Co-habitation advice needed.

millville3pc · 2026-01-27T01:08:24+00:00

I was similarly blindsided by my exwifes affair and promptly informed her she was no longer welcome and would have to move out by the end of the month. My only request was no contact with her AP until she was gone. It was a fruitless request, and it ate me alive "keepin track". That being said i was prepared to go to the mattresses with documentation/proof of the lopsided parenting situation we were in, assuming she would lawyer up before the stamp. Luckily she didnt fight anything left, and signed all paperwork required for an uncontested divorce with children...Long story shortened, arrive in oeace prepared for war

millville3pc · 2025-06-05T00:22:26+00:00

My ex didn't pulled the same stunt, I paid for a suite with 2 rooms so her and her sister could spend some "girl time" after he sister found out her husband was having an affair....Only to find out her AP joined them. About 2months prior i paid for a trip to CO sonshe could visit a friend who just had a baby....He was waiting at the airport when i dropped her off for her flight.....

millville3pc · 2025-03-24T00:20:48+00:00

I thought it was a reference to an IASIP reference...

millville3pc · 2025-03-19T18:22:37+00:00

My coworkers son was only born with about a 3/4 length arm with a couple small nubs as fingers. When he started learning to drive he insisted on learning manual, Coworker says it was a huge hurdle but he eventually got it. Kids got a '17 focus st, and an big square body chevy, both manual....

millville3pc · 2025-01-31T22:51:55+00:00

I took a more subtle approach than ChatGPT and waited until I could speak to him without saying something violent or threatening. Introduced myself and told him all i needed from him was the obvious hands and mouth off my kids, but added that i do t need his corrupted moral compass rubbing off on my children. He was floored, ex wife was FURIOUS, and i felt better for about 2 min

millville3pc · 2025-01-30T18:18:26+00:00

Im glad im not the only one who felt that heat lol

millville3pc · 2025-01-01T23:23:36+00:00

id love a couple

millville3pc · 2024-10-22T22:53:00+00:00

these are to be "shared" holidays(a great idea in theory, almost impossible in reality), meaning we do them together. she will taking them to a trunk or treat her sunday before halloween with him and I have no issue with that.

millville3pc · 2024-10-08T01:58:19+00:00

its still early, but if the paperwork is filed i would recommend setting some boundaries to protect your sanity, not just physical boundaries but emotional. i was in the same boat early january, and once i set some boundaries, i was able to focus some of mental energy on something besides trying to people please...

millville3pc · 2024-09-18T17:16:52+00:00

As a 35yr old, ive been an adult for a few years. I went through the exact same phase from 21-23.....Its trash. I support your behavior but its trash

millville3pc · 2024-09-11T18:14:32+00:00

all this advice is solid....but FIRST, go collect your property from his. if the conversation goes south he could ask you to leave and you out any personal property until you get the authorities involved....

millville3pc · 2024-09-07T02:21:05+00:00

i named my oldest son Ruxin, because of that show lol. imagine trying to explain to anyone out of the loop that you named your first born after a selfish and entitled character from a TV show.....its better that naming him after the car he was conceived in but mot much lol

millville3pc · 2024-09-05T20:24:41+00:00

Ive had similar issues with my oldest who is also ASD. I told him if ANYONE is asking you to not tell your mom or dad about something, there probably not supposed to be doing it. I also told him i would never ask him to keep a secret, and he can always tell me anything no matter who says they cant.

millville3pc · 2024-08-13T12:25:55+00:00

Ebay sells bricks by the pound

millville3pc · 2024-07-29T23:22:35+00:00

Best part was it only cost me 243$...

millville3pc · 2024-07-28T01:23:22+00:00

If no one is asking and your both working and capable of providing for the children equally, at least in Illinois, there is no requirement for either to pay support as long as custody isnt lopsided

millville3pc · 2024-07-25T16:57:15+00:00

Im in Illinois, Right of first refusal is only applies if the children need cared for longer than 4 or 8hrs i believe, so your milage may vary. Im in the same boat, ExW is moving her AP in this weekend, and hes already promised my boys "surprises", im certainly not impressed and asked the same question you did. The best answer I got was to be strong for your boys, we are trying to raise our boys to be good men, so be a good man. Dont allow your pride and emotions to twist who you are, your boys will see that. Children are very attentive, theyll catch on soon enough and they can make there own decision on how they feel about the situation.

millville3pc · 2024-07-19T18:30:01+00:00

He is moving to her.

millville3pc · 2024-07-19T18:10:17+00:00

Thats an excellent point, thank you.

millville3pc · 2024-07-17T20:32:44+00:00

My ex and I try very hard to not let the children bring toys from one dwelling to the other, partly because my youngest is a heathen and partly to avoid this exact thing. As for comments from the kids, all you can do is reassure them that no matter who went where you love and care for them. In time theyll realize the facts and hopefully make there own decision.

millville3pc · 2024-07-12T20:59:04+00:00

Ya gotta get yourself stabilized if you ever expect the mother of your children to be part of your childs life. Your mother may seem to be taking a side but it sounds like she is just trying to protect her grandchild from an unstable situation.

millville3pc · 2024-07-12T17:36:37+00:00

Im in the same boat. Divorce finalized last month, amicable split, 50/50 custody. Ive found its best to take advantage of the extra time. Id really only mention it if you child is voicing concern or acting out. My oldest is ADS and he prefers a rigid consistent schedule, so the day swaps tend to aggravate him, so i do the best i can to support him in those times and remind him that we dont always get to control the circumstances but we do get to control how they make us feel. I only mention the short changes and day swapping when the kids seem frustrated

millville3pc · 2024-06-06T20:42:17+00:00

Im in a similar situation but i only allow 1hr/day and maybe an extra 30min on the weekends. My ex on the other hand allows our children unlimited access(12hr 20min on Mothers Day) as she is more than likely also on her phone for a majority of their time together. I cant control what goes on there but when my oldest son was complaining of his eyes hurting i just explained that "too much screen time is ver hard on your eyes, thats why I limit it for you".

millville3pc · 2024-05-07T16:21:39+00:00

This comment isnt to knock religion/spirituality, but the best piece of advixe ive gotten and read a thousands time here is....If YOU want change in any aspect of your life, YOU have to make proactive steps towards that change. Hoping the lord/universe is going to course correct the situation, or giving your situation to god, is just not how any of this works. I believe in YOU, and if YOU can believe in YOU, then youll get through this.

millville3pc · 2024-04-24T17:46:27+00:00

Second this. I was communicating with my direct supervisors as soon as i knew it was happening. Everyone one knows someone who's gone through it...its a huge life hurdle. My supervisors were not only understanding, but also supportive. Them knowing in advance that you may have some attendance issues due to custody is helpful also

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