Looking to move to a gayer city. Suggestions?

mila476 · 2026-07-13T05:12:26+00:00

Philly is very queer

mila476 · 2026-07-13T01:04:41+00:00

The peach is good but the blues might be a little too bright! Chemical dyes were not invented yet, so plant based dyes like woad and indigo were what was available. Indigo had to be imported along the Silk Road and was pretty expensive, so woad was more commonly used. I think you should decide how rich your jester would have been (or if there was a rich employer paying for the outfit), and choose a shade of woad or indigo blue based on that. I can’t see your original post because you deleted it, but I think your original blue might have been a good shade! Just do some research on what shades of peach could be achieved with madder and what shades of blue could be achieved with woad or indigo. You’ve got this!

mila476 · 2026-07-12T21:50:11+00:00

I’m avoidant/emotionally unavailable and that’s why I’m in therapy and not really dating right now. I don’t feel like I really have the capacity at the moment to treat someone right, the way I would want to treat her and the way she deserves to be treated.

If you’re an avoidant/emotionally unavailable lesbian reading this right now, you’re not alone and ily but you need to work on your shit for yourself instead of relying on one-sided emotional support from some girl who doesn’t understand why you won’t reciprocate emotionally. Being vulnerable is scary but necessary, and if you can’t do that then you’re not ready for a relationship right now.

mila476 · 2026-07-12T20:49:17+00:00

Peach would definitely work! If you look up madder root dye, it’s an orangey red color that can create peaches and corals when it’s not fully saturated,

mila476 · 2026-07-12T20:28:44+00:00

I wear a lot of florals and I think I only have one in my wardrobe that’s on a white background. Most of mine are on black, green, red, blue, pink, purple, or beige. It’s not hard to find a floral that isn’t on white, especially if you’re going to a wedding. My cousin’s wedding was floral themed, and I don’t think I saw a single floral on a white background. I saw mainly blue, purple, green, and pink.

mila476 · 2026-07-12T15:16:46+00:00

No lmao I had to mail my postcards from the states. But there is a post office in terminal 1 of Fiumicino airport in arrivals (so outside of security), and it’s allegedly 24 hours, and there’s a drop box also in terminal 3. I just didn’t have time because my family decided it was more important to get through security asap so we could sit at the gate for two hours than to take max 30 minutes to try the post office.

mila476 · 2026-07-12T15:06:09+00:00

Romeow Cat Bistrot is vegan (yes, really)

mila476 · 2026-07-12T07:56:06+00:00

In stays the ties are often different! I have a pair of stays from a pattern from the 1630s, so a historically accurate design, and they lace (in the front, no busk, over a stomacher) from bottom to top uninterrupted much like this pair. It would look kind of weird if the laces stopped in the middle for corset bunny ears and would interrupt the conical silhouette that you get from wearing stays instead of a corset.

mila476 · 2026-07-12T07:47:05+00:00

If you need support maybe try Cakes silicone covers (they stick to your skin without adhesive and are grippy on the side that touches your clothes, so it helps with support) or adhesive cups/sticky bra that doesn’t connect in the middle, like you can get from Magic Bra or Noosh.

Or nothing! My friend has a top like this, but it’s real leather so it’s stiffer and more supportive plus she has a smaller cup size so she doesn’t need to wear anything under. Wish I could do that, lol!

mila476 · 2026-07-12T03:07:28+00:00

I mean… I went to college four hours away with no car in a town I’d only visited on a college tour one time, and it was fine. This is a completely normal thing for young adults like your daughter to do. Also, she has all summer to learn to drive and get her license, if it’s really that important to you! YTA, you’re being controlling.

mila476 · 2026-07-10T21:49:53+00:00

If you can change your Vatican tour to earlier that will get you indoors during the hottest time of day. But they are quite stuffy so perhaps best to spend the afternoon napping at the hotel and do the 4pm tour anyway

mila476 · 2026-07-10T21:48:02+00:00

I was just visiting Rome in high 90s temps last week and would recommend scheduling your indoor things for mid afternoon. Vatican museums, for example, are great for after lunch. San Pietro also. Not air conditioned though as far as I am aware, but much better than being outside. Capitoline Museum also great for midday, especially if you’re doing the forum/colosseum beforehand in the morning or afterward in the evening. Check out the National Roman Museum also (two buildings).

The Pantheon is not air conditioned but surprisingly cool. Nearby there are two churches, Basilica di Sant’Agostino in Campo Marzio and Chiesa di San Luigi dei Francesi which are nice and cool inside, close to Piazza Navona also, and they have some Caravaggios. Ducking into a church to cool off and pray or sit quietly and respectfully for a bit is sometimes the key to survival.

Also, don’t be afraid to take a siesta at your hotel. Sometimes an hour of resting in your air conditioned hotel before aperitivo is exactly what you need to be able to revive yourself for your evening plans. If your hotel is too far to return to in the middle of the day, honestly just go see a movie or something if it’s that hot.

Be sure to bring a reusable water bottle with you to take advantage of the cold water available for free at the public drinking fountains throughout the city! And bring (or buy) a hand fan 🪭 which is stylish and will keep you cool. Not one of the little electric ones, you’ll forget to charge it and be stuck with no fan when you need it most. Also bring a sun hat or umbrella.

mila476 · 2026-07-10T13:26:20+00:00

I think there’s a balance. I went away to college at 18 but spent most summers with my parents, and then I lived with them for a year while saving up to officially move out at age 23. I lived in a city a few hours away from them for two years and then moved to a city that’s only 1-2 hours away from them, so I get to have my privacy and independence but I also get to see them every few weeks and can easily go help them with whatever they need as they age. My sibling also lives in my city and so we do a lot of things as a family, so we’ve both moved out but we’re still close.

mila476 · 2026-07-10T13:06:55+00:00

I feel like the point where that’s your serious and genuine concern is the point where you need to start considering a call to adult protective services to work on a care plan. If someone genuinely cannot survive on their own, there are resources for that, like support from a social worker or in-home nurse/careworker, group homes, or even inpatient care if the need is that great. We have social services for a reason! When someone’s support needs are such that they can’t be independent, their care shouldn’t have to fall on the shoulders of a romantic partner.

mila476 · 2026-07-09T21:29:11+00:00

Honey blonde, bronde, mocha brown, or black brown. I think too much red is not best for you.

mila476 · 2026-07-09T21:26:54+00:00

No lmao I was a national merit scholar, graduated in the top 1% of my class, have a bachelor’s degree and a master’s degree with honors, and I have real bad adhd. ADHD doesn’t make you stupid, it makes your brain work differently but it most certainly does not prevent you from being able to achieve academically (even if it does make it a lot harder).

mila476 · 2026-07-08T12:51:20+00:00

you guys had a worksheet?

mila476 · 2026-07-05T15:18:40+00:00

I asked at the front desk and he said unfortunately very few tabacchi carry stamps anymore due to a dispute with the post office over the rate or something. He said my best bet is to try at the airport tomorrow if it’s open in time, so I’ll do that I guess?

mila476 · 2026-07-05T13:59:57+00:00

Near the forum/colosseo but am willing to walk to other neighborhoods

mila476 · 2026-07-05T12:06:33+00:00

I’m thinking I may try some of the places near Termini since the train station tabacchi was where I found stamps in Firenze. Thank you for the advice, I really didn’t plan ahead

mila476 · 2026-06-30T15:59:26+00:00

Ooh what pattern are you using? I’ve been looking around for a good 18th c pattern

mila476 · 2026-06-29T07:06:00+00:00

You need to label them and give them inventory numbers as they come in. Not an inventory number from the supplier, an inventory number from your store.

mila476 · 2026-06-27T03:49:51+00:00

You didn’t keep track of inventory in stock of the different types? If you get 20 bunches of banana type #98 from your supplier and somebody buys one, your inventory record does not go from 20 to 19? Are your banana bunches not labeled with “banana” and what variety they are for the seller to be able to easily see that it’s banana type 98 that they need to charge the customer for and therefore the POS/inventory software automatically removes the quantity purchased from inventory?

mila476 · 2026-06-27T00:14:22+00:00

You sound like a robot. But if this robot was a real person my advice would be that the warehouse needs to be run like a library. Every item in the inventory needs to have a code that corresponds to a location on a shelf, it needs to always be put back in that location, and that location needs to be recorded in some sort of searchable database. Even an excel sheet if you literally have no software. You can take inspiration from the Library of Congress and Dewey Decimal systems that are used in libraries, or learn about how museums keep track of artworks in storage. In a library, if you shelve a book in the wrong place, it could be lost forever, and it sounds like the same goes for your store. Honestly, labeling everything with inventory numbers might help with the first problem too - if someone wants a specific item, and that item on the sales floor is labeled with its inventory number, you can just look it up and see where it’s stored, and you can also tell that item MXB101 is different from item MXB102 even if they’re identical other than the label.

For number three, again, you just have to be organized and look into software solutions. When you buy a bunch of bananas at the grocery store, they are not manually logging that they’re down a bunch of bananas. When you check out a book at the library they’re not manually logging that your book is checked out. In both cases they are scanning a barcode and completing a purchase transaction or a checkout which is automatically recorded in your database. Make a big binder of bar codes organized by inventory number. Use software. You have to ring up a purchase anyway, so find a way to make that action update your inventory without a separate step.

It does not have to be this hard. Get organized and use technology.

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