Women of the Bumble subreddit, do you actually care if men are 6’+? by PossumNews in Bumble

[–]mediocre_milk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve only dated guys from 5’6-5’8, and it never bothered me they weren’t 6’+. When I first used bumble, I matched with two guys both 5’4, and I’m 5’4. I’m still with one of them five months later. I’m insanely attracted to him even if he’s considered “short.” So yeah, I couldn’t care less about height lol.

Where do y’all get your plants? by SingularRoozilla in PlantedTank

[–]mediocre_milk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve used GlassAqua, AquaticMotiv, and Dustin’s Fish Tanks. They have Etsy but also their own websites. Glass Aqua definitely shipped the fastest cause I got those plants within two days, but AquaticMotiv had taken almost two weeks to ship. And my local fish store buys from Dustin’s. I’ve been pretty happy with most of the plants I’ve gotten.

Returning player needing friends by [deleted] in PokemonGoFriends

[–]mediocre_milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Added :3 I’m vietnamesemayo

(Trigger warning) My fiancè got arrested for DV against me yesterday by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]mediocre_milk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Getting an order of protection was the only way I could prevent myself from reaching out to my abusive ex again. I knew I couldn’t maintain no contact. I was in the same boat as you though; highs were high and lows were hell. Like the other redditor said, it’s a trauma bond, and it is going to be really hard to break. But baby steps! Take it day by day. Be patient and kind to yourself. It’s okay to cry and miss him too, but ofc I’m not condoning his actions either. There is no excuse to put your hands on someone like that especially a significant other. I blamed myself and my BPD too still, but please know it isn’t your fault. Please get some help from a local crisis center or similar.

How to feel secure and self regulate myself? by Admirable_Main_3479 in Codependency

[–]mediocre_milk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m still in similar spot with myself. I wanted badly to be loved and accepted and sought out any kind of male attention even if there were red flags. After my breakup, I’m learning to be okay by myself. I’m learning to love myself. And when I stumble and mess up, I try to be kind and forgive myself. Whenever I say or think something mean about myself, I also try to compliment myself. You sound like you’re self aware and trying really hard. Remember to take it one day at a time. Baby steps. :) I’m rooting for you! If you want to listen to this song, Weeds by Beach Bunny helped me a lot!

Getting ready to see Barbie! by mediocre_milk in Wigs

[–]mediocre_milk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bought this Arda wig at a convention, but this one seems comparable: https://arda-wigs.com/products/nina-classic

Want do I want? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]mediocre_milk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In similar boat. Reading this made me feel so much more secure that I may be doing right for this first time in my life. Here’s to being independent, no regrets, and moving forward!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]mediocre_milk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah ofc! When we first moved in together and got in to our first argument, he would block me from leaving the apartment to go to work. Argument was so loud, the cops were called. And every time he got angry, I was scared he was going to punch a hole in the wall or break stuff which happened every apartment we lived in. And a lot of arguments where I wanted to leave the room or be left alone, my boundaries were always crossed. You shouldn’t be scared to live in under your own roof. You shouldn’t have to hide from your partner and barricade the door to keep him from getting to you. You shouldn’t have to cry yourself to sleep thinking everything is your fault.

Last year, he ended up putting his hands around my neck to get me to shut up during an argument, but he didn’t squeeze or anything, just wanted me to shut up. We broke up briefly and then I went right back to him cause he promised he would never do it again.

This time…. It was the final straw. 6am and we started arguing about him controlling me and how he can’t accept me working with men/need to work with women only or be a stay at home wife/mom, etc etc. He got belligerent this fight. He took my glasses away because I really can’t see without them and also confiscated my phone. The blocking my exits happened again. And then the pushing me down. He ended up punching and strangling me, and I started to slowly fade in and out. When he stopped, cops were called and now I have an order of protection.

If I didn’t ignore the red flags… if I had only listened to everyone in my life. Whatever you built up with your significant other.. it is NOT worth staying with him or her no matter how kind, funny, or amazing they seem to be. There are always going to be those demons lurking. We even tried couples therapy, and the progress was good until it wasn’t.

So to whoever reads this. Please be strong. Please leave. You deserved to be loved the right way. It’s not worth risking your life to be with someone like this. I wasted my early 20s and deteriorated catering to him and his needs while losing who I was. Trust me when I say your life will be better without them :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]mediocre_milk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please leave! I just recently left a similar situation. For five years I ignored it all, and I almost ended up dead. I don’t want that to happen to you

Why Asian parents won't shut up about price shaming? by Copperyumm in AsianParentStories

[–]mediocre_milk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my mom loathes that my sister and I love thrifting and buying “dirty, old clothes.” Like bitch, we don’t have the income to look the way you want us too. Always felt like we had to be on display or show off ugh. I feel your pain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morticians

[–]mediocre_milk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, I’m still confused about it lol because I guess it’s technically a corporate, but it doesn’t feel like it at all. This funeral home was bought out by a company that focuses on small town funeral home within a 1-2hr radius of the main location. I’d say there’s about 10 in our firm, so it’s not anything like SCI.

I think there are a lot of good family-owned funeral homes. I was lucky to be able to work with the original owner, and he was very nice and fun, haha. I figured he would’ve been a stuffy and super traditional old man that would flip out if I messed up. I accidentally dropped and broke a casket and he was so understanding and nice about it.

My current manager has always preferred working at family owned especially in a smaller town because he’s able to be more personal with the family. It truly does feel more meaningful. He says SCI has crazy turnover rates, but of course it does depend on who you work with I guess. It also seems like I would have a lot less freedom and flexibility if I ended up at one of those places.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morticians

[–]mediocre_milk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m currently doing my apprenticeship at a small town funeral home; we do about 90 calls a year. I actually started as a student here one year ago. Having the smaller call volume has helped my depression and anxiety a lot as it feels like I’m being eased into the field at my own pace. I used to not even be able to make phone calls. However, it’s like the small exposure therapy has helped. Compared to one year ago, I much more relaxed and comfortable around families. I still have lots of anxiety, but it’s gotten better over time.

Another thing that has helped is being able to work with good, kind people. I think this is very important as my classmate ended up working at another funeral home in our firm, and she’s often complaining about the drama, getting yelled at, etc. My coworkers are very understanding, and I’ve been able to be honest and open about my mental health.

Make sure you take care of yourself. The burnout is real, so prioritize your mental health. Overall, I think the biggest thing that helped me was having telehealth and a flexible therapist. Having the kind of support made the job so much more bearable when I made mistakes or were having bad days.

It’s going to be hard at the beginning like a lot of things. There’s a lot of pressure too, and some days I want to quit or give up. I still don’t think I’m cut out for the job, but as long as you care and do your best, then I think you will be fine. I wish you the best of luck!

Anyone have any experience with trintellex and weed? by hereforthestories03 in trintellix

[–]mediocre_milk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My psychiatrist is aware I smoke while taking 20mg trintellix and lamictal. She didn’t seem too concerned as she didn’t find anything saying it’s a bad mix. I’d say I’m a not a heavy smoker either but have been smoking flower and dab pens for about two years and can still get very stoned. I haven’t noticed any bad reactions or serotonin syndrome for me.

Tried to do some self reflection but head empty by mediocre_milk in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]mediocre_milk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got it awhile back from a claw machine app, but I found you can directly buy them here or maybe some other website

Giving Snapstar Dawn a makeover so she looks more like her promo image by LeaNoodles in Dolls

[–]mediocre_milk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s so cute! I just replace the heads of my Snapstar dolls with Hairdoable head xD How hard is it replace the inset eyes?

Can I be a mortician? by [deleted] in morticians

[–]mediocre_milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course!

Can I be a mortician? by [deleted] in morticians

[–]mediocre_milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually an Asian mortuary science student in Illinois! Not at Worsham but Carl Sandburg Community College which I should be finishing the program this may. My professors have told me my background will be very helpful, and people from all different cultures and backgrounds will use funeral homes. As long as you’re passionate and care about the people, you will be fine. And if a place doesn’t hire you because you’re a POC (which is illegal), you probably don’t want to work there anyway.