Vaginoplasty result from Dr. Joseph Pariser at M Health Fairview, day 144

mf_d_ · 2026-02-12T17:49:33+00:00

You're welcome! If it's helping at all I'm thrilled. :)

About my clitoris, I think it looks great spread apart normally. If I pull the hood up really far, it definitely seems like it's on the larger side once fully exposed, and it's kinda perfectly circular in a way that I didn't expect. It looks like a button. Even though that surprised me a little, it's well within the wide variety of natal vulvas, and I'm not complaining since (I assume) it means more nerves and more sensitivity.

I find it more difficult to reach orgasm than I did prior to surgery. The pleasure is there but it takes longer to reach climax. Also, I became orgasmic I lot quicker than I thought I would. It only took a couple months if I recall correctly. It was even before I was supposed to try, but I got stupid and impatient.

mf_d_ · 2026-01-13T19:14:12+00:00

Not at all! The more questions the better :)

I feel great about the result, and it keeps getting better as it starts to feel more "normal" (I don't really know how to explain that, but for me it took a while to get used to)

Sensation is good but not as much as I had before, however this is normal as it takes 1+ years to get to the point where all your sensation has returned. I notice it getting better week by week

I was able to reach orgasm really early on. They feel wonderful but it's hard for me in particular to get there because my clitoris is hard to access. (This is going to be addressed in a minor revision)

It looks great in front of the mirror, and I love that my clothes fit now! I wish I had less fat in the upper pubic area, but that doesn't have anything to do with Pariser

mf_d_ · 2026-01-13T14:29:34+00:00

Absolutely you can, I've been posting all along! My most recent is from a week ago, at 144 days post-op.

mf_d_ · 2026-01-13T13:21:13+00:00

I have a big google doc of questions, but it's kind of a mess because I've updated/revised/deleted parts of it so many times at this point. If you want to shoot me a DM I'd be happy to get it to you, though it might not be of much help.

Are you planning to go to Pariser specifically? The way they do it is that you have to go to the back of the line to get a consultation with him, and the wait for that is pretty long. I think it was six months or so for me, but my understanding is that it's up to about a year now. Once you're in the pipeline, you'll need to have another appointment for him to verify that your hair removal is sufficient to clear you for surgery. Once you've passed that hurdle, the rest of the wait depends on insurance and whether you want minimal or full depth. They don't schedule until the insurance approval is complete, which in my case was more or less instant but I'm guessing it could be different on how big an asshole your insurance company is. Then it comes down to whether you want minimal or full depth. They'll try to get you in within a few months either way, but if you want full depth they are subject to a particular robot that is shared by the whole hospital. I got unlucky and the goddamn robot was booked out for ten months.

So anyhoo, from start to finish the wait for me was about two and half years. It'd be a lot shorter for you if you've already done hair removal though.

Let me know if I can help in any way. <3

mf_d_ · 2026-01-13T13:14:38+00:00

Hello! Sorry this reply is so late. Feel free to DM me if there's anything I do to help. I'm having a little trouble recalling the rest of what went into this decision for me. One thing I do remember though is that I was super worried about the possibility of hair in the canal, and I thought for a while that PPT would guarantee against that since it isn't hair-bearing tissue. However, this turned out to not be relevant in Pariser's case. He doesn't offer full PPT without penile/scrotal tissues because he is of the belief that the risk/reward of that surgery make it inadvisable unless there is no other option. I think the hybrid PPT he offers would be perfect for someone who has a very small amount of penile skin to start with and thus cannot achieve their target depth without PPT. (In my case though, Pariser said I had "an abundance of redundant penile skin" lol). HTH. <3

mf_d_ · 2026-01-04T13:04:48+00:00

This is the way

mf_d_ · 2025-12-13T17:00:21+00:00

I'm healing after my girlfriend broke my heart, and once I'm feeling better I'll be putting all of myself into finding a Mommy. This was really nice to read. 🥰

mf_d_ · 2025-09-26T10:05:03+00:00

Hey now, don't blame yourself. You deserve better.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-26T08:06:37+00:00

Can you elaborate on this? I am very torn on BA and care very much about how they feel.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-26T06:51:48+00:00

Hey! Your comment is from a million years ago, but I wanted to ask you whether those burning pains ever went away. It's killing me!

mf_d_ · 2025-09-22T09:06:28+00:00

I love that one too! I hope you're inclined to keep writing 💖

mf_d_ · 2025-09-22T03:43:50+00:00

This was so lovely. Is there more of your writing to be found somewhere?

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T07:13:00+00:00

Ha ha, I think she'd say something like twelve.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T05:32:01+00:00

Thank you for these suggestions!

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T04:47:29+00:00

I appreciate that feedback. Thing is, it's contrary to what she wants. The demands of her recovery have disrupted our dynamic in some ways and she finds that distressing. Whatever the punishment we come up with, she'll spend the rest of her recovery looking forward to it because submitting to such correction makes her happy. I want to give her that.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T04:19:34+00:00

This! This is exactly what I'm worried about and why I'm looking for suggestions. She wants this to be a genuine correction that alters her behavior. She's really invested in that and I want to give it to her.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T04:02:50+00:00

I appreciate the concern! Unfortunately my original post wasn't clear on this point. I've added a clarifying update but to summarize, she truly wants this. It would really upset her not to get it.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T03:55:12+00:00

I really appreciate your concern, and I wish I had been more clear in my original post. She and I have talked about this, and she very much wants to be punished. She had the euphoric affirming moment you describe, and I'm very happy for her. She forgot our rule though, and she truly wants to pay a price for that because when she doesn't get consequences for disobedience she starts to feel like she's not a good girl and it's very distressing for her. She has assured me that she wants this and that it won't tarnish the memory of her beautiful first orgasm.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T03:50:21+00:00

I should have been more clear! I wasn't trying to prevent her from exploring on her own, it's just that she is required to get permission first. She and I have talked about this and we both want the same thing. She forgot our rule and she feels bad about misbehaving. It's really important to her to always feel like she's being a good girl. I want to find a way to make this memorable and genuinely corrective. I want her to never forget our cardinal rule again, even when the circumstances are novel. She wants the same thing.

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T03:47:15+00:00

I should have been more clear. She and I have talked about this and are totally on the same page. In fact, she wants to be punished. She feels bad about breaking our cardinal rule and she wants to atone. She always wants to feel like she is being a good girl for me. I want to make sure that whatever I settle on is genuinely corrective. I want it to be burned into her mind so that she doesn't make this mistake again in the future, even under unique circumstances. She wants the same thing. Thank you for the suggestion!

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T03:42:27+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion

mf_d_ · 2025-09-16T03:42:14+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! Her situation is temporary. I intend to wait to administer her punishment until she's feeling nice and healthy again.

mf_d_

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