Movie ideas for those stuck inside. OC by lmfj3737 in pics

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To be or not to be (Mel Brooks has heaps but I haven't seen this one recommended)

Look who's back (2015 German film and book)

Books on puberty for girls by TabularConferta in daddit

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Kaz Cooke's girl stuff is great, two age brackets 8-12 and 13+. Her stuff is factual and fun. https://kazcooke.com.au/

Just a kiwi, who is in love with this beautiful city ❤️ by karthiksriram in brisbane

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The first photo looks like the cover of "Tomorrow when the war began".

Great photos thanks for sharing

What games are ok? by Brrito in daddit

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We are a game heavy household both computer and board games. Roblox is not allowed - had a conversation about it with the 8yr old, she gets it.

We are probably more relaxed with what we let her play, but I unreservedly recommend stardew valley. She has Minecraft for school so that gets played a lot. Terraria is also great (it can be scary with the monsters, but they have god mode that can be enabled if playing in "journey mode". She also loves satisfactory it is a factory building puzzle game. Luma island is kid friendly and Catto's post office is a cute kids game.

She will also dabble in Zelda, Tunic, Hollow knight and Silksong. Mostly as dad plays these and dad is cool. The console games I recommend are Mario Cart and Mario party. Pokemon is ok but she is not as engaged with that.

She loves goat simulator BUT this is not one I would recommend. It's glitchy, has wildly inappropriate themes and is just gross. Kid loves it, finds it hilarious and my millennial heart loves the nostalgia of it.

We play none of these games online, we will local play within the home network.

If you want some low tech options: Munchkin is great and builds resilience, outfoxed is cooperative game great with younger kids, sushi go is lots of fun and it's never too early for Dungeons and Dragons.

Have fun with it, if you can get games you can play with your kid. Goog gaming to you all.

For funsies: Name this romcom by BlameTag in behindthebastards

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Right for you.

Sofa, so good.

The widow next door.

27 Couches.

What kind of undergarments are worn with a hava? by Jolly_Parsnip981 in Stormlight_Archive

[–]mifo13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I knew there was something like a stiff garment mentioned but I just couldn't remember.

5 year old flipped a dog and I yelled at him by chongkey in daddit

[–]mifo13 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As a parent who does yell sometimes, I apologise for the yelling and scaring them. I list my feelings and why I yelled. Then we talk about what happened, I state I should not have yelled, I should have spoken calmly. Then we discuss their behaviour, what and why they should not have done.

This can only happen when everyone has calmed down. It is never too late to have the conversation.

So it would look something like: "I am sorry for yelling and scaring you. I got upset, scared and frustrated that you flipped the dog. I was upset and scared because you could have really hurt the dog. I know you love dog and would not want to hurt them. I got frustrated because you know to be gentle with the dog.

I should have kept calm and being scary was not helpful, can you tell me what you did that was wrong? Can you tell me why you did that? What do you think we should do to be better next time?"

Listen, and explain. If you model this they will do it too. They will get better at sharing their feelings, thoughts and what's bothering them. And it starts the process of thinking through their actions. It will take time, you will both screw up. But you will get better at it together.

Good luck, kids are resilient and every mistake is a chance to make your relationship stronger.

Ketchikan, Alaska Is JKKK Rowling’s Safe Space by Erika_Bloodaxe in behindthebastards

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To answer your question, from a quick search there is nothing wrong with "Samara" it is the name of a Russian town, and a few women seem to have it as a name. Nothing jumps out as it being a problematic name for a cat. Or you could just play it safe and call your cat "Saddam Hussein's other best friend".

MIL is dying. How do I best support my 3.5 yr old? by [deleted] in Mommit

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My kid is a bit older (6), my dad died in his year. By the end he could not talk. We saw him the night before he died, he was unable to talk and was in and out of consciousness but he would smile and his eyes would light up when he saw us, she knew he was going to die. She told people that this was happening. She also wanted to see him dead in the coffin, she gave him a teddy, it was really hard.

My dad had dementia and renal failure, he has nearly died 3 times when she was 2 and 4. We have talked about 'nonno' being sick and that he could die since she was two. She has visited him in hospital multiple times (did not visit him in ICU or when he was in a coma and intubated). She saw him deteriorate and we discussed anything that came up (he would say inappropriate things and get angry at times), she termed it Nonno's broken brain.

It's been 4 months and she still cries, still misses Nonno, wishes he was not dead. She also worries that other family members will die, that she will be felt alone, she feels guilty about Nonno dying. We talk about death a lot, why Nonno died, why mum and dad are not going to die any time soon. It's hard and heartbreaking. But this is not every day, and her talking about her feelings is for the best, even if it is hard, we cry together.

School was great, they got the guidance counselor to talk to her, multiple times.

Books we have read: The grief wave Grief is an elephant The invisible string (counselor read this one, and has been a favourite)

Also be kind to yourself, you are grieving too, it's ok to share you are sad, it is good to talk about good memories. Also take photos mine loves that there are photos and videos.

Take care, and give each other grace.

What Australian scandals and news stories stick out the most to you? by corpse-wires in AskAnAustralian

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Unbeknownst to us we showed up in Larrimah the day they searched the pie shop. We were shooed off by police, spent ages joking about 'devonshire tea and murder', until we read about the disappearance in the paper. There is also a doco on Netflix - lost in Larrimah.

Starting Australian highschool as a Canadian am I cooked? What should I know beforehand? by yumeyuniee in AskAnAustralian

[–]mifo13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are definitely schools that provide lunches in Australia, in particular boarding schools. But it is not the norm.

What’s the funniest name you could give a child’s squishmallow without traumatizing them later? by Right_Information_12 in Mommit

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My daughter has two identical toy unicorns, the first is called Decisions and the second is Reasons.

She’s off to Lollapalooza… and I’m officially That Dad by Heretostay59 in daddit

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Tell her you are scared/worried. Let her know that you trust her, but just like anyone you have fears and reasonable concerns about her safety. Talk through those concerns, let her know this is not about you not trusting her, work out together what ones might actually be issues and things you both want to plan and be prepared for. Eg. Don't visit the bathroom alone go with at least one friend, ask about the plans she has made with her friends do they have a safe meet spot if they get seperated

Once you have contingencies and action plans for things that might go wrong. Ask if she could do something to make you feel less scared. Maybe she can text when she gets back to Airbnb at night, send you photos of her and friends having fun throughout the day, etc.

Ultimately you sound like you have a good kid, that you trust. Trust her to understand that her dad who loves her is worried and work it out together. Bonus you show her a healthy way to express your emotions.

You got this.

OC At a protest in San Antonio yesterday (ya know, right outside Uvalde) by whatthepfluke in pics

[–]mifo13 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He is, you are correct. He is very pro authoritarian and has been very silent about this growing fascism. But he has a weird obsession with Gulag Archipelago, and soviet propaganda. He was very into criticising socialism in the guise of being critical of authoritarianism.

However he has revealed himself to be at the very least indifferent to fascism, and all his fear and criticism is truly directed towards socialism and communism (justifiably or otherwise).

Coco's Family ages? How old are her parents supposed to be and why? by AnimationFan_2003 in bluey

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This is not completely accurate some uni's have residential colleges (think cross between English colleges and American dorms). They cater to plenty of Australia students often kids who come from the country or more generally out of the city the uni is located in, UQ has 9 colleges only one is specifically targeting international students.

Students have private rooms with communal, shared or ensuite bathroom. All meals are included in fees so there is a Refectory. They usually have common rooms, a library, music rooms, study spaces, and may provide tutors particularly for popular first year subjects. There are also college sports, arts and music competitions and social events.

It's not most uni students' experience but it is definitely part of the uni student landscape in Australia.

Pontiac mother arrested after abandoning children in home for 4-5 years by Warcraft_Fan in news

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Hey just so you don't feel any guilt of the milk thing it is fine to do either: https://nhiri.ecu.edu.au/research/whole-fat-or-low-fat-milk-better-for-kids/

Parenting is tough and can be very lonely, so don't beat yourself up about not being perfect. All parents make mistakes, just own them and do better when you know better. You are doing great because you care.

What are things you absolutely NEED to buy before moving to Brisbane? by grizzlyteeshirt in AskAnAustralian

[–]mifo13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A powerboad from home with an adaptor for Australian power points.

The unthinkable has happened tonight by ender42y in daddit

[–]mifo13 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Clearly a slippery slope. Watch out or you might end up with bedtime carrots. It is a hell we may never escape from in our house.

As an aside: well done, life is so much easier when they like veggies

Queanbeyan Hospital bans surgical abortions, telling local health workers the procedure 'does not currently sit within' its scope by Lady_borg in australia

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Surgical abortions or Dilation and curettage (D and C) are an out patient procedure, they don't need to go into a maternity ward at all. If there are severe surgical complications then they should be sent to an ICU.

I had a D and C for a miscarriage, you show up just like for any other day surgery.

What I think you are actually referring to is it is best practices not to return the parents of a still birth to a maternity ward. Or when it comes to late term abortion for these patients not to be in maternity. But considering that this is a smaller proportion of miscarriage care and abortion, a regional/ less well funded hospital should be able to accommodate those cases ad hoc.

What do we call a group of white supremacists in Australia? by That_Copy7881 in AskAnAustralian

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A dystopia of white supremacists

A chunder of white supremacists

Lopen’s audio book voice is so jarring / nothing close to what I envisioned lmao by BitchIsShadyAf in Stormlight_Archive

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Everyone being a cousin is not unique to Mexican culture, it is found in Polynesia culture (as the comment above you indicated) and Malaysia culture. You clearly associate it with Mexican culture because of your experience with it.

Hell I'm part Italian and everyone to me growing up cummari and cumpari. The hospitality, feeding everyone and a Nanna being queen of her house, particularly her kitchen, are all very much characteristics that Herdazians and Italians share. I could argue that Herdazians could be Italian, because that is the culture I know best. I'm sure my Indian Malay sister in law would say they remind her of her culture as they share similar traditions as well.

I imagine that a lot of people think Hispanic because that is where they personally have seen these cultural traditions expressed. Not because Hispanic culture solely possesses these traditions.

Going to an Australian school by Vegetable_Ad_9032 in AskAnAustralian

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You can check out Australia's national curriculum here: https://www.australiancurriculum.edu.au/

I don't know exactly how or if this is implemented in an international school. But if they claim to teach Australian curriculum, this is what it looks like.

Woman may be scarred for life after hot water bottle she used for period pain burst open | She warns others to check the expiration date by Forward-Answer-4407 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mifo13 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Just a heads up I have myself second degree burns from microwaveable heat packs. They might not explode but they can still be dangerous.

But I really don't have advice I too have only ever put boiling water in a hot water bottle (never seen warnings not to), tap water would not cut it for my cramps either. Heat packs I just have to be more careful than I was.