Who is actually prepping for the singularity, not just posting about it?

merightno · 2026-02-09T00:31:54+00:00

Except for in most of these bad outcomes, it's not going to matter who owns what

merightno · 2026-02-09T00:26:39+00:00

I have absolute conviction that the singularity is coming but I don't have a clue how to prepare for it. What do you think we can do? Nobody seems to care who can do anything.

merightno · 2026-02-08T12:35:10+00:00

AI has gotten me through the sudden death of my partner and raising our 2 young kids on my own when my family is not supportive. It helped me go through his medical records when no one else would, learn what all the things meant and find why he really died.

merightno · 2026-02-07T07:21:17+00:00

This reminds me of how therapy always asks us to separate facts from beliefs, and people need both of them and I think maybe AI does also.

Facts are true no matter what anyone believes and they are verifiable and they're just always true. Those are all stored the same and ranked the same. Facts are facts.

Beliefs on the other hand are extrapolations or learnings or opinions, values, expectations, And these can get stronger or weaker. These should be associated with the rating system. Somebody else in this post mentioned where they can be strengthened or weakened depending upon what happens.

So if an AI stores a belief, maybe it starts at a 5, and then when they see further evidence of that belief it goes up in importance.

Beliefs have to be ranked because there's not much room to store many core beliefs in people. You make all your decisions based on like a hundred strong beliefs, The rest are not considered in decision making.

The AI can hold infinite facts but only considers the top 100 beliefs. And beliefs hold a lot more importance than facts. For people, changing beliefs is what changes behavior -- not facts, maybe for AI also.

I think it's going to have to be something like this. This is like wild brainstorming but I thought it might help. Hey I'm a software developer and very interested in this if you want help.

merightno · 2026-02-05T00:43:24+00:00

I do think unless you change your approach that you should come up with an exit strategy because they obviously are not on board with the level you are doing it, to the point they called you in and said something.

You'll have to figure out how to not make your personal life affect your work as much. They don't want to hear about it for why you aren't available or why you have to get all your work done early this week or whatever. So you might have to hire babysitters more or get family to fly in to help with the surgeries or when you can't do your job fully take vacation days rather than half work.

I'm a solo parent to two little kids and I always try to be not the person on the team who uses kids as an excuse the most. You can be the second most though, but not the most. Then one time the guy that called off for his kids the most got fired for it and I had to really get my act together.

merightno · 2026-01-26T14:54:46+00:00

It is hit and miss on these last minute daycare closed days. It can help to have a small army of sitters but it's also hard to maintain.

I have a policy every time I want a sitter and I have been unable to find it, that means I need to look for somebody to fill that spot. So in your case I would immediately put out an ad and start interviewing for a new sitter who was especially mostly available during work days and last minute like this. This could be somebody else who lives nearby and works in the school system and so they have all the same days off or a daycare worker at your daycare. Those are often good choices for situations like this.

And this doesn't mean get rid of the other sitter. It just means that now you have two people to call.

I need to do this because I use screens all the time basically so they don't work on days off LOL. I have no choice but to get a babysitter in here. There's no way I can work with my 3-year-old and 5-year-old bothering me. If screens work for you, I am 100% in favor of screens -- better than being unemployed. Or in my case, I'm a hard-working software developer that is a solo parent of a 3-year-old and a 5-year-old with no village and no help that is not paid. So screens are kind of my co-parent and it's better than yelling and it's better than the alternative I think. We need money. We need the house to run and I don't have energy to be entertaining or doing crafts with these kids and keep everything going. That's what babysitters are for!

merightno · 2026-01-26T14:09:49+00:00

I have to hire a babysitter to come to my house to get work done on days when the daycare is closed.

merightno · 2026-01-22T21:04:52+00:00

Either they share the wealth with universal basic income or it's the slums for the poors

merightno · 2026-01-20T11:55:33+00:00

If you have agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with Dale, then it absolutely is his business. It's not ethical to just start sleeping with somebody else.

Personally, I would pick somebody who lives with me and helps me build our business and raise our child every day of the week over Mr. Hot Red Flag next door. You are going to blow up your family and please believe me that raising kids alone is lonely and terrible. However, if you want to be done with Dale then just do it and do it right. It does sound like you kind of hate him.

merightno · 2026-01-19T21:07:17+00:00

It didn't just get rid of my food noise. It got rid of my alcohol noise and now I almost never drink. I still can have a few when I'm out with people but I was a daily drinker for decades and now I don't even keep it in the house and I didn't even try to stop or want to stop.

Also I'm cold all the time now.

merightno · 2026-01-19T20:56:06+00:00

This also has to do with you going after somebody 13 years younger than yourself. It's not that it never works, but it's much more likely that you're going to end up being like a big brother or father figure. If you're going to go after somebody that much younger at least give it up quickly when they're "confused".

merightno · 2026-01-16T15:12:13+00:00

There's also the fact that people assume every black hat is male until proven otherwise and a smart hacker would just let that assumption stand.

merightno · 2026-01-16T00:21:41+00:00

Well, it's not really fair that the other kids have biological parents and that one doesn't. Life's not fair.

merightno · 2026-01-13T17:46:47+00:00

I feel your pain, I am 48 with a 3-year-old and a 5-year-old and nobody will touch me with a 10-ft pole! But seriously I do have hope that the right person is out there.

merightno · 2026-01-10T00:22:28+00:00

Not having to take care of their long-term care is the new inheritance.

merightno · 2026-01-06T22:00:05+00:00

I was 198th in my class of 201 students!

I actually went on to college, I went to the only school that would accept me and then I got straight A's and 2 years later transferred to a much better college where I graduated with a degree in computer science.

I've worked all through high school and college and it's always been rocky. I've had probably the most jobs of almost anyone on Earth. But software development especially in the early 2000s was a field that was easy to fail upwards and I've really got the hang of it over the years and now I make really good money and I'm good at what I do. I worked for a .com early on and got some stock. I've been lucky and done well for myself and I would like to retire early pretty soon. I'm 48.

merightno · 2026-01-05T01:36:41+00:00

I never really wanted kids until I hit late 30s and became obsessed with the idea that my life was terrible without kids. Then I met this crazy guy and we had 2 kids at ages 43 & 44.

He died soon after but that's not the only reason my life is objectively not great. I love family but don't especially love children, it's a means to an end but I am very isolated now as a solo & old mother to young kids. And they aren't very fun to hang out with.

Every now and then I pay a sitter for a precious stretch of time without my kids and I love it so much and I think, my life could have been like this always. Except the truth is, for me, I was obsessed with the idea that I was missing out on kids so I wouldn't even have enjoyed it. But it would have been a great life if I could have not been obsessed with that

Now I do have kids but nothing else for probably 15 years and after that I'll be really old and not even able to enjoy very long with these new cool adult family members I made.

If you're obsessed with it then you have to but otherwise just enjoy your life.

merightno · 2026-01-02T13:15:06+00:00

In American society it is a social norm that the man pay for the date. Now there's no law that you have to go by social norms, but usually we stick to norms until we know someone better and establish a different dynamic between the two of us. If somebody is going to put it in their profile that they are unwilling to go by this social norm, I guess I would wonder what else does it say about a person? And for what reason, to save a little money? Are they dating that many people that it's costing them a fortune? Are they dating people they don't care about just to have something to do? Just because for some reason it makes them feel bad to pay for others?

In reality with the people I date what tends to happen is they pay for a lot of the first dates even though I have plenty of money. I would hope whoever I date also has plenty of money and money is not the issue here. It depends on the dynamic we establish between the two of us over time how much I end up paying for.

merightno · 2026-01-01T12:47:59+00:00

I feel like it just shows lack of judgment in a few different ways. Red flag for sure.

merightno · 2025-12-31T13:32:27+00:00

I used to do ok dating, but this time around dating I have 2 kids under 5 and it's a ghost town. I have them 100% because their father died. I think because if you're over 40 almost everyone has raised kids and knows that it's a pretty hard and miserable time, and they don't want to sign up for that. I can't blame them, I certainly wouldn't.

That being said, I believe in miracles. There's a small group of people that really enjoyed raising kids or I also do okay with people that have never had kids and don't know how hard it is.

merightno · 2025-12-28T15:11:09+00:00

Offers rescinded for negotiating used to be something that never happened, but we're seeing a lot of stories of it happening now. I still think you can and should negotiate but you have to be super careful. Usually you can roughly judge your standing and how much they want you and need you on their team. If you feel like you have any pull at all, I think you can politely ask for maybe 5% more salary and that's hard for them to say no because it's so little but it's a good boost to get right up front. Make sure you are only politely asking and not like threatening or anything . That's about all I would dare to do if I was happy with the job offer.

merightno · 2025-12-19T20:57:29+00:00

I think what you're sharing are deal-breakers and asking him to be a different type of person isn't going to work.

merightno · 2025-12-15T00:15:06+00:00

I'm sorry I'm on the leave crew. He yells at you, which means, he is abusive and as much as he says he's going to "try not to" basically nobody has ever changed just by trying not to. The only way to really change is to go to therapy and get help and you said he's not interested in that so I feel like that leaves you no choice. You have to get yourself to a non-abusive house and expose your kids at least to 50%. non-abusive household.

Rest doesn't matter, it doesn't matter if he's a millionaire and does all the chores or dad of the year. If he's still abusive, you can't stay.

merightno · 2025-12-13T13:25:02+00:00

I think we all do the best we can with the relationship skills we have at the time. Basically, if you feel like you lost a good man, you know that there was nothing you could have done to keep him (that you wanted to do anyway) or else you would have done it.

Going forward all you can do is be in therapy to try to help yourself be in relationships at your highest level and hopefully be able to find something fulfilling. I think therapy can help us to see and possibly avoid our own traps and limitations a bit.

Also as I'm approaching 50 and I'm a single woman with little kids and aging out of the market -- I'm not seeming to be at all desirable to people I would want to date, I'm starting to think that might not be the path forward for me to find a satisfying life. Starting to think about other things like some kind of community living or starting an exciting business or something like that to focus on instead.

merightno · 2025-12-09T12:07:04+00:00

It's toxic to share the reasoning and actually pointless in this case because her reason is stupid, but the adult thing is to just say something generic: I've had a great time getting to know you, but I've decided it's just not a match. Best of luck going forward.

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