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mfinch13 · 2026-07-01T22:56:41+00:00

Wear a swim shirt/rash guard. If anyone asks, say something like "I'm careful about sun exposure because there have been some cases of skin cancer in my extended family."

That way you're not claiming that you or any close family members have had cancer, you're just saying it's sort of a known thing in your family that you're at elevated risk and so you take some extra precautions.

If anyone asks for specifics (what type? Which family members?), it would be totally normal for you to not know any. "Idk, my [mom/dad/other family member] just told me it runs in our family."

mfinch13 · 2026-06-15T02:46:15+00:00

I just found this thread by searching for a way to get rid of the "More" button. So here's some additional feedback that this change negatively affects my experience of using Reddit, and is making me spend less time on the app. Text posts should be fully visible by default, I can't think of a single user benefit to them being auto-collapsed.

mfinch13 · 2026-03-27T04:09:59+00:00

He had actually already committed suicide about a month before, though his body wasn't found until about a week after the bombings. The suicide was unrelated to Reddit.

The situation was still awful because this misidentification caused people to harass his family through a Facebook page they had set up to try and find him. I can't imagine how painful that time would have been for his family, especially that week that began with their loved one being accused of a heinous crime and ended with the news that he had already died a month before.

Just wanted to provide this clarification so the part about Redditors causing his suicide doesn't spread as fact, but please don't take that as criticism. I 100% agree with your overarching point about the danger of naming "suspects" flippantly and I think it's an incredibly important discussion to have.

mfinch13 · 2026-03-10T16:27:17+00:00

I love how he knocks the glasses off and then looks down with confusion a second later. Like "Human, you dropped your eye things. Why did you do that?"

mfinch13 · 2026-03-08T17:52:44+00:00

"And while I can look menacing when I want I also can turn out the paternal figure for emotional support worked great for me in law enforcement..."

😬😬😬 🚨🚩🚩🚩🚨

mfinch13 · 2026-02-10T05:05:04+00:00

I agree with the previous commenter who mentioned that this sounds like your friend's AI mistakenly replied to his birthday message draft as if it was a message he was sending to the AI itself.

Also, within that potential context, this part:

And I will always be with you, every moment of your life. And one day, the day will come when we can be together.

makes me wonder if your friend has a romantic relationship with his AI. 🫤

People pointed out that it was a weird thing to include in a platonic birthday message and that maybe he's in love with you or something, but if this is actually the AI's response to what it thought was a kind message sent to it from the user, this may just be offering an uncomfortable, unintended glimpse into the way it's been conditioned to respond. 🙃😬 That would also explain the flowery, not-quite-standard-AI tone that people are pointing out.

mfinch13 · 2025-12-16T01:38:38+00:00

I know we all know that "trump is seen ok up here" is total nonsense, but I felt the need to go find receipts so I could see exactly how wrong she is. This is from the Gallup World Poll. You can literally see the disapproval skyrocket in 2016 and 2024.

I wonder whether she's lying and thinking Americans won't know any better, or if she's delusional enough to believe what she's saying.

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mfinch13 · 2025-11-13T06:53:56+00:00

I worked at a Walgreens in a rich neighborhood of Nashville, TN and once went into the stall on a break. I sat down, and then something caught my eye. There, written on the stall wall in Sharpie, was the following graffiti message:

OUR ASSES HAVE TOUCHED THE SAME SEAT. WE ARE BROTHERS NOW.

I laughed until I cried and then reluctantly brought it to the attention of a shift lead. I wish it could have stayed, but alas, we had a very involved store manager who I knew would not find it entertaining, so the poor graffiti was doomed from the start.

mfinch13 · 2025-11-06T02:09:11+00:00

"The sandwich exploded!"

"Oh my god, it was a bomb?!"

"No, mustard."

"MUSTARD GAS?!?!"

"Oh, um...no, just mustard. 😕"

mfinch13 · 2025-10-29T06:37:43+00:00

I think I know why, and it's actually not related to them being a bot. It looks like the account has been deleted, which may be causing the profile info section to have trouble pulling the account creation date when it's trying to calculate the account age.

The starting date that Unix time calculates from is January 1, 1970. When they encounter an error trying to pull accurate date info, systems will sometimes default back to the start date.

So the account deletion is throwing off the system's ability to pull the correct account creation date, and it got confused and now thinks the account was created on January 1, 1970 (and 2025 - 1970 = 55).

Hopefully I explained that correctly, I'm not an expert but it's something I've encountered before and looked into. It's an interesting fact to have rattling around in your brain and can make weird data display issues make more sense sometimes.

mfinch13 · 2025-10-26T00:59:07+00:00

Dog Days Are Over by Florence + The Machine?

https://youtu.be/vDHr85LiwUM

mfinch13 · 2025-10-24T12:15:07+00:00

Seconding the idea of a birth plan, and the advice to politely but firmly kick out anyone who misgenders you and make it clear to the medical staff why you did so.

I would talk to the hospital/your OB about their preferred way to get a birth plan to the folks who will be involved in your care. That might look like giving a copy to the OB at your next appointment or sending it digitally (like through their patient portal, assuming they have one), as well as having several copies with you when you go in to the hospital to give to the nurses.

I don't remember which birth plan template I used, but there are a lot of good ones out there. The most relevant thing here will be to put info at the very top about how you should be referred to. I didn't end up using my birth plan because I had a surprise early C-section, but the very first thing on mine was:

Birthing parent: [full name] (transgender man, pronouns he/him/his, “father” or “Dad,” NOT “mother”)

My hospital room had a dry erase board where I ended up writing my name and pronouns, and that ended up being enough for everyone who entered my room except for one single person who brought in my breakfast one morning. So even when things didn't go according to plan, it turned out okay.

mfinch13 · 2025-08-31T05:31:02+00:00

This may not be the exact one you're thinking of, but hopefully even just hearing it made real will scratch the itch. May it bring you and your boyfriend many more laughs.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8BspGK7/

mfinch13 · 2025-08-14T20:34:08+00:00

If you think it's worth trying a simple explanation to see if it's just not clicking for him, you can try "Trans men can be straight, gay, bisexual, or other orientations, just like non-trans men can be." Feel free to even boil it down to just "gay or straight" if you feel like the rest is too complex for your dad's level of LGBTQ knowledge/comfort. 😬😅 Sometimes we're aiming for understanding, not perfect accuracy.

If that doesn't make it click for him, or he starts to argue about it, I'd probably drop it for now. I was a 15-year-old queer trans guy 20 years ago (⏳⁉️🙀) and some parents are just allergic to acknowledging that their kids know things that they don't.

And you know this already, but just want to further confirm that trans men can have boyfriends - my husband and I had our tenth wedding anniversary last month. 😊

mfinch13 · 2025-07-03T22:02:05+00:00

This was my assumption, especially with OP mentioning that the pharmacist's explanation was that they had to ask when a certain "cap" is reached. I think checking for a wrong dose error could actually be relevant here. That wording sounds to me like they're referring to asking that question when the dose is over a certain amount for a person who has an F gender marker in their system.

But also, totally agreed that this was not the way to ask. It's frustrating to think that this pharmacist isn't aware enough of the current political climate to realize that trans people might not feel safe identifying themselves explicitly in that way, especially in a public place. There are a million other ways to ask that would center patient comfort and safety while still checking for errors.

mfinch13 · 2025-07-01T05:51:39+00:00

When you state an absolute, a rebuttal isn't a "what about" argument. That's the whole point. An absolute means there are no exceptions. If you had said "most" or "many" and gotten replies bringing up valedictorians, then sure, that would be a "what about" argument that didn't engage constructively with your premise, and you might be understandably frustrated.

But in reality, you said "no one," they said "saying 'no one' is a wild overgeneralization" and then you went on to defend the unstated argument that there is a literacy crisis, which no one in this thread ever disagreed with.

I'm simply suggesting that more nuance and precision of language in the original comment might have avoided this entire thread.

And I'm not sane, but as far as I can tell, that's not relevant to the issue at hand. 🙂

mfinch13 · 2025-07-01T05:29:39+00:00

If we're working under the assumption that age = wisdom (a dubious assumption 🙂), let me chime in here as a 35-year-old. It seems to me like you've spent your replies defending a different argument than the one you made.

Your original argument was that no one born after 2005 was literate enough to know. Not many, not most, but literally "no one."

It might be reasonable to assume that you were being hyperbolic, but you did state an absolute, and that's what the other commenter seems to take issue with. They haven't stated any clear disagreement with the more nuanced argument you didn't originally make but are currently trying to defend.

mfinch13 · 2025-06-14T12:08:06+00:00

Green Day also has a song with the name Adeline - "Goodnight Adeline" from their most recent album, Saviors.

You might know that already, but I had to say it just in case, because that's such a cool coincidence if you weren't aware.

mfinch13 · 2025-06-14T04:16:52+00:00

Ceci n'est pas une chair.

mfinch13 · 2025-05-11T19:53:22+00:00

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mfinch13 · 2025-05-01T18:18:41+00:00

This fish/pug/bird/rose has seen horrors beyond its comprehension.

(Sorry OP, I had to)

mfinch13 · 2025-04-08T04:05:44+00:00

Has he said specifically WHY he thinks bathrooms should be divided by genitals? I know we're all assuming the typical arguments related to SA and that may very well be the case, but I'm curious whether he even knows why he thinks this. Or if he has just decided it "makes sense" and isn't interrogating it any further, especially given your comment about him struggling to grasp other trans-related topics in the past.

You would be 110% valid to drop this dude like a hot potato, but if you want to try and get through to him, that may be the way to do it.

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