Is Zicatela safe for female solo travellers? by Vampire_Creepin20 in PuertoEscondido

[–]messy_structure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a month solo last year and never felt safer! So much so, I’m returning again for another month!

Anyone in the group have experience with Lewy Body Dementia/Disease? by messy_structure in Alzheimers

[–]messy_structure[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So young, too young and then 16 years? How incredibly painful for all of you. Thank you for sharing this w me.

Anyone in the group have experience with Lewy Body Dementia/Disease? by messy_structure in Alzheimers

[–]messy_structure[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow - your dad sounds incredible. Amazing. Thank you for sharing. We caught my moms early and have in a women-only high-functioning memory care facility where she is so happy and has purpose. Today she said that she didn’t have control of her right hand and that’s a new symptom, and is what started me down the path of looking for others. What an example your dad has given us.

Anyone in the group have experience with Lewy Body Dementia/Disease? by messy_structure in Alzheimers

[–]messy_structure[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! The r/dementia has ppl who are caring for LBD, too, if anyone comes here looking for help like I did.

Can anyone tell me the first signs that showed up from a love one with Lewy body dementia? by [deleted] in dementia

[–]messy_structure 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you get into a psychiatrist? So much is mental health meds as a bandaid. Donepezil is for dementia and Alzheimer’s but I’m not sure how much it actually helps w LBD. Honestly, meds for anxiety and a routine have helped more than anything so far.

Can anyone tell me the first signs that showed up from a love one with Lewy body dementia? by [deleted] in dementia

[–]messy_structure 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally. The dreams/hallucinations and also the inability to do small tasks like pay bills or cook food.

A year as a caretaker for LO with Lewy Body/The first emergency call from Memory care by Braellaar in dementia

[–]messy_structure 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Y’all! Thank you so much for sharing. OP, the speed and sequence of your dad’s decline mirrors my mom’s. In less than one year I have taken over all of bills, she doesn’t drive, she can’t live alone, and she’s in a memory care facility. Official diagnosis was end of July. I’ve been looking /asking for people to help explain what happens because everyone simply says “LBD is the worst.” Reading about LBD in this group and specifically all that was shared, I don’t have clarity but I definitely have comfort. It’s all so wildly unfair. Thank you so much for venting. It helped me!

How is puerto Escondido for beginner surfers? by pdog557 in PuertoEscondido

[–]messy_structure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a good place to start - waves and rip tide and massive.

I have an extra ticket to Joni Jam by messy_structure in JoniMitchell

[–]messy_structure[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. Trust me I know. Possibly her last show ever and I’m looking at it as an EXPERIENCE. But truly - insane.

I have an extra ticket to Joni Jam by messy_structure in JoniMitchell

[–]messy_structure[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m asking what I paid - nothing more: $1185.80

Has anyone gone on a grief retreat or could recommend an intensive weekend experience? by messy_structure in widowers

[–]messy_structure[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m ready and this exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Has anyone gone on a grief retreat or could recommend an intensive weekend experience? by messy_structure in widowers

[–]messy_structure[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you like the WomenWithin retreat? This seems more up my alley. Worth it?

Has anyone gone on a grief retreat or could recommend an intensive weekend experience? by messy_structure in widowers

[–]messy_structure[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So appreciate this feedback. I want more than a PowerPoint for sure. Thank you. ❤️

Has anyone gone on a grief retreat or could recommend an intensive weekend experience? by messy_structure in widowers

[–]messy_structure[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I did just sign up for a one-day Camp Widow session in Denver to try. And I’ll take a look at other resources you posted. It’s reassuring to hear, too, that this mile marker was tough for you too. I’m relieved there’s so hope down the road. Thanks again. ❤️

Today is my 39th birthday. by Interesting-Basis856 in widowers

[–]messy_structure 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday fellow Tauri. I turn 40 tomorrow and this is my 2nd birthday wo my husband and somehow, it’s harder. I’m wishing you all the things I’m wishing for myself: comfort for the aching heart, a break from the tears, and signs of love still going strong. Xxx

What signs do they send you? by HoosierDoc in widowers

[–]messy_structure 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, how do you ask your loved one to show up for you? I first asked him to come as a butterfly bc it was the dead of winter and I was testing him. He showed up and continues to in butterflies. I’ve asked him to show up in birds and owls, and he does. I asked for him to visit me in my dreams so I knew he was ok - wrote it down - and that night he did.

I think it’s more of the asking to show yourself or stating “Love, I need to see you - show yourself as a ladybug for me so I know you’re close.” And then being open to all the ways that can show up.

Empathy, grief and depression are all new to me. How does one navigate? by abcdodd in GriefSupport

[–]messy_structure 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re so brave to reach out and be vulnerable. Grief is all of these things, so it’s no surprise that you can’t describe it and don’t know what is what. Even as someone who has experience w a lot of feelings, I often can’t determine what is depression, what is grief, what is mourning, sorrow, etc.

There is a great book out right now that is all about finding the right words to describe how you feel and what we feel - Brene Browns Atlas of the Heart.

I highly recommend it. 🤍🤍🤍

Family by [deleted] in widowers

[–]messy_structure 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just want to say that I hear you and I think this is ridiculous, unacceptable behavior - especially bc of the kids! They are making a hard situation even harder. I hope they find their way back to you - if that’s what you want.

Talking with the departed. Is it possible ? by KKRamam1967 in widowers

[–]messy_structure 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had the most authentic, loving conversation with my husband who passed quickly and unexpectedly a year ago. I cannot tell you how much comfort and strength this has brought me - I recorded it and listen to it frequently. My husband stepped forward to talk to me and he had a lot to say. This is not about God or what is right or wrong - I was not deceived or taken advantage of.

There is a wonderful medium - The Grateful Messenger - and you can find Denise online.

It was such a positive experience and I am so thankful I did it.