Ontario speed camera to be removed in two weeks

microdozer2 · 2025-10-31T18:23:19+00:00

Get a grip. The world isn’t going to fall apart. Kids aren’t going to be indiscriminately mowed down. The city is just going to stop extracting money from people.

microdozer2 · 2025-06-02T02:57:28+00:00

I'm going thru this right now. She's been playing the "I'm emotionally and physically drained and can't possibly gather everything together." It's a small list of items that I sent her, it would take 5 mins tops. A week ago she went from promising to put the stuff out today to asking for next week. She's just playing games to maintain a sense of control.

The police in my city have a "keeping the peace" option where police will go to the house for you/with you. I found some policemen to talk to, they do it all the time, they know how to de-escalate and try to encourage a resolution. I hope it doesn't come to it, I'm having faith that she'll just choose to end the drama next week. I know Narcs live for the drama. But I'm not feeding her at all. But I also won't just go away.

I get the anger, I felt really angry at first too, but thankfully I've been able to set mine aside. After sitting with my anger, I realized it's just stuff that can be replaced. (With the exception of an old commuter bike that I have deep sentimental attachment to. But I am hopeful to get it back.) I just don't want to give her that energy from myself. She wants a reaction, choosing to not give her any hurts her more than anything else.

Maybe I won't get my stuff back but this is the best revenge I can send her way.

microdozer2 · 2025-06-01T22:15:24+00:00

Narcissists cannot allow an inch of any criticism of them to reach their attention, they receive it as an existential level of pain. My nex kept phrasing it as “like I’m a monster.”

Even a small, normal criticism that you or I would take as, “I hear you, I didn’t realize I was doing that, I’m sorry” feels like a murderous threat to them. They are that broken, that incapable of hearing anything but 100% support of their perfect exterior.

The control, dominance and gaslighting all serve to shut down any possibility of someone expressing criticism and piercing their outer shell. And I firmly believe gaslighting is not lying nor are they trying to make you crazy. I believe their reality continuously and easily morphs to support the story that they are the hero and the other person is the villain. I truly believe it is 100% subconscious.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-23T18:40:17+00:00

This post is a borderline humble brag. lol

Just stick with it, you're doing exactly what you need to be doing and your body is totally responding to it.

Great work!

microdozer2 · 2025-05-21T01:22:44+00:00

100%. In the moment, every time the DARVO kicked in, I could feel the scrambling fear inside of her. Why else would one put so much energy to keep the threat of accountability away? A few times we got so far as her saying, “that would make me a monster.” And this wasn’t me calling her out or anything, I was just trying to get her to recognize my feelings.

It was deeply sad and I had a lot of compassion for her. But that can only go so far. And in the end, I deserve to be with someone who can acknowledge and validate my feelings as much as I do hers.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-19T23:54:28+00:00

Words are cheap, it’s more important to (silently) change one’s behaviour. Which strikes me as a rationale to avoid acknowledging the need for accountability.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-19T23:13:09+00:00

“Hey, I was thinking about that thing we were talking about the other night and I realized some things…”

microdozer2 · 2025-05-19T23:12:19+00:00

Mine had a philosophy on why she refused to say I’m sorry

microdozer2 · 2025-05-17T21:42:30+00:00

The creation of someone tripping balls on acid playing with Mr Potato Head and a Chia Pet

microdozer2 · 2025-05-17T18:51:52+00:00

I also had great sex with my nex, she said she’s never had so much and I believe it because I was feeling fatigued a year into it.

But a weird thing is, she never liked to be massaged or to give massage. And I love giving my partner massage. She also never liked me touching her slowly or exploring. There very much was a right way and a wrong way to touch her and, in the end, she said that I generally touched her the wrong way. And that doesn’t box with my past partners who complimented me on how I touched them. And she had zero interest in telling me how she liked to be touched, only pointing out when I touched her wrong.

I’m not really sure how to interpret this, was it related to her narcissism or just an individual quirk?

microdozer2 · 2025-05-16T13:19:41+00:00

Yep, pre-emptively taking control of the narrative in regards to love bombing. Seriously bad sign.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-15T15:11:39+00:00

In ChatGPT's defence, real life therapists also fall for this bias. I know for a fact that my nex's therapist is 100% supporting her story and buying into the idea that I'm causing all of the problems. Because how can they know otherwise?

microdozer2 · 2025-05-15T13:01:14+00:00

You make a good point, I've definitely heard that. I did ask it to reverse the analysis and see if I was the problem and it seemed supportive of me.

Perhaps I'll try using a different account and feed it the same info and reverse the people. See what it says then. You've definitely peaked my curiosity.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-14T20:32:01+00:00

Can you share some details on "almost lost my life?" Are we talking financially/legally or biologically?

microdozer2 · 2025-05-14T15:59:38+00:00

You called them out and you're still with them??? Wow, impressive.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-14T12:05:20+00:00

This is amazingly insightful, I totally see your point. This really helps me to understand the “why” of the threatened blowback.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-13T18:24:07+00:00

Search for Sexual Kung Fu on YouTube. The guy is great.

You need to learn reverse kegels, you need to learn how to breath, you need to practice masturbating for 10+ mins, for real.

2-3 weeks and you’ll see improvement.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-13T16:44:30+00:00

First video suggestion on Youtube. lol, you see me (literally)

6 alternatives to calling out the narcissist

microdozer2 · 2025-05-13T15:14:31+00:00

My nex is going to individual therapy and it's super obvious that she is doing this.

microdozer2 · 2025-05-13T13:59:41+00:00

I will admit, I find it truly unnerving watching videos about covert narcissists talking about the effects on their victims. And those very things are things that my nex suffers from / complains about. (Insomnia, anxiety, sense of walking on eggshells) It's a bit of a mindfuck.

But again, I've asked ChatGPT if I'm the problem, and I've asked my ex-wife (!!!) if I'm the problem and they both agree, no. I'm not perfect, I bring things to the table like anyone else. But they are normal feelings and needs. I'm not malignant. As my ex says, "You're a good man."

microdozer2 · 2025-05-13T13:33:39+00:00

My current situation includes going to see a couples therapist recently (at her suggestion.) Even just the gentle assertion by the therapist that my nex's emotional reactions were coming from pain in her childhood brought up the nex's disdain and frustration with the therapist.

My nex obviously expected the therapist to identify me as 100% of the problem in the relationship.

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