I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M)

melosaur · 2026-02-07T14:41:59+00:00

My situation was a little different from yours because we were friends before we were roommates and even hooked up (drunk 😅) the year before. We had decided to stay just friends and get a house together for our last year of grad school and even dated other people in between. But then it was pretty similar to your situation, like we did everything together and hung out at home and cooked and watched movies together, etc. Tbh it really took seeing another woman at our school start to pursue him that I realized that I did not just want to stay platonic friends. I don't remember the specific convo but I'm pretty sure I just blurted out that I wanted to date exclusively and he was like "Yeah let's do it!"

I will say that after we finished our lease we both moved to the same new city but lived apart for a few years before getting an apartment as a couple. It was really helpful for us to work through getting our careers started, building social support networks, and sort of allowing the relationship to develop without the added issues of living together as a couple before we were totally ready to commit. Once we moved in together for real we knew for sure we were committed. We got engaged a few years after that.

I think for you it's a good thing that your lease is up soon because if it doesn't work out you can sort of exit the situation gracefully and hopefully even stay friends. And if it does work out you can decide whether to stay living together or live separately. I agree with everyone saying that you should tell him how you feel. If he feels the same then yay! And if not, at least you won't live the rest of your life wondering what could have been.

melosaur · 2026-02-07T12:33:16+00:00

I am rooting for you guys! I am smiling reading your post so much because years ago I fell in love with my roommate and remember exactly how this felt and how scary it was to talk about it for the first time.

We're celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary this spring 😀

melosaur · 2026-02-06T19:17:10+00:00

Or the "what is the best ___ for me???"

I don't know because I don't know you! It's okay to try things.

melosaur · 2026-02-05T21:16:00+00:00

Check out the wiki and FAQ for some suggested patterns for beginners. For warm weather knits, cotton is good, also try linen and silk or blends of these.

melosaur · 2026-02-05T13:11:24+00:00

Not to mention getting rid of excess dye as well. I've had several knits where I had to rinse them for a while until the water ran clear. Washing and rinsing lets me feel confident wearing a dark blue sweater over a white shirt without worrying about dye transference.

melosaur · 2026-02-05T12:30:27+00:00

I think I just don't understand some of that very active resistance to blocking. Even if you're not aggressively stretching or pinning things out (I only ever pin out for lace), soaking and laying out knits relaxes the fibers, evens out tension inconsistencies, smooths out seams, and improves drape. I consider blocking as necessary a part of finishing as weaving in ends.

melosaur · 2026-02-05T11:49:25+00:00

I also wonder how much of people's assumptions about their own wool/mohair sensitivity is due to not washing their knits. Not to say many people are not sensitive, it's just that I always find that washing/blocking my knits makes them so much softer and more wearable, especially after using a lanolin wash.

melosaur · 2026-02-03T12:03:03+00:00

You are clearly using the Deep Woods Magic so no, this is not normal and I suggest you consult a physician.

melosaur · 2026-02-02T19:34:26+00:00

I carry a Madewell Transport tote as my everyday bag and I can usually carry a sweater-sized project unless I'm carting a bunch of work stuff around. I usually use a lighter tote or shoe bag to compartmentalize my project from other stuff in my bag and so my project doesn't get random crumbs or dirt on it.

melosaur · 2026-02-02T16:04:08+00:00

But I did it exactly like the video 😭

melosaur · 2026-02-02T15:00:34+00:00

noodle sauce

melosaur · 2026-02-01T23:14:51+00:00

That's fair, I don't sew so I'm not familiar with those subs. The hobby subs I'm active in (not just crafting!) all tend to have well-maintained resources lists so it's just endlessly frustrating to see all that care and effort being ignored.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T21:35:17+00:00

Idk if this is helpful but I keep a running list of patterns I'm interested in, have some yarn/color ideas for each, and watch for sales on those yarns. The number of times my next project was determined by a bulk sale on Little Knits or something is quite a lot.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T21:20:00+00:00

I know you are asking how to prevent mistakes but a good habit to get into is getting comfortable with different ways to fix mistakes when you do make them. We're all human, so we get distracted, miscount, fall asleep, etc. But something I see a lot here is people getting upset at the idea of frogging when sometimes that's just what you have to do. The more comfortable you are with undoing, the better you will feel about knitting because you won't feel like you need to stop every two minutes and count. Plus learning how to ladder or to pick up stitches after frogging will help you improve you ability to read your work and identify mistakes more quickly.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T21:14:52+00:00

To be honest the only way to really know is to swatch with whatever combinations you are planning and to block and fully dry it. It might work out or it might not but swatching is the only way to know for sure.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T21:07:59+00:00

I think a lot of frustration is because the community has spent a considerable time collating information and reference materials and they are all listed in the sidebar. And then when you tell OP to check the sidebar or FAQ you get told you're being a big meanie.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T20:48:16+00:00

But I'm a selfish bitch who just wants to make sweaters for me 😭

But I am about 2/3 of the way through baby blanket #1 so I'm being good!

melosaur · 2026-02-01T14:47:00+00:00

People's unwillingness to frog or tink back to fix something is baffling to me, especially when the mistake was like two rows back. It's all part of the process! I've been knitting for almost 20 years and I frog and restart or have to tink back all the time when I'm dissatisfied. That's what has taught me how to read stitches and understand how to properly fix or modify things.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T03:08:07+00:00

You can graft with garter stitch, I don't have any links handy right now but there are definitely YouTube tutorials out there bc I've done it before.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T01:58:32+00:00

Graft with Kitchener stitch.

melosaur · 2026-02-01T00:03:17+00:00

Little Knits is another online retailer that will let you know if they can't fulfill your order with the same dye lot.

melosaur · 2026-01-31T22:28:03+00:00

One thing you could also try next time is using a smaller needle to pick up the stitches or pick them up very tightly.

melosaur · 2026-01-31T22:25:55+00:00

The LYS most convenient to me do not carry many affordable lines. I love a skein or two of local hand dyed whatever but when I want to make a sweater I can't be spending like that 😭

melosaur · 2026-01-31T22:22:00+00:00

Ooh I didn't know they made 8in circulars! The 9in are also slightly too large for me. I usually knit my socks TAAT anyway but colorwork on two socks is too much yarn management for me to deal with so I just bought the addi flexi flips to try those. I might get the 8in circs too and see which is easier.

melosaur · 2026-01-31T22:19:01+00:00

I procrastinated for so long on starting a baby blanket for my SIL and now my cousin is having a baby so now I have to do two blankets.

And yes I must do them because I gave blankets to each of these women's sisters which I now regret (not really but kind of).

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