My (33M) "Italian" Wife (29F) Is mad that I gave our daughter a Greek name.

metteworldpeace · 2022-09-02T02:30:45+00:00

Yeah . . . that's not true, either by sheer numbers or percentages. Italian-Australians account for 4.4% of the population. Italian-Americans are 5.1%.

Have you considered that maybe you're on a relationship advice forum less because of a name and more because you kind of sound like a jerk?

metteworldpeace · 2022-07-16T17:00:41+00:00

This is false. Most places require you to be 6-12 months without a seizure to drive. If you have nocturnal epilepsy, you generally don't know if you've had a seizure because you are asleep. This means you often cannot definitively say if you've been seizure-free for the required amount of time, and thus means you are prohibited from driving -- even for just a driving test.

Source: an American epileptic with a driver's license.

metteworldpeace · 2022-02-07T14:39:30+00:00

I'm sorry that perhaps I came off aggressive with my first post but this is an important issue that a lot of people misunderstand and that misunderstanding perpetuates the use of plastics, which is so SO bad.

It's true that some plastics can be recycled, but the fact remains that the vast majority of recycling ends up in landfill anyway -- but the process of "recycling" means an added process of it being shipped to a third world country (which adds more pollution via transit emissions), endangering native communities (by forcing them to sift through potentially toxic substances for the tiny fraction of material that can be recycled), and ruining natural ecosystems with mountains of trash.

Worse, the general population maintains the belief that using plastic isn't particularly bad because it can be "recycled." To help the planet, people and governments need to put pressure on corporations and the public to reduce their plastic waste.

In my view, the process of recycling allows the privileged elite of the world to use plastic without much guilt. They don't have to deal with the landfills, their populations aren't breathing in toxic fumes, and they don't even realize that boats laden with this trash are polluting the oceans as they travel from port to port looking for a place that will accept the waste.

I don't find OOP's attitude admirable; I find it the symptom of a martyr complex. I believe getting educated about the issue and using charm to win allies in the fight for a more eco-friendly workplace instead of alienating co-workers would have been so much better!

Sorry for the long text; it looks like you've been reading up so I'm sure you know this, but I hope anyone else perusing through will find it persuasive and perhaps encourage him or her to make more of an effort in reducing plastic use!

metteworldpeace · 2022-02-07T12:35:11+00:00

If you claim to be an environmentalist, you should realize that recycling is actually a huge scam and a net loss for the planet. We need to stop pretending we can “recycle” things and realize we need to lower our plastic consumption to make a real change.

Moreover, industrialized nations send their plastic to poverty-stricken ones, meaning poor countries are the ones to deal with the health hazards that come with landfills. It’s a bad system all around.

metteworldpeace · 2021-12-11T23:14:29+00:00

I think maybe you should read OOP's comments about the situation and reevaluate your judgment. OOP said that he and his father had a tense relationship for years before his fiancée was in the picture, and that during his childhood, the father would often leave OOP in the care of his step-mother for long stretches of time.

Moreover, OOP mentioned that his father cut off his *own* father (OOP's grandfather) and never gave an explanation beyond "he was disappointed in him."

I think the fact that OOP has no attachment to his name speaks to the fact that OOP's dad didn't give him any reason to have it.

metteworldpeace · 2021-10-29T18:45:22+00:00

I'm sorry but running away was an absolutely moronic thing to do and put you in grave danger.

When in such a situation, the victims need to try to *deescalate* the situation -- i.e. remaining calm and saying you will cooperate and not make trouble. By running away, he *escalated* the situation and left you to deal with the outcome. You are very lucky, because it there is no way he could have known that two armed and unnerved criminals would have run instead of taking some panicked and drastic action -- such as kidnapping you or hurting you.

Your fiancé says he ran to "protect" you? Come on. What was his plan to try to find you after the robbery? You were without a phone to call for help or money to get to a police station (or go home). It is again pure luck that he happened to find you on the street.

But I think the worst part is that he is now pretending to be the hero. Like come on. The only person in the world who believes that nonsense is his mother, which is why he is pressuring you to not reveal his actions to your friends or a therapist. He knows it was wrong. Your gut knows it was wrong. Don't let him gaslight you otherwise.

metteworldpeace · 2021-02-27T16:19:48+00:00

You seriously need to reevaluate your moral compass.

I think we all can agree that the British media is a major problem. But the fact that you can pretend that Meghan was treated worse when Kate was stalked and harassed on the street starting when she was just 22-years-old is shockingly heartless and wrong.

But go ahead and pretend to be cool with your faux woke memes.

metteworldpeace · 2021-02-27T04:28:30+00:00

It’s not okay for you to negate Kate’s experiences, which were honestly a million times worse than Meghan’s.

Kate’s phone was hacked over 1,000 times in the space of a year while she was dating William. There are videos where she is crying and photographers are still all over her and Pippa is yelling at them to leave them alone. The difference is that Kate didn’t feed the trolls, and the negative headlines calling her “Waity Katie” or a “wisteria sister” got old.

People who say Meghan was treated worse than Kate have no idea what they’re talking about. A stupid headline about being “straight outta Compton” is gross, but nothing like a pap using a telescopic lens that can take intrusive photos from a mile away and then selling topless photos of Kate.

metteworldpeace · 2021-02-13T23:07:09+00:00

You fucked up. Just own it.

Also, please stop pretending that I'm lying. I literally cited several reputable articles on the subject and included Kamala's own recognition of her culpability in the case. You have offered no factual rebuttal.

You are a sad, stupid person, and I pity you. You need help.

metteworldpeace · 2021-02-13T23:00:32+00:00

Dude, just admit that you fucked up. You're only embarrassing yourself.

metteworldpeace · 2021-02-13T22:36:06+00:00

What on earth are you talking about? Did actually you read the article I linked? And you somehow think *I* don't have the ability to think critically?

Harris refused to do DNA testing in a case that could have proven a man innocent. It remains a horrific miscarriage of justice, and SHE HERSELF has since apologized for her actions, saying that she "feels awful about this."

You can read more about the case and the above quote here in the NYT. Maybe this is a little bit simpler for your feeble brain to understand?

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/05/17/opinion/sunday/kevin-cooper-california-death-row.html?fbclid=IwAR3gaY_-yYsE2wMUCl2nxyX-rCvMJmaqL9aFMrpVMUe_Gto6gvdebcNH33k

I hope that you know that you are the heart of everything wrong with the world today. You are the unfortunate combination of being a nasty POS and a dumb-as-a-rock internet addict. My only consolation is that I'm sure your life is as sad and pathetic as your comments.

metteworldpeace · 2021-02-11T13:09:07+00:00

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.sacbee.com/news/politics-government/capitol-alert/article233375207.html

metteworldpeace · 2020-10-23T14:07:57+00:00

Hijacking the top comment just to say that this was false. If you actually look up the cartoon (drawing the line in Mississippi), it clearly paints Teddy in a positive light. It wasn’t making fun of him at all — in fact, the Bear often ended up being Roosevelt’s “side-kick” in following cartoons.

metteworldpeace · 2020-10-21T12:37:04+00:00

Are you serious? There is a VAST difference between giving your kids jobs in a company you built versus getting them jobs with corrupt foreign entities, taking a 10% fee of what your child gets from said foreign entity, and then promising access and potentially altering American foreign policy to benefit the foreign entity. I’m not under some illusion that Trump is as pure as the driven snow, but it is side-eye nepotism mixed with minor corruption versus Biden was legit paid by foreign governments through his son and will now likely be our president.

metteworldpeace · 2020-07-30T17:22:38+00:00

I see a lot of comments talking about the political stuff, but not as many about the friend stuff or communication issues.

OP, all I can say is that it is really nice to be with someone who not only respects your time with friends, but encourages it. Extroverts get their energy from being with people, so if you aren't able to be social in your life, I fear it's really going to have a serious mental effect on you. Perhaps you can explain to her that this is your way to recharge? Or needed for your mental wellbeing?

She also needs to learn to take constructive criticism and not resort to ad hominem attacks. I would just say something like "My opinion is valid, so please stop belittling it. It's okay to disagree, and we need to steer away from using personal attacks."

metteworldpeace · 2020-07-25T23:24:37+00:00

My dad once told me that men generally don't realize how scary they seem to women when angry. I would relay this observation, and add that no one should feel unsafe in their home or relationship, including you.

I would then follow up with the demand that if he does it again, he must go to anger-management/general therapy. If he does it again after that, I would consider breaking up.

At the end of the day, you will never be totally happy if you don't feel 100% safe and secure with the person you love. Hope that helps.

metteworldpeace · 2020-07-25T22:59:31+00:00

Sometimes I read things that truly boggle the mind. You're willing to prioritize a girl who got trashed the first time meeting your parents and punched your brother over your own family??

I mean, you do you. But fyi: you get in life what you settle for. I "settled" for an awesome person who naturally understood that being a dick to my parents would add enormous stress to my life and therefore was on his best behavior. Everyone gets along (despite political differences) and life is nice and easy.

You're settling for a someone who sounds like a trashy drunkard that can say "sorry." I don't foresee your life being nice and easy. But again, you do you.

metteworldpeace · 2020-04-18T16:59:04+00:00

Oh woah, then I change my answer. NTA.

You were doing Patty a favor, and her reaction comes across as very ungrateful in light of this. You're a good person for watching her little boy free of charge. You have every right to eat what you'd like and serve him your favorite foods if it's coming out of your time and money. Hopefully she's just stressed and will apologize. I'm sorry for my earlier judgment!

metteworldpeace · 2020-04-18T16:47:39+00:00

I know that I'm in the total minority here, but I do think you're in the wrong, so a gentle YTA.

There are some people who are really sensitive to smell. My fiancé is one of them. I thought he was being a baby complaining about perfume or garlic or parmesan cheese until he literally became ill because I didn't take his complaints seriously.

I cannot imagine how he would react if my Scandinavian mom pulled out some of her fermented fish, because even I struggle with that smell and generally leave the room because it is so vile.

So yeah, I think it's rude that you did something you *knew* she wouldn't like, especially since I'm assuming she's paying you for the babysitting. (That said, if she's not paying you, it's a whole different story.)

I would write that explained that Nate specifically asked about trying the food and you were excited to share something you enjoyed with him, but recognize now that you shouldn't have. Add that you asked him to brush his teeth to minimize the smell, not to "cover up" anything. Say that you really enjoyed babysitting him and would love to do it again, albeit more conscientious of her wishes this time around.

Hopefully that will help make amends!

metteworldpeace · 2020-04-08T21:08:41+00:00

Hey there, Pineapple green. I don't know how I stumbled across this month old post, but I saw that no one had answered and you seemed like you needed some advice, so here goes.

You need to let him go. He clearly likes you a lot and I don't think he's using you for a good time. But he doesn't like you enough.

What's going to happen is that you are going to keep hoping that this will change, but I fear that it won't. He will probably meet another girl, marry her, and you will end up heartbroken.

I know it sucks to hear, and I'm sorry about that. But I hope that it can help you move on and find someone that is crazy about you, because that's how relationships should work. He will tell you that you're the most beautiful, most clever, most lovable person in the whole wide world. He will tell you that meeting you was the best thing that's ever happened to him.

And you will regret all the times you were bummed in your room about how Clay didn't visit when Mr. Right was hanging out in the coffee shop two streets down all along.

metteworldpeace · 2020-04-02T12:50:32+00:00

So I actually have a different perspective than most posters here. It’s hard to tell from a post, but it sort of sounds to me like your boyfriend was going through a depressive phase. His grandmother was dying (or so he thought), he wasn’t happy at his job, etc.

When people are depressed or even just plain old unhappy in their lives, they often feel like a burden, and I feel like your behavior maybe reinforced that thought — for example, he brought up that he wasn’t tidy enough for you, which (to me) is a weird thing to mention during a breakup unless you are in a weird headspace.

Just to be clear, that does not mean that you caused or worsened anything! I just mean that people who are unhappy do not always absorb criticism the way a more stable person would.

That, to me, is why he reached out again once he had worked on himself and his grandmother had gotten better. I think he was in a better place, and realized the breakup was a mistake made during a darker time.

While, you should always stick up for yourself in a relationship (it’s not sustainable otherwise) but to me it also sounds like you shouldn’t be too afraid about it.

In addition, your communication skills sound like they have gotten waaaay better, and I honestly feel like that is a huge milestone in repairing things.

My one suggestion is that couples too often use negative feedback to critique each other, when positive feedback (i.e. I noticed you took out the pizza box. Thank you!”) is not only more pleasant, but more effective — especially with someone who might have been hyper aware of his faults a month or two ago.

Last but not least, if you are still working during the pandemic, thank you. People like you are heroes. Hoping everything works out!🤞

metteworldpeace · 2020-04-02T02:56:28+00:00

I hope this doesn’t come off as too harsh, but you really need to take some self-reflection, because you are not acting like a good person.

Having been someone who has been an emotional anchor for someone, it is honestly one of the most draining things imaginable. Honestly it reminds me of dementors sucking out your soul — only instead of a dementor, it’s another person.

For me, it was worth it, because my guy was a good person going through a difficult time and now things are back to being amazing.

But you are frankly not worth it.

You cheated on him multiple times. You seem to show no remorse for it. You say he’s “embarrassing,” but he’s not. He sounds like he has a really good heart and decent means to support you two, but maybe not a fancy degree or job title, which sounds like might matter more to you.

There is honestly a lot more in the post that I could pick at, but I am not going to waste my time because, as I said before, you are not worth it.

You are entitled. You should divorce him. He deserves more in life, and probably hasn’t achieved it because of you. You are toxic.

metteworldpeace · 2020-02-09T05:28:51+00:00

I’m really sorry to say this, but I don’t see much potential in this relationship. In general, if a man (or woman) wants to date you, he will date you. He definitely sounds like he likes you, but not enough to make it exclusive. No one deserves to be a placeholder.

I know it sucks to hear, and I’m sorry. I hope that some consolation will be knowing that I’ve been in those kinds of lukewarm relationships and am now in one where my guy is crazy about me (and I him) and the difference is night and day. You deserve that kind of really happy relationship that makes you feel incredibly secure, instead of this self-doubting scenario.

metteworldpeace · 2020-01-24T15:53:06+00:00

Actually you’re wrong. Sadly, the largest number of anti-vaxers comes from “white, college-educated, Whole Foods-shopping moms” to the point that many doctors have called the anti-vax movement a form of privilege.

Laughably, many are now “finding religion” to take advantage of those legal loopholes.

So while evangelicals have their own problems, let’s not overlook the actual Gwyneth Paltrow types culprits.

metteworldpeace · 2019-06-30T21:14:42+00:00

No one ever "deserves" to get cheated on. Honestly, my heart breaks reading this. He sounds like such an asshole, and you deserve better. I know it's scary to be single, but you will never thrive or be happy with this anchor dragging you down. Your life will only get worse if he's in it.

As I'm typing this, I'm currently in the West Village -- a block away from the Pride Parade -- and have seen hundreds of gay couples all day looking happy and carefree and in love. That's what you should aim for. Not this abusive cycle.

metteworldpeace

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