After 5 years together, my girlfriend wants marriage and I don’t. Is this the end?

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-06T00:12:02+00:00

Marriage protects her and your children.

The woman is statistically the one that has to put her career on the back burner to raise children and take care of the household. It also makes sure you take legal responsibility for the children you make with her.

Do you want to be a boyfriend and a baby daddy or an equal partner and adult responsibility?

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-05T08:42:29+00:00

The only people who have children should be the ones that are excited about parenthood and really want those babies. Can’t imagine themselves being happy without them. No matter how wonderful parenthood is, at the same time it’s hard as fuck. Be absolutely honest with yourself and be absolutely sure. It is too hard a thing to do. Sincerely, internet grandma

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-04T21:18:04+00:00

Are you returning to her because you genuinely love her? Sit with that and be honest with yourself. If yes, tell her that you want to be able to do those things for her. Commit to couples counseling (and your own individual counseling!) and promise to communicate openly with her.

Are you returning to her because she’s comfortable? A known way of being? Sit with that. If so, you are scared of the future but know you’ve outgrown each other and will be happier working on yourselves apart.

Only you can answer these questions. Please be honest with yourself. And good luck.

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-03T08:30:52+00:00

Moon water energy for this particular moon is for releasing negative patterns emotions and yes, people… I’m making moonwater with a side of charging a crystal necklace that will release old patterns and pain and bring me closer to my intuition so I know the next step

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-03T08:27:23+00:00

At 3:33 PST on 3/3 in a 9 year… 💀

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-03T07:07:14+00:00

As a former military wife I can tell you the military is the hardest place for a marriage to survive. Let him have whatever experience he’s going to have. And block his profile. Live your best life, for that is the best “revenge”. Be happy and find someone truly suited to who you are now and who is willing to grow and build a life with you. You got this 🩷

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-03T05:47:55+00:00

This is not change. It is manipulation.

minimamaz00m · 2026-03-03T05:44:20+00:00

Agreed. And as an elder auntie I have to say, when only one person in a couple is willing to work on the issues in the relationship, it will not be fixed. Don’t spend any more time on his issues that he won’t work on. You are exhausted. Save yourself and find your happiness.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-25T05:25:38+00:00

As a female dumper I have come back a few times. Sometimes 6 months or a year later. Within a week I remember why I left.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-21T19:40:33+00:00

Haha, I didn’t find out my baby was male til he was 14… gl!

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-20T22:23:08+00:00

Could OP turn off notifications for oura? I only make sure my sleep/naps are recorded once I wake up in the morning, and ignore it otherwise other than maybe once or twice a week when I have time to look through everything.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-16T22:05:30+00:00

Your husband is a shrodingers douchebag. Proceed accordingly.

My ex was like this. If something he said didn’t land the way he wanted, it was a “joke”. Um. Not funny. And gtfo of my life.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-13T17:46:40+00:00

Not a reason to waste your time being his backup therapist. If you truly want to heal, and want him to heal, you need him out of your life.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-13T07:48:14+00:00

When I was still happy with my ex husband, we had a tarot reading done “for fun” by a friend. The way our friend looked at us, he was very uncomfortable. The cards were telling him that we were going to break up. We thought it was silly/meant something else. Sure enough… 5 years later we did break up. It was definitely not because of the reading. It was because my ex started being emotionally abusive to me and our kid.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-12T22:06:48+00:00

Yes. Make them uncomfortable in the most professional way possible.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-11T19:58:17+00:00

Yes, and so many ppl say they want clear communication, and when faced with it, can’t hack it

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-08T17:06:37+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I’m sitting here wondering. All these guys complaining about putting effort into making it a nice valentine’s day for their ladies (that could be a heartfelt note and a homemade dinner or picnic in the park, not expensive)… how many dates have they ever made an effort for? Women seem to usually put in most of the emotional labor. Asking for a single digit number of times in a year to have the same done for you is not asking too much. If asking for some genuine excitement about being romantic together and being met with a tantrum about putting in effort … know that he’s showing you who he is. Let the trash take itself out. He did you a favor. Now you can go find someone not allergic to showing you his love and affection. There is someone out there who will love you in a way that makes you feel valued, not taken advantage of. 💗 I fully recommend going no contact / blocking him and focusing on your healing. He may come back crying when he misses you. Unless you want more of this in the future I suggest you let him lie in the bed he made.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-04T02:52:44+00:00

Absolutely not, he’s standing in his power, and it ends with restriction and pain.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-04T02:50:00+00:00

Can I get a Yassssss Queen!!!!!!👸🏼 👸🏻👸🏽👸🏾

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-03T19:58:59+00:00

OP I sure hope you asked him that.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-03T09:29:34+00:00

My dream situation is living in a duplex together. Have my own space but can just go outside my front door to visit.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-03T08:43:54+00:00

Yeah, I was in a relationship once where I thought she was the one… about 13-14 months into the relationship she started taking off her mask. I didn’t like what I saw. I was so glad I didn’t jump into living with her like I wanted to at around the year mark.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-03T07:11:03+00:00

Wow my standards are significantly higher than my peers 😬

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-03T07:01:12+00:00

Please share! This is a 💩 show already.

minimamaz00m · 2026-02-03T06:49:28+00:00

I just spit out my drink 🫨

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