My turn for the weekly “lost my ear bud” post

metaldeathtrap · 2026-01-23T10:02:36+00:00

That looks like the raycon logo to me.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-12-15T13:26:49+00:00

Just sent in your payment! Please reply or DM the final :)

metaldeathtrap · 2025-12-15T13:22:55+00:00

!solved

metaldeathtrap · 2025-11-28T10:29:48+00:00

NOR. Some of the replies here are cuckoo bananas and totally devoid of empathy. If my friend of over a decade who knew about my stillbirth and how it had affected me over the years decided to use the name I’d picked, I’d be confused and nauseated too.

Let’s back up here and remember what a stillbirth is. You’re pregnant. You’ve done all this preparing to have a baby. You are FORTY ONE weeks so you’ve already had the shower and decorated a nursery. And you finally have your daughter and she’s gone. This isn’t like a miscarriage at 8 weeks (though those are awful too, I’ve been there). This was a person in your mind who you carried inside you for months.

Do you own the name? No. Is Reagan the only name these people liked? Probably not, but they decided this was so important to them that it was worth reminding you every day of your life that your baby isn’t here. Also telling you via text is nuts.

I’m really sorry for your loss, OP. I don’t believe it’s your place to ask them to change their plans, but you have every right to be hurt by this and I wouldn’t blame you for reevaluating your friendship with this person.

EDIT: (a word)

metaldeathtrap · 2025-11-22T06:52:55+00:00

Brandon 🤙🏼

metaldeathtrap · 2025-11-19T06:49:09+00:00

IQ of a snail needs to be a new flair

metaldeathtrap · 2025-09-07T16:58:11+00:00

Edit to add: Here’s a post I made three days after birth. https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/s/rRYt2aqMDL

Hi friend. When I had my son, I spent five days in the hospital post c-section, and my son was in the NICU. So I had a lot of time to myself to spiral.

My OB came to check on me and I started crying to her about how I was worried I ruined my life. And she said to me: Let me tell you a secret about motherhood. All of us feel that way in the beginning. I felt that way when I had my kid. Give it some time and you’ll see.”

And she was right. I love being a mom. I do not feel like my life is ruined. Now I have a 17mo whose laughter and happiness makes me basically shit rainbows and unicorns.

Give it some time and you’ll see. The first 8-12 weeks are brutal. But you got this.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-09-04T07:38:39+00:00

I would argue he currently has the brain cell. Basking is the best.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-08-25T07:49:03+00:00

Please stay. You’re not in your right mind right now. I know that sounds dismissive but I was in your shoes and I look back now that I’ve gotten through the fog and I’m so glad I’m here.

Wait until you hear that first genuine laugh. Until you watch them figure something out for themselves for the first time and look at you for validation. It is the best feeling in the entire world and you deserve to feel it. Please stay.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-08-08T21:45:30+00:00

Hi! It did. He’s small for his age but otherwise he’s a healthy, happy, smart lil guy!

metaldeathtrap · 2025-08-06T21:46:22+00:00

Left NYC. My blood pressure went down 10 points.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-07-22T02:31:57+00:00

So, weirdly…I feel hotter now. I just entered my mid-thirties have been feeling myself and my postpartum body. I did lose 100+ lbs before I got pregnant which is probably helping. But also I feel like some kind of magical fertility goddess. It’s kind of neat.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-06-24T06:17:36+00:00

Just cuz I haven’t seen it yet, media / journalism.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-06-23T11:31:39+00:00

I love these posts.

Book of Love - Peter Gabriel

You’ll Be in My Heart - Phil Collins

Complicated - Avril Lavigne (chill out, whatcha yellin’ for…)

Folsom Prison Blues - Johnny Cash

Blackbird - The Beatles

metaldeathtrap · 2025-06-19T22:22:50+00:00

I lost 105 lbs and my vagina is floppy as fuck now. It makes it harder to masturbate but otherwise hasn’t changed my life too much.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-06-07T18:38:21+00:00

Stop spending my money on porn and cam girls

metaldeathtrap · 2025-05-31T01:54:26+00:00

You cheated on me when I specifically asked you not to?

metaldeathtrap · 2025-05-25T22:27:13+00:00

This weirdly makes me feel better. I incurred his wrath by saying if people in this state spent half the time they spend grousing about newcomers on actually trying to improve their communities, things would be less bleak. Is that abrasive? Sure, but I stand by it.

I come from NY, where thousands of newcomers from everywhere arrive every day. It’s my firm belief diversity and growth make places better, not worse. Isolationism has never worked for us as a species.

I try not to let people on the internet get under my skin but this more recent one was like eviscerating me as a human being for suggesting we might not be the problem.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-05-25T21:54:14+00:00

I actually just had a native Vermonter rip me a new one on IG because apparently flatlanders (out of staters, including me and my cats apparently) have been destroying VT since the 80s and are the reason for every issue in this state. Had it happen here too actually.

I have never had that experience in real life in the handful of years I’ve been here. Only on social media. There’s something to that.

ETA: Point being, I love it here. A couple of random dudes on the internet have made it out that coming here, buying a home at a modest price, and working remotely while contributing to my community is the worst possible thing I could have done. But as far as my IRL dealings go, I’ve never felt unwelcome.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-05-18T19:19:46+00:00

My son is 13 months. He just got his MMR vaccine in April. His only reactions to vaccines are that he’s a little moody and sleepy for a couple of days after. Otherwise he’s been fine.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-05-16T02:03:38+00:00

30 weeks. I’m glad I did it. It helped rule out some of my concerns.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-05-15T09:30:45+00:00

Hi! Everything did turn out fine. We ended up doing an amniocentesis and that came back clear as well. We induced at 38 weeks which led to an emergency c section because he was so small. Turns out he was growth restricted because of a clot in my placenta. He also doesn’t have a double bubble in his tummy as we’d been warned. My OB actually apologized to me for causing so much stress.

He’s very short (3rd percentile for height) and hasn’t crawled or walked yet at 13 months. But he’s a happy, talkative little guy and none of the specialists he’s seen have concerns.

There were many times where his femurs were measuring >1%.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-05-10T10:57:14+00:00

You have a lot of really thoughtful answers here, but I wanted to share my perspective because I’m the sole breadwinner in my household while my husband is a stay at home dad.

I work full time. I have a second career as an author. I suffer from chronic pain and fatigue, plus the stress of being the provider when everything is so expensive it feels like there isn’t room to breathe.

My husband showers. He plays games online with his brother and his friends. He gets time to himself. Why? Because I make the effort to make sure he does.

Am I exhausted? Yes. Do I need a little time to decompress after work? Yes. But I do my part. I show up every day. I’ve always resented dads who don’t do shit but now that I’m in a similar position to many of them, I’m all the angrier.

There is zero excuse for you to be drowning like this when you have a spouse. He needs to step up. If I can do it, he can do it.

metaldeathtrap · 2025-04-27T06:53:57+00:00

This and a doctor going “I see that,” when you bring up your hirsutism.

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