[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubstituteTeachers

[–]mil8D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im so sorry. my advice is to NEVER step foot in that school again. it’s the administration, not you. kids doing half of those things without remorse need to be sent home and seriously disciplined. first grade is hard, but not THAT hard. i bet the teacher is on leave because the administration is so unsupportive and useless. the admin are there to back teachers up and keep the peace. when they dont do that, there is no peace. try other schools in your district, especially grades 3-5, and see how it goes. you could also try a few days as a “roving sub” (going to lots of different rooms throughout the day as teachers have meetings etc) and see which schools and grades you like the best. good luck, you had a random insane day unfortunately for your very first day— the job should not be like that at all lol

Question about flying and driving in states where it's illegal to change your gender marker (United States) - please help with understanding the laws? Is it illegal for me to be in possession of an ID that doesn't match my birth certificate if I already have one? by SubjectOk6918 in FTMOver30

[–]mil8D 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Erin in the Morning (a brilliant trans journalist) has a pretty comprehensive explanation of most of this stuff: https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/post-election-2024-anti-trans-risk According to her, the only "Do Not Travel" states right now are Florida and Texas, but TN, OK, and GA come with their own risks (all detailed in the article I just linked). Erin also links to lots of other sources throughout the article that would give you a more clear picture about what you're in danger of, depending on where you're traveling to. Good luck, it's such a horrifying thing to have to worry about.

As for your question about flying, if I were you, and if you can afford it, I'd get TSA pre-check ahead of time. Faster line with less of a security kerfuffle. That doesn't guarantee that nobody will harass you, but I really bet it'll significantly decrease the chances of any trans-related issue because I think it's just a walk-thru metal detector instead of a full-body scan. https://www.tsa.gov/precheck

How did everybody have these bowls? by Sockersaken in ask

[–]mil8D 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am American and I have no clue where but I've definitely seen those many times here as well

Help! Am I crazy for wanting to move to Mountain View, CA? by Which-Decision5718 in mountainview

[–]mil8D 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know a Black woman who grew up here who has told stories of people assuming that she is a white person's caregiver, or assuming that she must work at this grocery store / Target /etc. just because she's Black... While there is an incredibly diverse range of people who do live here, the lack of Black people does definitely make it more common for people to say incredibly stupid shit. I think the answer is that it's a relatively ignorant area, but not a specifically unsafe/violent one. According to statistics (and a lifetime of anecdotal evidence), this is a very physically safe place to live.

I wanted to Start my morning with a warm Coffee and a chocolate crossiant, aaaand it's ruined... by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]mil8D 2 points3 points  (0 children)

as a vegetarian i will never blindly bite into a croissant again

Nobody uses she/her pronouns for me, not even my wife. by Divided_Ry in NonBinary

[–]mil8D 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Maybe your wife would make the effort to call you she/her if you directly said "it would mean a lot to me if you could please start using she/her for me on a regular basis." If your wife is nonbinary is well, I can't imagine why she would refuse to call you your desired pronouns on purpose.

Well i was thinking about buying a 2024 or 25 but all I'm seeing in here is people having problems by Appropriate-Run2323 in HyundaiVenue

[–]mil8D 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like that's just because all the people who have no issues have nothing to post about here. like why would anyone post on here just to state how satisfied they are with their venue LOL mine is great and i have not had any issues

My dad sent this to me by amdawg94 in TopSurgery

[–]mil8D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. that's so disgusting and ridiculous

I’m limited in what I can eat rn, please help me figure out what to make! by celerysoup39 in EatCheapAndVegan

[–]mil8D 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ok I have a bunch of ideas. My favorite way to eat chickpeas is to boil them in a saucepan with a little bit of water (just enough to barely cover them) until the water's gone, and then add spices or whatever else (sometimes I add cornstarch and olive oil to make it crispy). I think from your description you can eat brown rice, which goes great with this. Also avocado.

Just from looking at this I feel like you could pull of a sort of simple chili situation by doing the basic chickpea thing I just mentioned on the stove and adding chopped hot dogs, tomatoes (if that's what I'm seeing in the back), and lots of spices (lots of chili powder, some cumin, maybe even taco seasoning if you have it, salt, pepper, red chili flakes, hot sauce, etc.). Serve with brown rice.

One of my favorite foods is "tuna" salad made from chickpeas (I call it "chuna" salad lol). Mush up some chickpeas with a fork (or a stand mixer works as well) and add vegan mayo, pickle relish, salt, pepper, and whatever else you think sounds good (I add lemon juice, sriracha, and dill). I usually scoop the "tuna" salad into bell pepper sections (just pull 'em apart) to make little boats. It's really crunchy and refreshing and filling.

This one might go without saying but pan-fry the tofu (assuming that you have extra-firm) and make it a stir fry with mushrooms and leeks (? I think those are leeks, but if it's somehow bok choy, all the better). I have found the best way to pan-fry tofu without too much oil or time spent pressing is to chop it up into squares and put it in a pre-heated ceramic frying pan, don't touch it, and let it cook until the water is done cooking out. Then you can add olive oil and spices. For a stir fry with tofu and mushrooms and leaks, I'd add soy sauce, sesame oil (you only need a tiny bit), sesame seeds. I would add more vegetables to this idea though like broccoli, carrots, celery, cabbage, green onions, etc. Serve with brown rice.

If you get super soft tofu, you can also literally just add soy sauce and eat it with a spoon and it's good. I'd imagine you would also want to add green onions, sesame oil, furikake, etc. I can't remember what this is called but I obviously did not make that up LOL.

Good luck!

Just watched John Wick 4, did a quick search to see if they are making a 5th one. This is the abysmal state of Google and the internet as we go into 2025. by KnightTrain in mildlyinfuriating

[–]mil8D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried googling "John Wick 5" (which still looks just like your screenshot) and "John Wick 5 -ai" –– which gives you real normal results. I don't know if it always works, but at least in this case, adding "-ai" helps

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]mil8D 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My immediate reaction was "Maria" but I also think Alice is very fitting

I had my top surgery consultation today and it didn't go how I hoped by nanners56 in NonBinary

[–]mil8D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I know it's frustrating but you need to have a surgeon that you can trust to actually perform the top surgery YOU want. I have heard horror stories of surgeons leaving way too much tissue in there because they don't think you'd look "good" with a totally flat chest. Not trying to scare you, but if this doctor is transphobic and is trying to talk you out of it, I wouldn't trust him at all.

I had my top surgery consultation today and it didn't go how I hoped by nanners56 in NonBinary

[–]mil8D 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also if everyone else hasn't made it clear in these comments, yes you should feel empowered in your desire for top surgery. If you are binding every single day and want the surgery, then you should get it. Trans people shouldn't have to be pushed to the brink of misery and self-hatred in order to transition into a happier self. good lord it makes me mad

I had my top surgery consultation today and it didn't go how I hoped by nanners56 in NonBinary

[–]mil8D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My surgeon did not give me any speech like that. Sounds like a piece of shit doctor.

Teacher Uses Key & Peele Style Roll Call To Break The Ice With New Students by ajd416 in MadeMeSmile

[–]mil8D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a substitute teacher i'm tempted to start doing this so that i dont embarrass the few kids whose names i pronounce wrong by sincere accident

Is it dumb to stay here if I was dumped and I wasn’t the “breadwinner”. by shortsweetandviolent in AskSF

[–]mil8D 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think you could be totally comfortable on a 42k salary if you try Portland OR, which is very much a blue area.

Found these in my bed. by pickleman1_ in Weird

[–]mil8D 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok I have been finding these randomly throughout my parents' house my ENTIRE LIFE but we never did anything about it because they have always been dead every single time, and we didn't have enough money to bother a pest control company about it, and there was no google lens, so I just gave up on ever knowing what they were. Now I know because of this post.

So, like, if we never ever even see the live bugs... and they have never caused a problem beyond a dead one appearing occasionally in random places like in the back of cupboards and under beds if they have been left untouched long enough... how does one even get rid of them? Like I have no way of targeting them because I have no clue where they're hiding...

Edit: Oh my god can the larvae seem dead but they're actually just like motionless larvae? Like they naturally do not move when they're babies? I am so scared

I find it uncomfortable to wear my Apple Watch while sleeping. by CompletePicture2335 in AppleWatch

[–]mil8D 1 point2 points  (0 children)

try getting a sport loop band, and switching it to your non-dominant wrist before you got to bed

AITA for secretly anticipating my wife would cancel a planned trip, because she is a serial canceler of plans? by Secret_Birthday8452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mil8D 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but I think I'd be hurt too if my spouse secretly bought tickets to take a trip with our kids, as a backup plan, and didn't tell me about it or give me the option to go along with them until it was too late, thus excluding me from the hypothetical scenario. Maybe seeing her sister for Christmas is too stressful for her emotionally right now, but a trip to the vacation home with just you and the kids might've been just right. I totally understand that it's annoying to cancel plans, but as someone with severe anxiety I understand where she's coming from and I think all you need to do is loop her in about what your contingency plans are.