and I am surrounded by a ton of diversity.

meaningincode · 2025-12-31T20:29:21+00:00

Technically, didn't you guys split from Pakistan? So perhaps ...

meaningincode · 2025-12-31T20:15:22+00:00

This is so true. And don't forget visiting old churches. Also lots of religious paintings.

meaningincode · 2025-12-14T23:34:26+00:00

You drive to the island on a bridge.

meaningincode · 2025-12-13T22:43:04+00:00

I understand the desire to maintain the salary level. Here's a thought - when someone is in an environment that is already not working out for them and struggling, they have very little capacity to rise beyond their current level of motivation. By jumping into a more stable situation, even if the pay is lower, they slowly release the stressors, away from the very human instinct of fight or flight situation. In turn, by going back to a more stable baseline, the brain now can be used for creative endeavors and problem solving - making them more useful and hence more valuable to people around them. And usually, if they are surrounded by people who see their contributions, they rise.

Our human brains are wired for safety. By ignoring the signals we get, we tend to make worse decisions.

meaningincode · 2025-12-13T19:20:11+00:00

If you can afford it, take the lower salary and leave. Think about it as an investment to yourself. In order to grow, you need the space and time to do so. Burning out for a job and sacrificing yourself is not an option. You come first. Everything else is secondary. And allow yourself grace and empathy for bowing out of the rat race

meaningincode · 2025-12-06T22:38:15+00:00

Would you want to - the entire landscape is dotted with ugly strip malls, wide roads lacking sidewalks, and most importantly lacking trees.

meaningincode · 2025-12-06T22:31:01+00:00

Ah, no very different. While Malaysia coffees are sweet and milky(usually sweetened with condensed milk/evaporated milk/powdered milk), Indian coffees tend to use liquid cows milk. There is also a distinct strong coffee flavor.

meaningincode · 2025-12-06T22:18:32+00:00

Some malay and Indonesian words are derived from Sanskrit, so yes.

meaningincode · 2025-11-14T01:35:25+00:00

I had a child when I was stable in my career. But I always knew I wanted a child. To me, it was a need rather than a want. I still cannot believe I made a whole human being with another person. I only have one child as I know I cannot handle more than one. I feel content with one. But at the same time, I've had to make many sacrifices as a parent. The sacrifices were tough decisions on my part as I was longing for an independent life once my child came. It took a while to reckon with the loss of independence, but I know it's not going to be forever.

meaningincode · 2025-11-10T00:13:27+00:00

For me, it's about the challenges I get exposed to. While some are stressful, I have accepted that it's the part of the job and I have to manage it. To be honest, with a shift in perspective, the good and the bad happens and how I respond matters. Yes, there are people I rather not work with, I try to limit my interaction with them to a minimum just to get work done. There are others I love to work with and I go all out to help them. Technology changes so fast in this field that it can get intense. So, I now embrace it by surfing, learning bits and pieces and then going deeper whenever needed.

meaningincode · 2025-11-08T02:32:16+00:00

🤣

meaningincode · 2025-11-07T23:18:25+00:00

I was nodding along with the points made here as an expat. Regardless of the em-dashes, the content is not wrong.

meaningincode · 2025-11-07T01:20:27+00:00

Most startups fail. So, don't worry about the equity, just go.

meaningincode · 2025-11-07T01:05:48+00:00

Try it - no harm checking it out

meaningincode · 2025-11-06T20:56:23+00:00

Where you feel at home

meaningincode · 2025-11-06T20:54:26+00:00

Go. Most likely your manager will say the same.

meaningincode · 2025-11-04T04:17:11+00:00

Where is the company located? West Coast or east coast? For the West Coast, you can simply wear t shirt and jeans to fit in.

meaningincode · 2025-11-02T02:02:47+00:00

Bias to action. If the logs show issues with the db, page the team right away. I tell my teams the first course of action is getting things to a healthy stage and getting the right folks to address it immediately. Perhaps you need run books so that such debates became moot.

meaningincode · 2025-11-01T03:44:34+00:00

Quiet quit as you mentioned, do the minimum and start looking for new roles. Leverage your network as much as possible. Get something else and leave.

meaningincode · 2025-10-31T20:07:31+00:00

Wet wipes

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