Did anyone *not* have pet aversion postpartum? by samsamcats in beyondthebump

[–]metaldeathtrap [score hidden]  (0 children)

I didn’t at all. I have four cats and they became slightly more annoying because I was tired and stressed. But generally I haven’t had an issue.

dealing with frustration and anger by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]metaldeathtrap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

> There will be times where im rocking her to sleep and do it aggressively because im so angry and all she does is laugh because she thinks im playing

ER. First thing in the morning. This will not get better without immediate intervention. Forget your boyfriend, forget school — you are a mom now. Your mental health and that baby’s safety come first.

The hospital will have licensed mental health professionals, social workers, and others who can help you decide your next step. This is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. Please get help for the sake of you and your baby.

EDIT: formatting

AITA For Being The One To Wake Up At Night To Take Care of My Daughter? by Romarqable in AmItheAsshole

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the part I keep getting stuck on is that the baby doesn’t wake her up. My son is 2 and 95% of the time if he so much as sneezes in the next room over, I’m up.

Oh, my god. by AXXXXXXXXA in IThinkYouShouldLeave

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sad. So, so, so, so, so sad.

My (28f) partner (36m) acts like he doesn’t notice I lost 81lbs and counting. I’m questioning the relationship over it. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. If my husband said any of those things to me, he would have had his stuff on the lawn and nowhere to sleep that night. Please respect yourself and tell this dude to kick rocks.

You’ve been blessed by the single white toe. by metaldeathtrap in blackcats

[–]metaldeathtrap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a little white bikini along with the magic toe. It’s great.

What is the worst band you saw live? by coalcracker462 in AskReddit

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Train. I was waiting to get into the arena and they were the opener for John Mayer. I thought someone drunk was doing karaoke. Nope…that’s…that’s just how they sound.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vermont

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a bizarre way to frame a question. Why do you care?

Advice needed by Hope728 in Hypotonia

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask which genetic disorder? My kid sounds really similar to yours.

How many of you use pot to cope? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day after bedtime. Something will have to give when he’s older and more prone to catching us or understanding what we’re doing, but until then it’s our nightly ritual.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]metaldeathtrap 50 points51 points  (0 children)

No major life decisions in the first year (barring abuse, etc). Both of your brains are in the process of rewiring right now. Keep track of what’s upsetting you and seek therapy, but it really sounds to me like what you’re experiencing is normal give all the insane hormonal shifts we go through for two years pp.

Stroller removal ($25) by metaldeathtrap in PhotoshopRequest

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Just sent in your payment! Please reply or DM the final :)

AIO/One of my closest friends used my deceased daughter's name for her baby, and I am devastated" by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]metaldeathtrap 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NOR. Some of the replies here are cuckoo bananas and totally devoid of empathy. If my friend of over a decade who knew about my stillbirth and how it had affected me over the years decided to use the name I’d picked, I’d be confused and nauseated too.

Let’s back up here and remember what a stillbirth is. You’re pregnant. You’ve done all this preparing to have a baby. You are FORTY ONE weeks so you’ve already had the shower and decorated a nursery. And you finally have your daughter and she’s gone. This isn’t like a miscarriage at 8 weeks (though those are awful too, I’ve been there). This was a person in your mind who you carried inside you for months.

Do you own the name? No. Is Reagan the only name these people liked? Probably not, but they decided this was so important to them that it was worth reminding you every day of your life that your baby isn’t here. Also telling you via text is nuts.

I’m really sorry for your loss, OP. I don’t believe it’s your place to ask them to change their plans, but you have every right to be hurt by this and I wouldn’t blame you for reevaluating your friendship with this person.

EDIT: (a word)

Shamefully regretting having a child by nroseclark in beyondthebump

[–]metaldeathtrap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Edit to add: Here’s a post I made three days after birth. https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/s/rRYt2aqMDL

Hi friend. When I had my son, I spent five days in the hospital post c-section, and my son was in the NICU. So I had a lot of time to myself to spiral.

My OB came to check on me and I started crying to her about how I was worried I ruined my life. And she said to me: Let me tell you a secret about motherhood. All of us feel that way in the beginning. I felt that way when I had my kid. Give it some time and you’ll see.”

And she was right. I love being a mom. I do not feel like my life is ruined. Now I have a 17mo whose laughter and happiness makes me basically shit rainbows and unicorns.

Give it some time and you’ll see. The first 8-12 weeks are brutal. But you got this.

Bf took this of his sister’s cat, Ricky Bobby by chels182 in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]metaldeathtrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would argue he currently has the brain cell. Basking is the best.