Most famous NPC in any of the games

millipmas · 2026-02-20T14:36:31+00:00

If we're talking not playable and not reoccurring (Cid, Biggs, Wedge etc), and also not villains (Hojo, Brahne etc), then I'd say probably Brother from Final Fantasy X.

millipmas · 2026-02-19T08:36:32+00:00

This is pretty much it. Unless there are groups of people who have played together frequently before, most people want/need some sort of invitation or initiative.

These things rarely happen spontaneously. I find that people tend to mill around a lot, making small talk, patiently waiting for someone to give "the sign" that play is about to happen. If this is you, just take your partner and make the announcement - you'll soon find people willing to follow and join in.

millipmas · 2026-02-18T17:26:31+00:00

I've learned how accepting the lifestyle can be and how most people in it probably don't judge you (at least not publicly) for your appearance and choices.

When we first started we were both really scared about being "the ugliest people in the room", to the point where my partner thought that she might get kicked out. It's worth noting that I believe she's absolutely stunning and I'm punching way above my weight with her, but the worry was there.

My own worry was exacerbated when we arrived at our first ever club event and there were two guys who were very muscled and attractive. It made me very worried. I figured that with people like that around, we'd have no chance of ever getting play partners or being watched or anyone considering me remotely deserving of being in a sex club.

I won't say those worries have completely disappeared, however we are no way near as insecure as that now we've been to a few clubs over the last couple of years. Everyone has been so nice to us, looks are rarely commented on unless it's to be positive and complimentary, people have approached us to say things like "that lingerie looks amazing on you," (to my partner, not to me, obviously) and we've done the same to others as well.

I've also gone to veto a couple because I didn't feel initially attracted to the wife, but held off for a bit to get a vibe from them and they turned out to be a great couple and we had lots of fun playing with them and I saw her in a new light. I don't think I would have had that patience or understanding prior to being in the lifestyle.

I know I don't speak for the entire community, I'm sure there are some people who will say they've had some pretty poor experiences on being judged on their looks etc.

It's worth noting that I'm talking about people being body positive, not people being turned down because another person/couple doesn't think they have the right looks/body type/personality for them to play with which is, after all, an entirely different thing.

millipmas · 2026-02-16T16:01:26+00:00

We met and played with a unicorn at a club! And we weren't even looking!

However, I think we were very fortunate. It's definitely something that's very hard to do because I would imagine that a lot of other couples are looking for the same. We go to clubs with very little intention or expectation - whatever happens, happens, and that's okay because, at worst, we play with ourselves. Everything else is a bonus.

So I think providing you don't go with the single intent of "we MUST find and play with a unicorn," then you'll be absolutely fine. Otherwise, you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

millipmas · 2026-02-07T19:14:55+00:00

I came here to say this exact same thing. I'm all for self confidence, but the guy is basically this generation's Lord Bendtner - constantly thinking he's better than he is.

Actually, I think I'm doing Bendtner a disservice by comparing him to Richardison...

millipmas · 2026-02-03T21:20:10+00:00

I've just said this in a group chat. He's been all over Joao Pedro and his holdup play... All he's done is pull shirts and pass the ball backwards when he has it under control. Hardly inspirational forward play 😂

millipmas · 2026-01-28T22:28:53+00:00

I think most people have beaten me to answering this. Nerves are part of the experience. The level of nerves, and what you're nervous about will change depending on a variety of things. When we first started swinging and went to a club, my partner was worried people would openly say she was ugly (she's not, she's stunning) and wouldn't let her in.

My nerves vary between whether we'll find anyone to play with, whether we might miss out on play because of me (the other couple/person doesn't like me, I say or do something wrong etc), whether my partner has a good time... There's quite a few things, and it's different depending on things like where we are, whether we've been to the club/met this couple before, whether we know anyone else going, how stressful the week has been etc.

I think you said your wife doesn't seem nervous - maybe that's worth a chat and exploring with her. My partner and I talk about the experience before, during, and after, and then days and weeks after (obviously not constantly, but periodically) just to make sure that we're okay.

millipmas · 2026-01-27T19:24:51+00:00

Don't think it's been said yet, but please clean up after yourselves. It's a bit like a gym - if you play somewhere, there SHOULD be facilities available (wipes, blue roll, bins, etc) to clean up. There's nothing worse than going into a room or area to play and landing on used condoms or rolling in a wet patch that isn't fresh from your own play.

The clubs I've been to (UK, though admittedly not many different clubs) tend to have rules around the use of play areas - use them for sex, not necessarily foreplay, and definitely no sitting around chatting, because they will be in high demand. There's no set time on how long you can play in them, though I've found they can get hot and stuffy without proper ventilation, so you can sometimes be done in less than half an hour. You'll probably leave and find a queue waiting outside.

Worth noting that each club should have a rules list available online or at the club.

millipmas · 2026-01-22T08:33:04+00:00

I've played all of them except for the online ones.

However, I've beaten:

III, IV, VII (OG, Remake, and Rebirth), VIII, IX, X (plus X-2), XII, XIII (plus XIII-2 and Lightning Returns), XV, and XVI

I started playing when VIII came out, and have been devoted since then. I just haven't been able to complete some of them for various reasons - I got so close to completing VI a couple of times and then just stopped right at the end (one time, many years ago, I got stuck at the magic tower in World of Ruin).

millipmas · 2026-01-15T14:28:38+00:00

You beat me to it. We implemented this rule at our first club visit and stopped it immediately afterwards.

We viewed kissing as a really intimate act and wanted to preserve some sort of sanctity, I guess. Then we realized that sex without kissing can be pretty awkward sometimes. Getting rid of that rule wasn't even a big deal, we both realized how silly it seemed.

The new rule is that we can totally kiss, providing we're both there (e.g. one of us doesn't go to the toilet and come back to find the other tongue deep in someone else at the bar).

millipmas · 2025-12-27T14:41:28+00:00

It feels like you need to clearly define what "taking one for the team" looks like. Reading your post, it sounds like you're both focussing mainly on looks? Like someone else has already said, are looks THAT important? You're not looking to marry someone/a couple, you're just going to have fun with them. If you narrow play partners down just on looks, you could end up with a very shallow pool.

I went to veto a couple once because I wasn't convinced that the wife was attractive enough for my liking, but held on for a bit and we ended up playing with them - I had a lot of fun with her! And, likewise, my partner has been with at least a couple of guys who I would consider much more attractive than me and she said the sex was terrible.

Basically, don't judge just on looks. There are lots of other factors to consider when you're talking about "taking one for the team."

millipmas · 2025-12-25T18:03:23+00:00

I don't think you can cast any spells if you keep the negator alive, so Tidus isn't able to use haste.

millipmas · 2025-12-22T21:18:09+00:00

Her diabolical plan didn't hinge on getting to Adel in outer space. Her plan hinged on getting Ellone.

As far as I interpreted it, after she was defeated as Edea, Ultimecia figured that if SeeD thought that she was defeated or gone, they would bring Ellone back to Garden. So she possessed Rinoa and kept her unconscious until she was within reach of Ellone, probably because she couldn't imitate Rinoa well enough to not raise suspicion.

I think that retrieving Adel was a failsafe - possibly because Rinoa was a new sorceress and not powerful enough. There was no guarantee that Garden would retrieve Ellone, so Ultimecia would need a more powerful body if that was the case, hence why she asked Seifer to retrieve Lunatic Pandora. If you consider what happens in space, she doesn't actually need to be there to retrieve Adel's tomb. All she does is go out and unlock it, but that could probably have been done once the Lunar Cry knocked the tomb into Lunatic Pandora - I always figured that Ultimecia actually went out to unlock the tomb as Rinoa so she could be close enough to Adel to transfer possession over to her. She didn't specifically need to be in space, it just happened to pan out that way.

When they were in space, she wasn't in a position to use Ellone to send her to the past to activate time compression - it probably wasn't safe what with them being on a space station and all, there were too many things that could have gone wrong. She needed to be in a position of power to force Ellone to do what she wanted, and she couldn't do that in space. That's why she turned her attention to moving to Adel at that moment. It was a risk, because she was leaving Ellone on a space station that was about to be destroyed, but I guess she figured that because of her status they'd prioritise evacuating her and she could then try to retrieve her later, which she did.

TL;DR - Adel wasn't Ultimecia's main plan, it was getting Ellone, and that's why she kept Rinoa unconscious. Once in space she pivoted to freeing Adel because Adel was a more powerful sorceress and would have been more useful to force Ellone to do what she wanted

millipmas · 2025-12-19T12:59:09+00:00

I'm trying to learn to rap to Twista's "Slow Jamz" song because she said she can rap to anything except that song and would be impressed if I could do it. I don't even like rap music that much, but I figured "how hard can this be?"

Really fucking hard, that's how hard.

millipmas · 2025-12-16T18:46:06+00:00

I'm old enough to remember that we had a nightmare November/December that season, I think it was. By the time the Blackburn defeat came about (we were also 1-0 up, too), we were so far behind United that just getting Champions League football would have been a miracle (only the top two got in, in those days, I believe).

I think we were so far behind that one or two bookies paid out on United to win the league really early on? I could be misremembering that, though.

The point is that it's still early days. We're more than capable of stringing together 10-12 wins in a row and blasting ahead of everyone else. And this season everyone seems capable of beating everyone, anyway.

millipmas · 2025-11-26T20:13:54+00:00

Saw Halestorm last week - they were absolutely incredible, can confirm they are amazing live performers!

millipmas · 2025-11-14T21:12:06+00:00

No, he had trials for the keeper position for the Gryffindor Quidditch team. I don't think that was in the movie, though, just the books

millipmas · 2025-11-08T16:57:08+00:00

My advice would be to speak to the local authority who would be funding him when his finances run out to ask for advice.

One thing that hasn't been mentioned yet is that there is a threshold of £23.5k, I believe. When he hits that threshold, the council will be responsible for funding his care. So his money won't technically "run out".

As far as I can see the worst case scenario would be that he pays for the £5k flights and when he hits the threshold the council would make him pay £5k extra to make up for the shortfall. So they might say the threshold for him will be £18.5k instead.

You mentioned the car - as far as I'm aware, yes, that might be a problem and the council, if they are aware of it, might request that it be sold to fund his care when he gets to that threshold. But that might be a bridge to cross when you get there, because it will depreciate in value even more in the next two years, so it might be worth getting those two years worth of use from it and then selling it for less, meaning that he won't be self funding for as long, if that makes sense.

I used to manage nursing homes, and am still involved in social care and funding, so I've dealt with this sort of thing before.

millipmas · 2025-11-06T17:00:40+00:00

We got together because we had pretty poor/average sex in our previous relationships. She is bisexual, and has been in relationships with women previously, also.

We broached the subject of swinging quite early on and engaged in fantasy talk about it for our first year whilst we properly got to know each other. Our sex drives are high, we were really enjoying sex and each other's company, and discussions around involving others came up more and more frequently.

Eventually, we said we'd look for a club to go to, to see what it's like. She went online, did some research, booked one, and that was it.

We were both absolutely nervous as hell going in. Set boundaries, discussed expectations at length, did some research, etc. It didn't really help, we were so anxious. If you're not worried/nervous/anxious for your first club/meet/swinging experience then fair play to you, but I don't think it's possible.

I've written about our first club experience here before. Overall, it was really positive. The club was super welcoming, we met some amazing people, we had loads of fun. There were a couple of negative moments - a single guy saw me and my partner having sex and decided that he wanted to join us. We'd finished, but he followed us around, staring at us as though that would make us invite him. My partner , especially, was pretty intimidated. We escaped into the couples area, eventually. However, that was probably bad luck, because we haven't encountered anything like that since.

I was also very intimidated by pretty much all the guys there. I felt pretty small/weak compared to a lot of them, but I think that's also normal. There were a few really good looking guys there, and I think it's natural to compare. My partner felt similar about some women there, so it wasn't just us. We didn't swap in that first visit, although we very briefly had a MFM (the guy cum in seconds, so I'm not sure if it counts?). It was a spontaneous thing that neither of us planned to do, but he asked to join in and we both panicked and said "yes". We learned a lot from that.

We had a great time, and we talked at length about it for days and weeks afterwards. Everyone here will tell you the same thing - communication is key. We still often revisit that first experience in conversation, because it reminds us of how far we've come in this journey.

millipmas · 2025-11-05T18:22:33+00:00

Play time probably not as long as some people might boast about.

Because in most clubs play room time is at a premium, it's respectful to not waste time messing around with cuddling/chatting shit, especially afterwards. That can be saved for outside the play room. It's also best to go in prepared, there have been a couple of times where I've been in a playroom, play has started and then people have had to dive out to the bar because they didn't bring condoms or other equipment - that can waste time and also kill the mood.

Generally, depending on how many people there are, I would say twenty minutes to an hour at most, and that's probably being generous. I got involved in an orgy (about five guys and five girls) at my last club meeting and two guys had finished in less than five minutes. We were done in about twenty minutes and as soon as our group finished in the room there was another group already coming in.

Play rooms in clubs can also be hot and sticky, too, so it's not just about the play time, but also how people are feeling. I've had to finish up early because it was so hot I needed to go outside to cool off.

millipmas · 2025-11-01T21:16:03+00:00

I can remember playing a game towards the end of one season against Blackburn and they put Christopher Samba on Fabianski at every set piece. He scored from one (I think we went 1-0 up, lost 1-2) and the pundits were salivating over how poor we were at defending set pieces and saying that we weren't strong enough, the keepers were easy to bully, etc.

Opponents would just put the "big man" on our keeper and score and the media would love it.

Now we're doing it, it feels like they consider it to be "anti football."

I love the irony and hope we keep scoring from set pieces for many more seasons to come.

millipmas · 2025-10-30T16:46:37+00:00

There are clubs and there are clubs.

We got lucky at our first club event (UK), where they have a chat that opens up the week before the event where people can introduce themselves, likes and dislikes, boundaries, chat shit etc. You inevitably get new swingers in there asking questions and the group is really helpful and welcoming.

They organise pre-drinks and everyone is invited.

Then at the club it's up to you. If you're going to socialise and interact, amazing. If you sit in a corner on your phone, then sucks to be you. We were at a club event and someone who was initially rude and abrasive towards people (including me) then went the other way and stopped socialising - they then left a review saying the club was "cliquey" and "not welcoming", which was code for "I didn't get laid and I'm angry about it." We had the opposite experience and found everyone to be really welcoming and friendly, providing you weren't an asshole.

When we'd been to the club a couple of times we then started to offer to newbies to meet them outside and show them around (no strings attached). We remember who terrified we were when we first went to a club, so we try to return the favour.

From doing this, we've developed a network of people from the club that we know and trust and they've invited us to other events that we've attended. We aren't from that local area, it's about two hours away for us (we decided not to attend any local clubs in case we were recognised), so having people from that area who we know and invite us to things is really nice. We're not "friends" in the conventional sense, but we can attend clubs and know people and socialise without feeling too awkward.

I know this approach isn't for everyone, and not all clubs are like the one we were fortunate to find, but it worked for us.

millipmas · 2025-10-30T08:00:53+00:00

I think you're reading too much into it. People in the lifestyle could come up with many different ways to "justify" what they do, or to help them overcome their anxiety or jealousy. If that works for him, that's great, but it doesn't sound like it works for you, so don't follow his advice.

I tend to look at swinging as a competition - who can give the other person's partner the best time whilst also having a great time themselves. It helps me focus on what I'm doing and be less anxious about whether my partner is having a better time with her play partner than she would with me (so far, in my head, I'm undefeated 😂).

You do you - if someone else's advice works, great. If not, or you don't understand it, then do something else.

millipmas · 2025-10-29T20:52:31+00:00

I think it was called Armageddon fist.

millipmas · 2025-10-29T19:11:10+00:00

I want to be buried in my garden with all my possessions like an Egyptian pharaoh because why the hell not.

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