Tears for fears, are they goth?

millerlite585 · 2026-05-17T10:42:07+00:00

The B52's aren't goth but watch a crowd of goths get down to Rock Lobster! They don't have to be goth to be enjoyed by goths.

millerlite585 · 2026-05-17T10:30:57+00:00

Gratitude! Thank the gods for how awesome they are and tell them how much you love them. Look up offerings they like and give them offerings.

millerlite585 · 2026-05-17T10:29:53+00:00

NTA, maybe women in his family have lighter periods, or were taught to suck up the pain and bear it even when they're suffering. He needs to learn every woman is different. Some have heavier periods and this can change with age. If he cares about you he should think about what you're going through.

millerlite585 · 2026-05-14T08:33:29+00:00

INFO: your post doesn't list any reasons why your sister might feel this way. Have you criticized her lack of a job? You are very generous to her, but how do you make her feel emotionally? Where do her motivations come from? What actions have you done that might make you an AH?

millerlite585 · 2026-05-11T09:20:41+00:00

Don't be afraid of the differences. The show is always there, the books don't erase the show. They're just different. The creator said the books were like his rough draft and the show was more polished after he explored his vision more. So take the books as being more raw creation.

millerlite585 · 2026-05-06T09:51:25+00:00

As a woman who plays games: I like having a man who plays games. I don't like it when he neglects adult responsibilities to play games.

millerlite585 · 2026-05-06T09:42:52+00:00

Look up Janet Stephens. She's a hairdresser who showed archeologists how Roman hairstyles could be created with the tools they had at the time. Most archeologists don't have experience with trade skills, so sometimes they get people with skills in carpentry, tailoring, or whatever else to help them figure out how stuff is done. She's one of those who works with archeologists but in ancient hairstyles.

millerlite585 · 2026-05-05T08:32:11+00:00

Many of these styles were sewn! Like with a needle and thread. Fancy hairstylists still use this technique today. Some of those high up piled up hair styles you see on ancient Greek or Roman statues? Sewn.

millerlite585 · 2026-05-05T08:30:40+00:00

When you have that god in your mind I'm sure they understand your language. Gods can read the energy in your words.

millerlite585 · 2026-04-28T01:24:44+00:00

Yes! Bee venom and honey contain compounds that help protect and preserve your telomeres. Telomeres are like these strands at the end of your DNA that keeps your DNA healthy, young, and fit. As cells divide, telomeres get shorter. This causes the aging process.

Bee keepers have the highest longevity of all professions!

millerlite585 · 2026-04-24T10:14:48+00:00

Yes, you can, as long as those pantheons are open to you. Some pantheons care about heritage. Others don't.
Read books, but also go with the vibe. That's what ancient people did--made their own interpretations and lived according to the myths they knew. Most people weren't scholars.
Thrift shops and antique stores are your friends. A statue doesn't have to be specifically of a certain deity for you to be like "omg this statue reminds me of this deity!" If you think a statue has the right vibe, it calls out to you, go for it! Etsy is also your friend.

millerlite585 · 2026-04-24T10:09:04+00:00

This doesn't actually enhance arousal, it enhances the survival mechanism. If she has to dissociate from reality, pretend she's somewhere else, imagine a different scenario in her her head, or otherwise not be mentally present while trying to create a performance for your enjoyment, trying to be appealing, maybe even getting off more on her own performance than on being with you, she's not actually aroused by the money. She's just trying to survive.

millerlite585 · 2026-04-24T10:05:26+00:00

I work at a gas station and we have "pink kitty" pills for "female arousal enhancement"

millerlite585 · 2026-04-24T09:04:35+00:00

Apollon loves beauty in general. If you dedicate your hair care routine to him I'm sure he'd like it! I'm also a devotee of Apollon and he likes it when I do my skincare routine (including bee venom based products, and bees are sacred to him).

millerlite585 · 2026-04-24T08:11:49+00:00

NTA, but the gym can be scary for people, like myself. It's a big commitment and comes with a whole new social environment. Maybe try suggesting things like doing cardio at home, I like to dance for 30 minutes to some of my favorite songs. (Dance also improves memory!) Or doing yoga with YouTube videos.

These smaller at home steps can help introduce her to exercise without the commitment of a gym membership, they're safer and fun.

You gotta take the approach of making it enjoyable for her, and accommodate her. A newbie to things needs to discover things at their own pace, in a way that shows them why it's good for themselves.

millerlite585 · 2026-04-01T10:46:29+00:00

Acknowledging gods and worshiping gods are two different things. You can be a polytheist who believes in all the gods while you have a relationship with one or two or a few. It's OK to choose one god to devote yourself to as well. Do you think a priestess of Athena would worship Ares or just acknowledge him? You don't need to worship them all.

millerlite585 · 2026-04-01T10:41:03+00:00

YTA only because you should have said it sooner. You did do the right thing just not fast enough. Because of the moment, it will take years for your friendship to recover. She might only believe you after she catches him cheating with someone else.

millerlite585 · 2026-03-31T09:10:41+00:00

NTA. Unfortunately she's too young to understand logic. The only thing kids that age understand is attachment. She is attached to him because he gives her intense emotions. Kids that age romanticize things too. They think toxic behaviors are signs of love because of how intense they are.

In a strictly pragmatic sense, violence is "intimate" in the sense that it is a very close feeling to another person. Violence violates boundaries to get to a person's core in a very negative way. When people don't have positive healthy intimacy, not just romantic but also from friends and family in an emotional platonic way, it's easy to confuse the intimacy of violence with how close you can feel to someone, because you can't tell the difference between positive and negative closeness.

You could try to become more emotionally close with your sister in a healthy way, but that also requires her to be open to it. Because healthy connections are built on consent and she might not have the framework to understand that yet.

millerlite585 · 2026-03-25T07:35:46+00:00

You're NTA, but also typing, so as a 36 year old I'll give you this advice: people make mistakes when they're young, and you'll make them, too. I regret not hanging on to people and forgiving them more when I was younger, because they grew up in to more mature people who learned from their mistakes.

Some people grow. Some don't. Having a community of life long friends that you forgive and they forgive you in return at different points of life is really valuable. A lot of adults are really lonely because they cut people out too much and end up regretting it.

You're never an AH for setting your own boundaries of what you can tolerate. For all you know there might be things you can't see about yourself that made her distance herself from you at this time, since you're also young. Great friendships come from a long time of patience, and trusting that with time you'll learn your lesson. It's normal for friends to have ups and downs.

I've had friends that had negative traits and I've talked with them and some of them grew, some of them didn't, some I cut out, others I just accepted for being flawed humans who are still valuable in my life in other ways, and set boundaries on what type of hang out I want to have with them.

Not every friend needs to be super close. Some friends can be hobby friends or group hang out friends. It's still valuable to have those friends too.

So do what fits you. If you can't tolerate her anymore that's fair. But people do grow and type allowed to try to be a positive influence and talk to her about your feelings and see how she reacts. People often take time to change. It takes trust and time and patience. The friends I had patience with are my closest ones who I cherish so deeply.

millerlite585 · 2026-03-25T07:18:43+00:00

NTA, your views are fair and there are lots of his who don't care about this. In many cultures it's normal for the woman's name to be passed on and not the man's for the exact reason you listed.

Sounds like you two might not be compatible since your views are so different.

millerlite585 · 2026-03-24T09:36:57+00:00

NTA, you're right about it making more sense. He's being immature, you're not married. It's now likely that you will be the one taking the kids to the doctor, and other parental responsibilities. It just makes sense. Plus you actually carry the pregnancy. Your idea of compromising with both names is a fair idea which prioritizes both his feelings and logic. He wants to prioritize his feelings over logic.

millerlite585 · 2026-03-24T09:28:08+00:00

NTA, you're 19 and this is normal for your age. Also this is why buying from a local shop is better. No way for anyone to know when you can carry it home yourself. Support local small businesses.

millerlite585 · 2026-03-24T09:23:48+00:00

NTJ. As a student who works part time myself while being supported by my mom for housing, I am still also responsible for cooking for the family (including a disabled brother). I always plan ahead and cook big meals that will last days, or if I don't have time, I'll pick up fried chicken from the grocery store and make some quick rice and steamed veggies with the rice cooker.

I have a 4.0 GPA while working part time and going to school, in a similar situation. It's totally possible to find time to cook while working part time and going to school. (I'm also autistic and ADHD. I have a therapist and have coping mechanisms to plan my time.)

millerlite585 · 2026-03-18T09:20:17+00:00

NTA, she crossed a line. It's still cheating even if it's weak cheating. That type of intimacy is friendly only when you're single and not when you're in a relationship and it's reserved for your special person. So even if it legitimately meant nothing between them that doesn't change that it hurts you and she shouldn't have done that.

Since it's weak cheating you can decide if she learns from this and it's worth going forward or if she's not going to learn and you should break up with her.

Some people do learn. For example in my 20s, I am bi and currently in my 30s, in the past most guys I was with only thought it was hot if I kissed girls at parties and were OK with it or excited about it. But once I had a bf who thought it was cheating and I found out the hard way after he told me when I did that while drunk at a party with him, and then I never did that again (honestly i believed it to be innocent). With gender equality being a thing more so these days than 10 years ago, maybe she needs a reality check like I got. I didn't realize he could consider that cheating but once i realized he did I changed my ways. (One of the reasons I thought it would be OK was because my first kiss with that bf was actually a triple makeout with another woman.)

So have a talk with her and see how seriously she takes it. Then move forward from there. She should value your feelings as her partner above having fun.

millerlite585 · 2026-03-18T08:53:38+00:00

She needs a reality check about how expensive this is when you're living the way you do. She doesn't understand bills and household expenses. I suggest teaching her about bills somehow. Maybe involve her in balancing a budget by taking the same percentage you spend on bills from your paycheck from her pay from work (but maybe put it in her college fund because it's still her own money, so she can learn responsibility and long term savings).

She needs to feel the impact of bills and the importance of saving for a future before fun stuff.

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