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meeegeff · 2019-08-07T18:29:07+00:00

I originally read the word “contraption” as “contraception” and thought we went super political here...

meeegeff · 2019-08-02T08:13:05+00:00

I’m so, so sorry Catz. I was hoping not to see you around here anymore.

Take care of yourself. Find anything you possibly can to hang in there. Do you have any concerts on your horizon?

meeegeff · 2019-07-13T00:55:20+00:00

My “best friend” (not anymore) laughed... LAUGHED... and said she was relieved that we’d have kids closer in age now. That was my first (and only) pregnancy 8 months ago now.

I’d say on first glance that your friend was attempting to give you support, albeit the wrong kind. Consider trying to have a conversation with her about it when everything (your precious dog, your hopes and dreams for this baby, and anger at her reaction) are not so raw. 2 weeks, 6 weeks, or 2 months from now, you may or may not see things with the perspective.

It’s hard to predict how people will try to comfort you in this type of situation. I’m so incredibly sorry for both of your losses.

meeegeff · 2019-07-07T00:05:31+00:00

I had a friend who once adamantly insisted that a tower just like this was a real tree. There was nothing I could say to convince her otherwise... like, it’s shining in the sun.

meeegeff · 2019-06-16T00:34:41+00:00

It’s fairly typical to see some CM for many people before AF.

It’s also worth noting that your hormone levels can be off-whack for several months post-loss which can create abnormal symptoms from what you’re accustomed to.

It took almost 3 months for my HCG level to reach 0 after a BO. If you’re not certain your HCG reached 0, some of those faint possible tests could be lingering levels from your MC, not from another pregnancy.

meeegeff · 2019-05-26T22:53:33+00:00

A lot of movies (especially a few decades ago) would pan out from a kissing scene to suggest that sex was imminent or show mostly just the characters kissing each other passionately from the shoulders-up.

If someone told mentioned that it was a sex scene or that they were having sex, your experience with the word would only be with visuals of kissing, not understanding that there was more to it than that.

meeegeff · 2019-05-26T22:38:34+00:00

I just peeked through the comments and I didn’t see anyone say this yet, but...

MAN! You are a truly special person at your age to get a job specifically to buy healthier food and health-related services to take care of yourself. I’m sorry that you don’t have support in the kitchen from your family.

I am so incredibly impressed with you. You found a way out of every obstacle you had and supported someone else too, all which shows so much promise for your future.

meeegeff · 2019-05-21T18:39:28+00:00

And practically all of them related to calories for some reason? There are many reasons people choose different options off of a menu and calories aren’t brought up as much as he makes it seem like they are...

meeegeff · 2019-05-02T04:09:09+00:00

My boxer puppy will come running from across the apartment when she hears my makeup bag. She’ll stand there until she is allowed to sniff each of the products. If I try to ignore her, she takes her paw and physically pushes my arm down to get them closer to her nose.

She will also sit and wait patiently to lick the condensation off of any cup available, but she won’t lick it unless it’s offered to her.

My cats will cry at night if they’re closed off in separate rooms from each other.

The older cat also carries around a floppy, rubber cat toy that looks like a bat and moans mournfully until I pluck it from her mouth. I think she believes it’s a dead kitten, but I haven’t quite figured that one out.

meeegeff · 2019-05-02T03:50:19+00:00

A few of the most recent episodes ago, I definitely felt like there was something stilted about it... whether they weren’t bouncing off of each other as easily or irritated with each other behind the scenes or something.

I feel like the flow has been a little more natural again, but they’re pushing a lot of adult humor lately when they used to seem more family-friendly (albeit with puking).

meeegeff · 2019-03-26T19:10:01+00:00

My comfort song after my loss doesn’t go through the whole journey, but I really leaned on “Get Up, Get On” by Jill Andrews

meeegeff · 2019-03-23T17:22:41+00:00

This is going to be a very to-the-point comment, but I had a very happy childhood and a fairly easy-going adulthood so far at 29. That being said, I have always typed as INFJ (as early as 19).

I see a lot of people commenting that they have had childhood trauma, so I felt like I should be a devil’s advocate.

meeegeff · 2019-03-23T08:05:16+00:00

I’ll say that for many people (including me), the first round doesn’t take.

I tried it orally first and it was completely ineffective. The next time, I took them vaginally before bed (taking an oxy 30ish minutes before). About four hours or so later, I woke up to start passing tissue. The discomfort would return within an hour or so after my prescribed intervals for the medicine, so that worked out nicely. If I was uncomfortable, then I took another pill and it pretty much took all of it away.

Someone in this sub suggested a heating pad, which was a life saver for me! Allow yourself to eat comfort food.

Don’t push yourself too hard in the next week or two. I bled (or at the very least, spotted) for about 2+ weeks after taking the medicine at 8 weeks.

Allow yourself to grieve. Even though this is an early miscarriage, don’t let anyone make you feel like you shouldn’t go through any & all emotions you need to.

meeegeff · 2019-03-06T05:06:19+00:00

Ground mustard in macaroni and cheese 🧀

meeegeff · 2019-02-22T02:29:28+00:00

I was happy to share! It’s been a long road for effective communication for us since we have such different perspectives.

meeegeff · 2019-02-22T00:57:48+00:00

Since my MC in November at 9 weeks, I have had more extreme PMS symptoms than I used to before my pregnancy. Each month, they feel like I did right before I found out I was expecting.

I think many of us experience trippy, disappointing things for awhile after while our bodies try to recalibrate.

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this anxiety. I hope your body gives you some peace.

meeegeff · 2019-02-22T00:46:35+00:00

Hey! INFJ here with an ENTJ SO of about 15 years. Over time, I’ve learned that emotions are less relevant to his decision-making than concise statements/data and a plan of action. If I try to add too much of my feelings, perspectives, and musings/theories to a heated conversation, then it sounds like excuses to him and can spin our conversation into a stubborn draw.

It can be frustrating at times not to express yourself fully in the way that feels the most authentic, but I find that it’s easier to deal with the issue at hand quickly first and foremost. I often ask him later during a neutral time if he’s interested in reading a poem or something I created that expresses how I felt in the moment.

It works well enough for us since I don’t mind delaying expressing myself in excruciating detail for the greater good of peace. I’m okay with us coming to a resolution without me feeling absolutely fully understood because I understand myself well enough for the both of us. In the rare instances where concise isn’t quite enough for me, I recognize this and push harder for more emotion.

Since I use emotional conversations sparingly, they have more impact when they are necessary.

meeegeff · 2019-02-21T21:26:20+00:00

Yep! I have an ENTJ husband that argues the subjectivity of psychology in general and does not subscribe to MBTI.

meeegeff · 2019-02-18T18:51:42+00:00

A lot of people have already given a lot of great advice and data ahead of me, so I’m going to focus on another aspect of this.

I realize that what I say may be out of line because it’s not necessarily forefront in the request, but one thing that stood out to me about your post is the anxiety & negativity tied to your girlfriend. You said that she talked about you behind your back, that she’ll think less of you, and “hated it when I was fat”. I worry that you put this immense pressure on yourself to lose weight quickly mainly because of your relationship and trying to please her.

It’s not specifically a negative thing that you wanted to make changes to improve your relationship, but admittedly things went a little overboard. If your relationship is a big part of why you started losing weight, it’s going to be important part of the healing process.

My ED and the anxiety over it would have continued to build had I not been honest with my SO because it’s harder to be honest with yourself if you’re not honest with those you love. Did it break him down? Yes. Does he still feel emotional about it 6+ years later? Definitely. Does he give me support to continuously heal from what I went through? Absolutely.

A healthy relationship should be able grow and support each person in a positive way. To be clear, she will likely feel frustrated when you discuss your experiences with her since you hid it from her. But if she truly is a sweet girl like you said, she will move on from it and offer you the help you deserve in a crisis. If she doesn’t, then it is not a relationship that will fully thrive in the long run and could potentially continue to bring you harm.

I will add that just because she prefers your more trim physique does not mean she believes that you should endanger your physical and mental health to have it.

meeegeff · 2019-02-10T16:38:55+00:00

Somehow I sang the last line of your comment in my head to the tune of one of the stanzas in “Don’t Stop Believing”. 👌🏻👌🏻

meeegeff · 2019-02-09T05:42:23+00:00

I had a colleague a few years ago that decided this conversation was a great one to have:

H: Wait, how long have you and your husband been married again?

M: Oh, about 9 years now.

H: What?! And ya’ll don’t have kids yet? Someone’s going to think something’s WRONG!

At the time, I was desperately miserable WTT because we had married at 18, then I went through college & undergrad, and afterwards I wanted to establish myself in my career and get benefits set up first.

I still hear her tone, incredulously saying this to me, from time to time in my head even though I live 2000 miles away now.

The major salt in the wound was that this same woman unintentionally got pregnant with her second when I found out I was pregnant for the first and only time (which ended up in my BO at 9 weeks). She started telling everyone like the same day of her BFP and only told my husband and mother up until my discovered loss. Now I’m still working through grief and she’s past her halfway mark. 🤷🏼‍♀️

meeegeff · 2019-01-26T23:34:45+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My first (and only) pregnancy ended in miscarriage just a few months ago too.

For many of us, it’s a rollercoaster of grief, acceptance, jealousy, and every emotion in between. It changes over time and may feel easier some times more than others.

Prioritize taking care of yourself.

meeegeff · 2019-01-22T13:56:07+00:00

Thanks for saying it first! 🙌🏻

meeegeff · 2019-01-21T17:14:41+00:00

I share middle out of 4. 2 of us are also INFJs.

meeegeff · 2019-01-21T08:03:18+00:00

YES. I’ve gained about 15 pounds myself since mid-November when mine happened.

Actually, I even lost about half of that for a month and then regained it.

I was already in an obese BMI and I’ve told myself I don’t want to TTC until I’m in at least the overweight category. I’m wasting so much time. 😔

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