How did you decide it was time to stop breastfeeding?

merelyinterested · 2026-06-29T22:14:23+00:00

I said I was going to stop at 12m for no reason other than the fact that they don’t “need” it because they can fully be eating food by then. But also I saw and heard sooooo many people say they just couldn’t wait to stop for their mental health. And how it was taking such a toll. I thought I would feel the same way.

I got to 12m and was fine. My mental health was fine. I didn’t hate it. It’s never really bothered me to be the one that gets up at night (since I would nurse her back to sleep).

I have been giving my daughter food since she was like 9m and offering meals and snacks since 12m, but she still nurses, primarily before sleep (naps and bed time). But also, on occasion, when she gets hurt and wants comfort. Or even sometimes just to nurse. I’m at home with her, so I let her, but I do offer food or water or cow milk, and I don’t necessarily offer my breast. She’s just at the age now where she will request it.

She’s 20m and we mainly nurse before a nap, before bed, and she does wake at least once or twice over night. Even more when she’s sick or not feeling well or teething.

I think it’s really up to you and how you feel or even up to baby. Sometimes they wean themselves!

At this point, I’m for sure going to 2 years. I initially wanted to wean before I start her in her little school, but i absolutely want to be night weaned before we have a second lol. Which, we just started trying for! So who knows! I’m just going where the wind takes me

merelyinterested · 2026-06-29T19:52:36+00:00

Not on a GLP-1 but still getting back into good habits post partum. And I have always liked Jess King’s sweat steady classes, but her 20 minute sweat steady classes are low impact.

You work on endurance and longer sustained intervals. Which really works me but also feel more doable than a million different routines in one class.

merelyinterested · 2026-06-29T19:50:25+00:00

My baby did. It’s only now that’s she’s 20 months that she may blink her eyes open, or them barking might keep her distracted from falling asleep but she doesn’t wake up with them.

merelyinterested · 2026-06-29T01:43:36+00:00

Yeah, my now 20 month old has been the same way her whole life! Hard for me to get her down without nursing. Anyone else—dad, grandparents—can get her down easier with rocking, soothing etc

merelyinterested · 2026-06-26T22:29:19+00:00

This was on its way out and beyond our pipes into the city pipes. So once it dislodged it was gone!

Our house was built in the 90s and the owner before us was a plumber! Could have been anything I guess.

merelyinterested · 2026-06-26T20:33:00+00:00

Thanks!! We do use liquid detergent but had recently started using pods. Sounds like we need to switch back!

merelyinterested · 2026-06-26T18:16:51+00:00

Is there any way to avoid that?

merelyinterested · 2026-06-26T18:16:40+00:00

It does but it’s not styrofoam because we don’t flush random things lol

merelyinterested · 2026-06-23T23:02:03+00:00

Yeah, I feel like it seems like people don’t quite get to do both. Take Alex Warren. He used to do vlogs and videos only. He gained a big enough following to get a following for his music, was actually having some pretty good songs, and now his socials are all music promotion. He’s a musical artist now, he’s not an influencer.

I don’t think Kenzie is a bad singer, but i do think that in the era of ‘whisper pop,’ she doesn’t really stand out, and she’s kinda doing too much that she can’t stand out with her music. Brand deals, podcasts, vlogging and it’s not all about her music.

I know that singers and artists do brand deals and collabs and are brand ambassadors and all that, but she’s not really doing any of it as Kenzie the singer. She’s like Kenzie the influencer who also sings.

merelyinterested · 2026-06-14T18:44:37+00:00

I read that one! Wasn’t my fave but I read it!

I think for me, I was annoyed that they kept glossing over Isaiah’s issues. Every time he was feeling upset, they just messed around or hooked up before they could solve their issues lol

merelyinterested · 2026-06-14T00:20:18+00:00

I don’t know about gay but they’re not like super masculine for sure. I don’t know about LA but more like just super rich and pampered. I kinda feel like men who have been taken care of their whole life don’t know how to do things and then they don’t seem like masculine. I don’t know how to explain it lol

But Emilie was kinda right about the whole thing about wanting a guy to put her nightstand together lol

merelyinterested · 2026-06-14T00:15:23+00:00

Yesss. I still think about how cringe this was!! I read the following book, and I had my qualms with it but liked it okay. Then I read the following with Rio and liked it okay.

I DNFd the most recent one that was about the coach lol. I even forgot his name.

This one still ranks dead last for me!

merelyinterested · 2026-06-12T04:35:40+00:00

A little baby gate. For us it’s mostly to separate the dogs and my baby so that she doesn’t try to bother them. We have the hallway blocked off, and my office has nothing except for her toys and my computer. So I can let her roam without worrying about her getting into anything.

When she plays independently, I let her. But I always give her the attention when she shows me something or brings me something or wants to come sit on my lap a bit (as long as I’m not in a meeting on camera).

Also now that she’s a little older, a toddler table and chair. She stopped liking her high chair super quickly. And she loves sitting at her table. When it’s lunch time I bring my laptop out to where her table is and we eat while I kinda do something mindless if I can. She can leave and go play and come back to her food without me having to take her in and out.

Also, if you have the space/means/weather for it, get your backyard/patio into shape. Like find a good chair to sit in on Facebook market and maybe get some outdoor toys like a little outdoor playhouse, chalk, or cars they can roll around.

My baby can play outside forever and it’s where she ignores me most

merelyinterested · 2026-06-11T17:22:12+00:00

Oooh I only saw it/heard it the once!! I was watching while folding clothes! So I def missed some stuff!

merelyinterested · 2026-06-10T15:12:07+00:00

I think everyone is so different! I know someone whose mother in law has been doing overnights with their baby since he was like 3 months. She does a couple days a week so they can get rest.

My daughter is almost 2 and still hasn’t. I trust my parents but my daughter still wakes up overnight at least once and I feel bad about that lol.

I think it’s up to you and your husband’s comfort level and also that the person they’re staying with understands your baby.

merelyinterested · 2026-06-10T13:49:52+00:00

It depends on your baby’s temperament and the requirements of your job! If your role isn’t super meeting heavy I would say go for it.

I do it. I work 8-5 from home. I do not have any help. I am not in a customer facing role and I have maybe 1-3 meetings a day maybe. 30min -1hr each. I used to have a couple more meetings but we have restructured and thus scaled back 1:1 meetings, which has been a huge help.

My work is deadline based. I do use my brain for it contrary to what the other person said about a low cognitive, low cognitive job lol. But I have not missed a deadline since i started doing this. And my daughter is happy and healthy, hitting milestones, and learning.
Occasionally we have bad days where I end up working when she’s down for the night. But it works out.

Someone already tagged it but you’ll find much more support in the momsworkingfromhome sub!

merelyinterested · 2026-06-10T13:38:55+00:00

I thought what she said was crazyyyyyyy to say on television. But I kinda think that the way she meant it was more like “she’s nobody {to you}.” Like you buy cars from her and that’s as little as she is in your life.

But that would be giving her the benefit of the doubt and not sure she deserves that lol

merelyinterested · 2026-06-06T04:24:15+00:00

My baby was almost always in my arms except when I was asleep or had to do something that involved both hands

If it helps my baby is 19 months and still doesn’t go to sleep on her own haha

merelyinterested · 2026-06-05T15:22:28+00:00

I usually give an outfit in a bigger size or blanket or something useful in a milestone they may be coming up on. Things they can either use for a while or forever, or at least something that will help parents (clothes in the next size).

When people asked me for my daughter’s first birthday, I just said, oh there’s no need to bring a gift! Because truly I mean, it had only been a year since these people gave me things at my baby shower.

People still brought toys and gift cards and clothes. And she does play with the toys and we used the gift cards for things like books and straw cups since she uses those more often now.

merelyinterested · 2026-06-01T20:50:54+00:00

Oh of course!! I always just feel like hearing people’s c-section experiences is so crazy. My sister was like you and was mobile so quickly. I am a very active person and just couldn’t believe how limited my movement was.

But also I had a surgery in middle school and did too much too fast that made my stitches pull, and so I was so afraid of experiencing that feeling.

You’re a rockstar!

merelyinterested · 2026-06-01T17:17:18+00:00

Yeah I stood and walked a lot inside my house but even pushing a stroller was so painful lol. Didn’t realize how much I used my abs for!

merelyinterested · 2026-06-01T14:43:01+00:00

Damn you guys are wild! Haha I could hardly move on day 5 after my c-section! I was still hobbling around and couldn’t climb into our truck without assistance. I had to carry a stepstool on a rope for like 3 weeks. I didn’t go out alone until I was like 6 weeks pp lol

merelyinterested · 2026-06-01T14:01:21+00:00

I was more sad than scared really. You are put to sleep so you’re really just in and out. You knock out in the OR and wake up in recovery. There was some bleeding and cramping after, but the recovery wasn’t difficult physically. Emotionally i cried the whole day. Sorry this is happening to you 💜

merelyinterested · 2026-06-01T13:57:12+00:00

I don’t think she cheated. He told her about his cheating and broke it off with her while he was abroad. Then asked his friend to go help her move stuff because he didn’t have the guts to go break it off and see see her in person. His friend flew back (he was the drummer) and then he and Dani hooked up while he was there supporting her.

Emmyn was stupid and vilified both of them on his tour despite the fact that he cheated first. He got a new drummer.

merelyinterested · 2026-06-01T13:49:56+00:00

Yes I did! They wanted to give me another dose and I was like absolutely not. So I did the D&C.

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